Bunso Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 I started dating this girl 9 months ago, just like all other relationships we've had our ups and downs. Mostly goods, but one thing she does irritates me. She hangs out with this couple (both in their 40s) before we got together she was friends with them... they've slapped her ass and grabbed her hand stating "this is my girlfriend" (also before we got together) I'm not upset about the actions that took place since it was before "us" but that she's always talking about the guy, how amazing he is and how cool he is and still tries to find time for them. I told her that I don't know many people who would slap a girl (who is just a friend) on the butt. That's more of an action you take on a girl you are trying to bed. They have even gone to a strip club together, all three of them. I voiced how I wasn't too happy about her always hanging out with them (she also restricts me from seeing certain people). So she made an effort (very minimal) to not meet up with them as much. She has always treated this guy special, she made a cake for his birthday and she never talks about anyone else like she does about him She planned a dinner with them two and her mother, they seem like nice people I'm just not convinced their intentions are good. She also invited me but I declined because again, I don't want to get to know people whose actions I do not like. I feel as though she only invites me because she knows I'll say no. I have met them once before and they seem nice but the way she would ramble on about them, especially the guy... it was quite annoying, she doesn't talk about them as much since I voiced my displeasure. I feel betrayed and mocked for the fact that she continues to meet these people when I've clearly told her time and time again that I'm not fond of it. Ive trusted her completely before but with this last meetup I started to overreact and checked their Instagram pages... she likes about 95% of their pictures compared to only 3 pictures total on my page. Should I be worried? Am I over reacting? Is it fair for her to meet this couple when I don't like the idea of it?
BluesPower Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 Are you really asking this question? I mean really, Dude you know what is going on, or you should. You must realize what has gone one in the past as well. Why don't you take a guess and I will tell you if you are right...
Author Bunso Posted January 29, 2017 Author Posted January 29, 2017 Although I don't think she has been in bed with the couple, there is a chance they may sway her in that direction, I also feel that given the circumstances she values their friendship more than our relationship. I feel like a fool and taken advantage of. If one of my friends came to me with this situation I would tell him to dump her and look for another. I feel I spoil her too much and she thinks she can get away with anything... taking me for granted.
Poutrew Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 Here's the hard news: You are not her boyfriend. You are only a bed warmer and a placeholder for when she is not with her real friends, the bisexual couple. Hey here's a thought: maybe they are tri-sexual? You know, all three together... I guess your 'gf' doesn't like even numbers, and yeah, it'll be too crowded with 4 people, all smacking each other's hind ends, in the bed... both your feelings that she is disrespecting you and stringing you along, and the advise you would give to your friend in a similar situation are spot on - dump the trisexual and find a woman who is comfortable with the number 2.
BluesPower Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 Good post Poutrew. B you got the general idea. Your girlfriend is their unicorn and yes they have all slept together, and they still are. Ask her and check her reaction. Also, you only spoil the ones that are so into you that there is never a question. My #1 girl gets priority and she gets spoiled.
Author Bunso Posted January 29, 2017 Author Posted January 29, 2017 I'll be having a talk with her later today... thanks for your input
Poutrew Posted February 5, 2017 Posted February 5, 2017 I'll be having a talk with her later today... thanks for your input So what's the outcome...?
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