Why is there a double standard on girls scheduling multiple dates in same day?

[Newcitygirl]

Guys do it all the time. No one bats an eye. The moment a girl does it guys freak out. We have to guard our hearts as well.

 

I was supposed to have a 2nd date with a guy I really liked. 2 hours before the date he uses work as an excuse. So I had a second date also planned. Thankfully it worked out.

 

Why is it seems like a sin when we double book in a night yet guys get a pat on the back?

 

I was still able to have a good time in the result of essentially being stood up.

[coolheadal]

That's a bad he did that too you. I keep my dates but the women I know make excuses why they can't leave the house. Yesterday was such a nice day to go out too. This guy seems to have more important things to do (might be seeing other women) who just don't know what he's doing. Well you should have several too just in case so you don't have to hanging around waiting him. You are not second fiddle.

[smackie9]

Men pat men on the back and women are envious of women who get to go out on many dates. I don't see a double standard. Never heard of women being shunned for multi-dating. It seems to be the norm, especially since the introduction of OLD.

[mortensorchid]

I don't think there truly is a double standard for men and women to multi-date. I've done it in the past when I was OLDing (meet one one night, the second the next, etc.). It's fine to do what you like, it's about having a good time and making you happy after all. Or as long as no one sees you as spreading an STD by going from place to place. Men have done it for years (ex. The Little Black Book), I think women can do it as well. If you are discrete about it, that is don't talk about it much, it's a standard now.

[Shining One]

OP, I'm a bit confused. Did you schedule two dates in advance for the same time slot? I've planned two dates on the same night, but they are hours apart. I've known women to do the same and never judged them for it. However, I would frown upon someone (man or woman) planning two dates for the exact same time.

 

Did the first guy freak out when he found out you had another date that night?

[NuevoYorko]

I don't think there's a double standard about that.

[dumbass2]

I've never scheduled two on the same day or night, but I see no problem with it if they are scheduled hours apart and are a first date. I don't think I'd do that to someone I'm wanting to go out with a second time. If I went on a second date with a woman and she didn't tell me ahead of time that she had something else planned after and sprung it on me, there probably wouldn't be a third date. If it's a second date, I'm assuming if things are going well again, that there is no time limit unless there is work early the next day. As always, poor communication can kill a potential relationship before it begins.

[Gr8fuln2020]

Age-old expectations and perceptions. My experience is that more men multi-date than women, but double-standard....hmmmm....

 

Some guys will consider such ladies as "loose" or "hoes" or "b......" Those guys are typically those who have a very bitter view of women. And of course, society gives men the standard of man-hood or prowess the more ladies they have on their arms. Women, well, something else all together. Not sure from whom this double standard is coming, but to deny that society has a different view regarding a woman vs. a man having multiple partners is not being entirely truthful.

[Newcitygirl]

OP, I'm a bit confused. Did you schedule two dates in advance for the same time slot? I've planned two dates on the same night, but they are hours apart. I've known women to do the same and never judged them for it. However, I would frown upon someone (man or woman) planning two dates for the exact same time.

 

Did the first guy freak out when he found out you had another date that night?

 

 

No. Our date was at 630pm and this other guy was going to be drinks at 1030. So plenty of time to get to point A and B with out describing the events as dates. Clearly it is Old and we are all going to be dating other people.

[Mrin]

No. Our date was at 630pm and this other guy was going to be drinks at 1030. So plenty of time to get to point A and B with out describing the events as dates. Clearly it is Old and we are all going to be dating other people.

 

Totally nothing wrong with it and no double standard in my book. I've been k own to triple schedule from time to time. Back in my dating days.

[Shining One]

No. Our date was at 630pm and this other guy was going to be drinks at 1030. So plenty of time to get to point A and B with out describing the events as dates. Clearly it is Old and we are all going to be dating other people.

I don't see anything wrong with this. I've done similar and so have many of the women I've dated. How did the first guy react?

[KBob]

Guys do it all the time. No one bats an eye. The moment a girl does it guys freak out. We have to guard our hearts as well.

 

I was supposed to have a 2nd date with a guy I really liked. 2 hours before the date he uses work as an excuse. So I had a second date also planned. Thankfully it worked out.

 

Why is it seems like a sin when we double book in a night yet guys get a pat on the back?

 

I was still able to have a good time in the result of essentially being stood up.

 

I'm confused. He bailed because he found out you had another date lined up?

[Newcitygirl]

I'm confused. He bailed because he found out you had another date lined up?

 

No he never found out. Just was talking about this with my guy friends. I have no idea why he canceled last minute to be honest.

[KBob]

No he never found out. Just was talking about this with my guy friends. I have no idea why he canceled last minute to be honest.

 

OK gotcha. I don't feel there's a double standard either, in fact it seems like multiple dating, especially with OLD, is the standard in North America. I, myself wouldn't line up multiple dates in the same day or night just in case the first one went well and we wanted to keep it going.

[Newcitygirl]

OK gotcha. I don't feel there's a double standard either, in fact it seems like multiple dating, especially with OLD, is the standard in North America. I, myself wouldn't line up multiple dates in the same day or night just in case the first one went well and we wanted to keep it going.

 

 

I had a feeling the guy would be flakey. So that is why I doubled booked.

[KBob]

I had a feeling the guy would be flakey. So that is why I doubled booked.

 

I'm not judging, how many times per day/people at a time is completely a personal preference.

[Pill]

I have no problem with women multi-dating as long as I'm not the one paying for dates.

 

I'd be more concerned with the lust for victimization, that would make me run for the hills far more.

[losangelena]

I had a feeling the guy would be flakey. So that is why I doubled booked.

 

I don't get what the big deal is; who is giving you flack for this?

 

I will say that you should generally heed that feeling if you think they're going to be flakey. Years ago, I was supposed to meet up with a friend in Prague. Knowing there'd be a chance he'd find a reason to leave before I got there, I invited my brother along (we were visiting about part of Europe anyway), and sure enough my friend bailed and flew back to Canada the day before I was set to arrive. Good thing I invited my brother!

 

Anyway, point is, good for you for being savvy. Don't listen to anyone who wants to naysay. Eff the haters, as they say.