Blind date - Eventually meet up, but still no kisses or holding hands

[thecrucible]

When she told me that "we're still friends trying to know each other" it's either 1) I'm just a friend and friend zoned or 2) she is the type of girl who usually wants to really know a guy (esp since we didn't know each other before meeting) so she will be friends with him for one to two months before opening up to a more romantic relationship. We'll see what happens.

 

Just be mindful and observe all the signs.

 

I mean for me getting to know a guy as a friend would take place in a group setting which is not specifically romantic so you genuinely are getting to know each gradually. If I was going out with a guy and said that we are just getting to know each other as friends, it might be that it's not seen as a date or I want to make it clear that it isn't a date so I don't feel like he is misreading the situation.

 

When you flip the script, if I was on a date with a guy and he said "we're just getting to know each other as friends" well I would forget all romantic notions altogether. Although I know that's unlikely to happen because guys tend to spend time with you in a group if they only see you as a friend rather than a one-on-one. As a woman, I can have one-on-one with persons including the odd guy and not automatically see it as something romantic.

[HandsomeAndLonely]

Just be mindful and observe all the signs.

 

I mean for me getting to know a guy as a friend would take place in a group setting which is not specifically romantic so you genuinely are getting to know each gradually. If I was going out with a guy and said that we are just getting to know each other as friends, it might be that it's not seen as a date or I want to make it clear that it isn't a date so I don't feel like he is misreading the situation.

 

When you flip the script, if I was on a date with a guy and he said "we're just getting to know each other as friends" well I would forget all romantic notions altogether. Although I know that's unlikely to happen because guys tend to spend time with you in a group if they only see you as a friend rather than a one-on-one. As a woman, I can have one-on-one with persons including the odd guy and not automatically see it as something romantic.

 

Well yeah, true. I guess I'm glad that I have asked her the question about our relationship, because we are planning on meeting this upcoming weekend. We have changed plans and we are going on a "wine tasting" tour in the downtown area. I was going to buy her a rose flower and a small box of chocolate. But because of what others here are stated about her not being interested in me, I will not be giving her anything at our next meet-up. Heck, I already paid for both of our wine-tasting tour tickets, so I think that's enough of a gift to her.

 

My plan is to pick her up and drive her out to the tour together, which we both agreed upon. Funny thing is, she said that she will drive somewhere else, and tell me where to pick her up. I find that odd, because I can drive to her apartment (where she still lives with her parents) and pick her up. Oh well.

Stay tuned.