my_manda Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Back in November 04', I ran into a guy I had known early on in college. He actually called me a few times, and then asked me out. I did not go, I was ending a relationship at the time, and felt as if the timing was not right. We did not talk again until about eight weeks ago when he called me out of the blue to see how I was doing. From then on, we have talked regularly. He is a Pediatric Resident so he works nuts hours. Well, over the 4th of July weekend we talked the Sunday evening before the 4th. He had just worked a forty hour shift at the hospital. That was the last time we talked for a week and a half. He called last Thursday and stated he had a family emergency and had been virtually living at the hospital (this part is true). Well, he came over and took me out that night, and things went well. We ended up having sex, and he called on his way home that night, the next morning, the next night, etc. He called the next morning, as usual, on his way into the hospital, and that evening as well. I did not hear from him Saturday, but I did on Sunday. He has called me in the morning, but not in the evening this week. What gives with this guy? Is he interested? Why is he so aloof, he calls alot, but does not make efforts to see me and I feel he should pursue seeing each other at this point since he is the guy. Please advise! He tells me he is not talking to anyone else, etc. He is 30 and has not had a relationship/sex in three and half years! I am 28. I realize he has been in medical school and is now a resident, but I cannot figure out what he wants. Getting information out of him in a subtle fashion does not work, and he does not talk much about his future. Thanks!!!!!
Merin Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Sounds like he's interested to me He is still calling you like mad.. and while I can understand you're wanting to see him more often and spend time with him, as you've already said he has a crazy work schedule and just a sidenote in some cases I do think people use that as an excuse to not make plans or spend time but in this case I don't think so... as I said he is still calling you all of the time right? With that said.. it could be that a relationship with this Guy may not be for you.. as he does seem to be very busy with his work and if that is something that bothers you this may not be your match.. however I guess I would suggest speaking with him.. asking him when the 2 of you can make some plans to spend some time together.. have you talked with him about being exclusive or has he mentioned this to you?
Author my_manda Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 Thanks.....I have not initiated much because I feel like the ball is in his court and I do subscribe to the theory that a guy needs to be the leader initially. However, this morning he did not call. I am weirded out because intially he would call in the evenings, etc. Now he is calling, but in the mornings on his way to work. It is just strange to me. I almost feel as if he is tapering off. I have decided that if he does in fact disappear for a week and a half again like he did last time, then I am not going to pursue this. I know he is busy, but I also believe no man is an island, and if you liked someone you would make time for them. I also forgot to mention that during the month of July he has had clinic all month, so he is more 9-5 M-F, and then weekends he works at the hospital. However, my thing is that I work longer than 9-5 M-F as a Buyer, yet I still have time to give during the week. My dad is a doctor so I understand how their schedules work, and that all his weekend errands have to be accomplished on the weekdays, but tell me what you think...... He has not had sex for three and half years, he finally gets it after a very long hiatus and he is not making a contingent effort to make sure he gets it again soon. To me it is just odd. Please help! I need all your sound advice and appreciate feedback from neutral parties!
alphamale Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by my_manda My dad is a doctor Then you also know many physicians are horn-dogs who get a lot of sex from various women. Money attracts them like moths to a flame. He has not had sex for three and half years, that is most likely total bull-krap!
Author my_manda Posted July 21, 2005 Author Posted July 21, 2005 Alphamale, I appreciate your insight, and do not want to sound like a hopeless dillusional chick who needs a clue or ten, but he just became a resident in May, so odds are he was not getting a tremendous amount of action in medical school. If he wants sex, why does he not just call when he wants it? I cannot figure this one out. He also called me for a solid six weeks, and we went out a few times with nothing like that happening, but I guess your'e right. For a guy who had not had any in that long, he was awfully prepared. Is it bad if I just ask him flat out what the deal is? I know it may scare him off, but I feel anxious all the time, and I feel like I have been really understanding.
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