Author what456 Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 i m done waiting. he says that he is over her..but is not over what she did to him....so...i am going to move on..i waited for a long time...
ConfusedInOC Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by what456 i m done waiting. he says that he is over her..but is not over what she did to him....so...i am going to move on..i waited for a long time... How long have you waited?
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 are you going to the wedding as his date? I sure hope not. Is there a way you can avoid him or just ignore him even if he tries to talk to you, just give him a look like "i see your lips moving but all hear is blah blah" then walk away in the middle of his sentence. OR maybe NOT go to the wedding at all if u can get away with it. Do something else that's fun for you.
Author what456 Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 all i know is that it hurts me to hear him say that and i just don't want to talk to him. i wish i didn't go to that wedding..but i have to. i feel so stupid and scared. i have this pit feeling in my stomach. i just wish none of this ever happened to me.
ConfusedInOC Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by what456 a year If you love this guy, sit him down and give him an ultimatum. "Go to a Counselor and work out your issues or I am leaving you..." Harsh, but factual. You deserve his love if you are loving him. But if you feel there is the possibility of love there and you want to try and work something out, get a commitment from him that he'll fix his head....
alphamale Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC If you love this guy, sit him down and give him an ultimatum. ultimatums almost always backfire
Author what456 Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 ALPHMALE...what do you think? move on maybe?
alphamale Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by what456 ALPHMALE...what do you think? move on maybe? yes, there are many other fish in the sea.
ConfusedInOC Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale ultimatums almost always backfire So the alternative is to leave him anyway, right? I see no harm in COMMUNICATING with your s/o that you are unhappy with his inability to get over what happened to him. It'll effect him in EVERY relationship, not just this one. I believe that it's to her advantage to give him the ultimatum. If he refuses, then she knows he really doesn't care enough about her to fix his problem and she can move on knowing she gave it her best shot. I see a win/win here.
Bacardi Silver Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I don't get it. This guy is a bad guy because he says he DOESN'T love you and you know it is true. So who is the stupid one, him or you for staying with him?
scratch Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by Bacardi Silver I don't get it. This guy is a bad guy because he says he DOESN'T love you and you know it is true. What456, why does it hurt if he's telling you something you know to be true moreso than it would hurt if you knew it were true without it being said? If I read this right, you think he keeps telling you that he doesn't love you to hurt you. What does "keeps telling you" mean, exactly? I've told women things like "you have to understand, I don't see this going anywhere" or "I can't see us as boyfriend and girlfriend." I never felt that I was being mean, but rather giving them full information so they wouldn't be hurt.
Author what456 Posted July 26, 2005 Author Posted July 26, 2005 All, "keep telling me" means that he brings it out of no where out of the blue. we won't even be talking about it and he says it. ok, i know..so why say it over and over again? now that's mean... we are not together but rather in the middle of things... i saw him this weekend..and tell ME why he kept trying to talk to me..STARE at me (according to my friends), would smile and went out of his way to TALK to me..i didn't even give him the time of day (thanks MERIN)... i don't know what will happen next but for now i am happy...thanks again MERIN
mental_traveller Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by Bacardi Silver I don't get it. This guy is a bad guy because he says he DOESN'T love you and you know it is true. So who is the stupid one, him or you for staying with him? I agree. If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks - it's probably a duck.
Merin Posted July 27, 2005 Posted July 27, 2005 Originally posted by what456 All, "keep telling me" means that he brings it out of no where out of the blue. we won't even be talking about it and he says it. ok, i know..so why say it over and over again? now that's mean... we are not together but rather in the middle of things... i saw him this weekend..and tell ME why he kept trying to talk to me..STARE at me (according to my friends), would smile and went out of his way to TALK to me..i didn't even give him the time of day (thanks MERIN)... i don't know what will happen next but for now i am happy...thanks again MERIN You're Welcome Girl
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