Insecure

[Jennycat]

I have been seeing a wonderful man for almost 7 months. I was married once and widowed at a pretty young age nearly a decade ago. He's my very first serious relationship since then. Sure, I've dated, but I haven't been ready to commit until now. He's been divorced a long time but had a very bad breakup just over a year ago. We both have kids. He has serious trust issues, but I think he's coming around. He tells me he loves me, and when we're together I have no doubt, although he is fairly reserved...he doesn't go overboard with his exclamations of love, but he has done so many things to show me he wants me in his life long term.

 

We live far apart and I don't see him nearly as often as I'd like to. I miss him terribly when we're not together. I don't hear him telling me he misses me and I don't get that he feels any urgency to see me.

He tells me there's no one else in his life and I believe him, but I don't hear the words "I love you" and "I miss you" often enough. He doesn't call every day. Am I just being paranoid? He is so busy, caring for his kids, who live with him, and dealing with a demanding career. We see each other on weekends, but usually only on Saturday night. I want so much more. I want to be in his life more. I'm trying to be patient, but during the week I start having serious doubts about his feelings for me.

 

Can someone give me an opinion on this?

[JS17]

your problem sounds like more of a long distance relationship issue...you might want to check out some of the threads in that forum.

 

i was in this situation last year. i think actions speak louder than words.

[Jennycat]

Not really long distance. He's only 30 miles away, but with our work schedules and the kids, it's difficult to get together during the week.

 

His actions tell me he loves me. Am I wrong to want the words as well? The words help to bridge the gap between the times we can be together. At least, for me they do.