Girlfriend of 3 months is acting flaky

[Williamjacob]

I had meet woman off OkCupid back in November 2016. At the time I didn't realized she had smoked so much. She told me she wasn't much of a smoker just after her second husband drove to smoke so much today. In the early stages of getting to know her was pretty good. I had taken her out for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Even though I a very good cook in the kitchen I haven't made her anything yet? All did one day was to bring me some potato salad that she had made from leftover party. Now every time she comes over she drives right by my every time. Once I was outside in my vehicle and I had seen her drive right back me. The oddest thing. I had asked her why she said the GPS told her I live in the back? Beside the longer time to get to me this is what's really going on.

 

She works for food chain as a general manager, for 15 years, works very hard and I don't mind that she does that. She can only me on Mondays after she brings her 14 year old daughter to school. Then she would drive over to my house. If your wondering have I ever been to her house nope! Why? Because she told I am not allowed to go there until 6 months have past. She said she didn't want to put the kids through what she had already with the other men and two failed marriages. When she some over one Monday's I am glad to see her welcome her in give her hug and kiss. Then she stands there like she's either shy or has some wrong with her in her head. She stares and grins at me. Looks like shes dazed and confused?

 

I walk her over to my living room couch and she sits there and I try all my best to get her to loosen up. I say anything wrong and she always as to me "No my name". I don't push it because I don't want her to get upset. One day she told me about her 3 kids. The oldest doesn't live with her because he had did drugs and got himself into trouble. He's 18 years old and lives with her cousin. She had to get him thrown out with the law. That one and the other son has issues two she said he had overdose on drugs twice also has ADHD. I didn't know much about ADHD, so I had to get educated on that disorder. But I was wondering who else had ADHD? So she said all 3 kids have ADHD and including her too! Boy I was shocked!!!

 

You might want to know when she comes over she wants to go into my bedroom. The rest I don't have to talk about. Let say after we're done she wants to grab her things and leave. This has been going on for every visit. Only once did she watch a movie with me. She doesn't want to go out at all just stay indoors. I don't have a problem doing that, but all the time. A few times I had taken her to some groups I belong with but she seems bored or dazed and confused. Once there was a function at the beach, she had drop me off and told me to go to my group she was going to park the car. But she never came back. I felt she had abandon me there. That would freak me out. So I left my group and started looking for her and I couldn't find her in that event my cell phone fell and got smashed badly. Once I did find her I said what happen? She said she didn't know how to use the parking meter machine in the dark. I told her I could have help her.

 

Once we got settle my close friend as me was she ok? I say why because he felt like she had some issues because the ways she was acting with a blank stare and that daze and confused look. She had go up a few times and had told me she would be back. I ran after her once and she said she had to take a smoke! She smokes a lot but never in front of me or at my house or even in the car. I know she smokes in the car she always sprays something to kill the scent.

 

The 16 year old son who lives with her overdose one day and she had to take him in and he wasn't coming out for 30 days. She said that changed the time she could spend with me. Most of the time we had met near her house in a Super Market parking lot late at night. But that was on Wednesday, Friday and Sunday all nights. I would hear from her more too even text and calls now today nothing like that is going on. She won't tell me what's on her mind!

 

She and older sister would get into fights then she would take it out on me. She's really out of mind when that happen. One time she gone over her sister to use the computer. I told her she could come here I have plenty of computers here. I only live 5 to 10 minutes from her. Her sister is like 45 minutes from her. This women she doesn't use the toll roads at all she said something happen to her. What happen is she has so many fines and there not all paid up yet.

 

Once she came over she was suppose to take me to get her something to eat but once we had got there she acted up like she didn't want to go again. She yells out I going back to the car you can buy what you want I don't want anything. I told I don't want anything either. So that night she just drove me back home then, she didn't want to stay a while because she was hungry! I had offered to make her some but again she said NO my name" She gave me no hugs or no kisses good bye. Since then I haven't seen her and that was the mid-week this month.

 

Oh she won't call me on the phone, she said something was wrong with with her phone. Once she was her I called her phone it was right next to me. My phone said her phone was ringing but there was no nothing on her phone saying I was calling. She claims she didn't block my calls or force the call not to appear. Her sister and job can get to her but I can't? I can't even leave her voice message either. I can only text her. Now you might wonder if I was able to do this before yes with lenders phone she had the one she use now sent back in for repairs.

 

This past Monday I had sent her text saying Hi! She had answered back Hi! I was wondering if you were coming over to see me today. She said NO my name. She had to go to the dentist. I had asked her if she was doing okay. She said she was up to this point? I had said how so or what do you mean by that statement? She said the washing machine was broken and she was so upset about it.

 

Because of this she didn't come over I had ordered to help fix or replace it? She refused again saying NO my name! She told me she was very independent and didn't need my help. Cold but what can I do? That same day I told her when you leave the dentist come and get me. We can go together to go pickup a new or used washing machine? Then no reply back from her. Later on she said she was leaving the dentist but was already past my are and going to faith farm. I told her to wait there I'll be on my way. When I got to faith farm, she was wondering around in the parking lot. I toot the horn a few times she turned around dazed and confused and waved but not the type of wave you would do if you really missed the person. Then she had jumped into her car. I drove around and walk out in front of her she rolled the window and say NO my name, I say what you doing she said I need a washing machine.

 

There is more but let this end her.. Continue on later.. Thanks for reading giving me some clues to what I should do with her?

[Williamjacob]

Part 2

 

After she and I drove off from the faith farm she was driving almost reckless I had text her I was right behind her following her. No reply back. But then I did get one when I said drive to my house? She said NO my name she had to get a washing machine. I telling you her driving was really bad silly me driving to keep up with her. I felt she was trying to loose me in traffic. Now I could see she was driving near her house which I never been too. But I didn't know there was a Good Will near her. That's where we both ended up. She had turned in and parked and I was a few cars parked form her. I parked and rush out to her. She didn't even wait for me. I had called out her name but then she turned about looking like she was in a fog more dazed and confused.

 

I said to her what's wrong with you? She said NO NOT NOW my name. There wasn't any washing machines there I knew that before we had gone into good will. When we had left the store she raced back to her car. I said please wait! I haven't seen you in over 3 weeks, what's going on. She said there is so much but couldn't tell me about it. Again No hugs no kiss no nothings just blank stare at me at times she wasn't even looking at me. I did notice she had change her hair color and style I told her she look so nice! She said Yes my name that's it. I had offered again to drive her instead of her driving but she said NO my name she didn't need my help she could do this on her own. So I had back down and let her. I told her to call and text me if you find what you was looking for. I would go to Lowes and Homedepot for you. She said fine.. Goodbye.

 

She drove off quick even though there was speed bumps in the parking lot. I knew which direction she was going in she was going home. I drove home but did check out the two stores for her and text her back the info. She did answer my text. From this point all of the rest of the afternoon into the late night she text so much right after me. Told me what was happening.. But again I asked her if you wanted over to help she said NO my name again.

 

She and her son manged to fix the issue she said her ex-husband was the last to work on this washing machine looks like he had left his calling card in the water pump that caused the washing machine not function not pumping out the water. So the next issue was the ice maker I have lots experience with that. I feel she doesn't want me to help her. So I let this go. I told her go and get some rest you have to get to work at 6:30 am and had said good night.. She answered back Ok night.. That was the last time I've heard from her.

 

Her issues

 

1. Fast Food Chain She manages has been taken over my another company.

2. She can't pay her bills so she started to work more hours over 60 hours.

3. She can't couple having a relationship, taking care of the kids and working.

4. She wanted some time so I gave it too her. To me I think she's okay just needs to take her time. I see and her boss gone out for dinner, I know she can make the time for us but she doesn't anymore. I can only do what I can folks.

5. She told me the way she is her ex-husband made her unhappy and just blah.

6. Her last BF left because of her 16 year old son chase him away. How with a cat and that caused him to have breathing issues. She didn't stand up for the BF so that was it with him.

7. Ex-husband was a thief and the first ex-husband was a drunk.

 

I think I've covered enough about her and me. Tomorrow if I don't get a text from her then I know she might has well forgot all about me. I've tried text and explain to her in person. But not about this past week. Once I told her I would buy gas for car she was so worried not having money to go too work. She even came out there in her PJs late at night almost 12 midnight. She was all over me so friendly holding hands, but she didn't take a bath and smells like she had beef on her from job. She said she didn't feel like washing up. Oops!

 

With me

1. Her kids with chase me away if I go to her house

2. Can't reach her on the phone and no voice messages

3. Can't go to her job either

4. Offered her to go out many times before all this happen she said NO

5. She wants to be with me but is scared!

 

That's all Folks!

[smackie9]

She's a hot mess.....you don't need that kind of drama. She may give you a little taste here and there but it's not worth it. She got baggage. Move on.

[Williamjacob]

Finally broke-up after last Friday she was suppose to show-up?

I said to her remember tonight you and I was going to watch the comedy movie together. I figured that watching such a movie would help with her ADHD.

 

First message her said - Yes I am not slow.

 

I had just asked her was she on her way?

She said When did I say I was coming over there tonight?

 

OMG I said..

This ended up in a huge fight!!!

Now it's all over she kept on comparing me to her ex husband. I told her I wasn't him he had stole all her gold. He was in jail on 50 counts. I thought he was out already. So I had said your back with our ex and she was upset because I said that to her. This gone on for a few hours. Well no more ghosting from her she was text more than ever now. Real mean but I was real mean back. I had enough of her and her ADHD, can't handle this anymore and her.

 

She was saying please stop.

I should have listen but I was in a rage...

I had blocked her phone and sms but she still managed to get through.

I told her I will never talk to her again after all that was said. If I see her on the street I will not talk to her. Do not ever contact me again.