bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Hi guys, I wrote someone a message on facebook who I liked in high school, no it isn't Brooke. Her name is Tiffany, she told me in high school that she thought I was cute and I looked at her profile and it said she was single. If we meet each other though, she has a kid and I don't really care for kids, but as a mother she would choose her daughter over me and of course she would. If we get reacquainted, should I tell her the kid issue or should I keep my mouth shut?
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Ah, no. If you have a problem with kids, that's YOUR issue not hers therefore stay away. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Do not take this beyond being FB friends. There's no point. You are not going to magically like kids. She is not going to get rid of her son. Do not meet this woman. Just don't.
GeorgeWP93 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Why are you even asking the question? You don't like kids, her child will be her priority. Don't waste your own and her time.
Author bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 Ah, no. If you have a problem with kids, that's YOUR issue not hers therefore stay away. This girl was interested in me in high school though and I can handle her having a kid. I would do it for her.
Author bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 Do not take this beyond being FB friends. There's no point. You are not going to magically like kids. She is not going to get rid of her son. Do not meet this woman. Just don't. Her kid is grown though, she was interested in me in high school and this could be an opportunity with is to reconnect.
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Her kid is grown though, she was interested in me in high school and this could be an opportunity with is to reconnect. How far out of high school are you? From your post I got the impression that the kid was a toddler at best & you were in your early 20s. If high school was long enough ago that her son is grown, the fact that she thought you were "cute" 20 years ago is not a basis for a relationship. The walk down memory lane may be a reason to get together. However, the fact remains, she has a son. Does he live with her? Does she support him? Are those things going to be a source of friction in a relationship? What if the son has kids? Are you going to be OK playing grandpa?
Author bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 How far out of high school are you? From your post I got the impression that the kid was a toddler at best & you were in your early 20s. If high school was long enough ago that her son is grown, the fact that she thought you were "cute" 20 years ago is not a basis for a relationship. The walk down memory lane may be a reason to get together. However, the fact remains, she has a son. Does he live with her? Does she support him? Are those things going to be a source of friction in a relationship? What if the son has kids? Are you going to be OK playing grandpa? It was only 10 years ago and she has a daughter, she's about maybe 10 or 11.
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 It was only 10 years ago and she has a daughter, she's about maybe 10 or 11. My original advice stands. Stay away from this woman. If you don't like kids, getting involved with a young mother is a recipe for a disaster.
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 This girl was interested in me in high school though and I can handle her having a kid. I would do it for her. Then I don't understand what you want from us. You clearly state you DO NOT like kids but want to get reacquainted with an old high school crush who has a child. Your opening post is asking if you should mention to her that you DON'T enjoy children or keep your mouth shut. Now you're going backtracking saying you'd 'do it for her'. Which is it? What are you really asking from us? We've all given you advice based on your opening post. If you really don't have an issue with kids after a certain age then why be so dramatic in your opening post?
Popsicle Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Yes tell her the kid issue. She needs to know.
Author bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 Yes tell her the kid issue. She needs to know. Now that I think about it, I can live with it. Remember all of this will be moot if she doesn't answer me back on fb.
GunslingerRoland Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Again, I don't get you Brad. You are once again zoning in on a girl who said something nice to you a decade ago and in this case, someone who clearly isn't right for you since she has a kid and you don't like kids. I repeat what I said to you in your other thread. You need to meet new women. Hiding in your basement thinking about women who you used to know in school in decades gone by isn't healthy. 3
Author bradt93 Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 Again, I don't get you Brad. You are once again zoning in on a girl who said something nice to you a decade ago and in this case, someone who clearly isn't right for you since she has a kid and you don't like kids. I repeat what I said to you in your other thread. You need to meet new women. Hiding in your basement thinking about women who you used to know in school in decades gone by isn't healthy. First of all I'm not hiding in my "basement" Also, I asked about joining a club at my university so I can have an opportunity to socialize.
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 I asked about joining a club at my university so I can have an opportunity to socialize. Do that. Go forward in your life to new people. High school is over. Besides with new women at your university you have a chance to find somebody who doesn't have kids.
GunslingerRoland Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 First of all I'm not hiding in my "basement" Also, I asked about joining a club at my university so I can have an opportunity to socialize. Here is what you said in your last post "I don't go out and meet women, I stay in my room a lot and do homework. I don't really socialize with anyone" If that has changed, I am very happy to hear it. I think the club is a great idea for you. 2
elaine567 Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Her kid is not "grown", her kid is only about 10. She will still need a lot of looking after and if you get with her mother you will need to do your bit in looking after her too. If you don't really like children how do you think this will play out? Frankly I think you need to pass on this. ALSO I thought a few guys were "cute" in HS, but I guess few of them would float my boat now. We grow up, our tastes change.
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