TheTraveler Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 Rc flying, model rocketry, listening to music, and I'm interested in science type things and science fiction movies. I don't do much and they're not things that girls do. These are good hobbies to have. You're 20 years old...HIT the gym and make yourself attractive. It's really the simplest way to get more girls. You don't have to become a roided out Hulkamaniac, but get in better shape. Plus it will add another "hobby" that you do.
morrowrd Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I hate to break it to you, but if it's not in your blood, it's not in your blood. Going to clubs and practicing hitting on girls is a setup for failure. All you're going to do is probably get laughed at, rejected, and bitter...not to mention discouraged. You are so much better off sticking with online dating. Being unattractive and socially awkward, and going to clubs is like a goldfish deciding to learn how to confront better, and going into the deep sea and "practicing" on sharks and stingrays. Put up an honest picture, and then write out a carefully worded profile description about who you are. Then be patient, and go out on dates when the opportunity presents itself.
Author mar96 Posted February 2, 2017 Author Posted February 2, 2017 I hate to break it to you, but if it's not in your blood, it's not in your blood. Going to clubs and practicing hitting on girls is a setup for failure. All you're going to do is probably get laughed at, rejected, and bitter...not to mention discouraged. You are so much better off sticking with online dating. Being unattractive and socially awkward, and going to clubs is like a goldfish deciding to learn how to confront better, and going into the deep sea and "practicing" on sharks and stingrays. Put up an honest picture, and then write out a carefully worded profile description about who you are. Then be patient, and go out on dates when the opportunity presents itself. I'm over the club idea. I was thinking about cold approaching girls in casual places like grocery stores, book stores, libraries etc all because I can't get over the regret I have for not asking out girls in high school. The regret is really frusturating and the fact I'm still a virgin. But its mostly that I don't know how girls would respond to me asking them out so I'm left always wondering.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 2, 2017 Posted February 2, 2017 I'm over the club idea. I was thinking about cold approaching girls in casual places like grocery stores, book stores, libraries etc all because I can't get over the regret I have for not asking out girls in high school. The regret is really frusturating and the fact I'm still a virgin. But its mostly that I don't know how girls would respond to me asking them out so I'm left always wondering. Cold Approaching is hard just about anywhere, unless you are exceptionally good looking and have really good game. It's a lot easier to approach in social settings, such as bars & clubs -- or while doing an activity.
ashy555 Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 Don't go to a club. It is an awkward environment to be by yourself hitting on girls. Go to a pub/bar and sit at the bar. I started off my visit to America by myself in New York. I sat in bars and started up so many conversations with different and interesting people. It was a lot of fun actually. One night I randomly ended up at some rnb club with an irishman who looked after Kim Kardashian on her honeymoon haha. One night I ended up having dinner with about 9 complete strangers. A few I still keep in contact with. If you're confident you will be completely fine! If you put yourself out there you will have more chances of success!
PogoStick Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 (edited) I mean physically and I'm not tall to make up for it. I just never asked out girls in high school and I regret to know how girls would respond if I asked them out. I'm always wondering. As a guy, it should have been my responsibility to reach out and try. I feel that assuming that girls would respond negatively would just make me feel I'm being too harsh on myself. I hear often that cold approaching girls is also kind of a numbers game, so I want to know what most girls' perception of me is. So start approaching already. I suggest you do at least a thousand approaches before you give up. Seriously. That's only 3 a day for a year. You can do that without even making a detour from your daily life. Start tomorrow. Why are you waiting for our permission? How will women react? Most will be polite but turn you down. Most who do give some sort of positive response are just being polite but will not follow through with going on a date. However, if you ask enough women, one of them will agree to go on a date. For some reason you seem determined to cold approach. But what people are reading under the surface is that your real goal is to date a girl. In that case, your highest chance of success is to build a social circle and date a girl from there. Edited February 3, 2017 by PogoStick
Joga_31 Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 I'm 20 years old, and I am very unattractive(I'm a quite confident person though) and barely have had any friends since high school because I had social anxiety. One of my biggest regrets is not ever asking out girls. Really, I've never even asked out a girl before. I'm always constantly wondering how girls will respond if I asked them out. The thought of it has been getting me angry at myself because I've never even tried. So recently, I was thinking about doing this. Is a club a good way to do this? I just feel going to a club alone would feel very awkward. If this is weird, what are some places I can go to practice hitting on girls? haha many of memorable nights was when I was alone
Author mar96 Posted February 3, 2017 Author Posted February 3, 2017 So start approaching already. I suggest you do at least a thousand approaches before you give up. Seriously. That's only 3 a day for a year. You can do that without even making a detour from your daily life. Start tomorrow. Why are you waiting for our permission? How will women react? Most will be polite but turn you down. Most who do give some sort of positive response are just being polite but will not follow through with going on a date. However, if you ask enough women, one of them will agree to go on a date. For some reason you seem determined to cold approach. But what people are reading under the surface is that your real goal is to date a girl. In that case, your highest chance of success is to build a social circle and date a girl from there. Even the most nicest innocent looking girls will politely turn me down? I'm determined because I missed out on some opportunities from high school and the regret is getting to me because I don't know what the outcome will be if I just did it.
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