MrSoAMan Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 Hi everyone, not sure where to post so I did here. (Based in a university town in England) A few days ago one of my close friends (let's call her A) had one of her friends over (B) from Ireland, that evening a group of us went for drinks. The next day, A, B and their close friend, who is also my housemate, C, went for lunch. Later that night we all went out to a club and I ended up bringing B back to mine and sleeping with her. The next morning I walked her back to A's house (where her suitcase is) as she was flying back to Ireland later that day). When I returned back to mine, C told me that B asked if it was okay if she could sleep with me, which A and C said yeah). Later that evening A came over to ours and said that she couldn't get her head around the fact I slept with B, as apparently B has only slept with one person, and has loads of guys wanting her since she is very attractive, but she never flirts with her, and she is not the type to want a one night stand. I myself have had a fair few one night stands as well as relationships, and with every one night stands I'very never had the girl on my mind, but for some reason B is on my mind. Because she is a attractive obviously, but mainly because she has loads of guys after her, and she doesn't do one night stands, or flirt, but she did all that with me. So yeah, I'mean feeling confused. She said I should go to her town in Ireland for a night out there (I presumed she was joking). I would love to date her but I seem that is way too impossible because of distance, what should I do?
preraph Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 People on vacation will be promiscuous who aren't in their own town, for obvious reasons. If you want to date her, date her. Also, you should also consider that it's possible she sleeps around some and doesn't broadcast it to her friends, although she certainly wasn't discreet about this time. 1
Author MrSoAMan Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 I would love to date her, but she goes to uni in Ireland and I'm in uni here in England. She, and her mate both said I'm the second person she slept with. How should I go about staying in touch, not spoke to her since dropping her off, I do have her fb though..
preraph Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 Honestly, it's not that far between England and Ireland. And there's trains that go everywhere, aren't there? Why not call her on the phone just to talk in about a week. See how that goes. Better than texting and waiting for the return and not knowing if they're really busy or what. Just call her. See if that feels natural and you have plenty to say or not. Ask her if she is seeing anyone special there, and she'll know you really would like to date her. Good luck.
QueenDafine Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 If you're truly the second guys she's slept with she could just be starting to explore her options just as a one night stand. Otherwise she could be one of those girls that just doesn't like to broadcast her relations. Any which way maybe you should get into contact with her and see where things go despite the distance. If you have the opportunity to go see her, then see her.
Author MrSoAMan Posted January 30, 2017 Author Posted January 30, 2017 Her and A have been closest mates since little children, and they both have said they tell the other everything. We were speaking back and forth until today when she read my message early around 10am, and 14 hours later and she still haven't read it. (If you refer to my first post, about who A and Co are) C told me that me thinking that anything realistically happening between me and B is wishful thinking because of the distance :/ I don't know how I feel about it all
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 Stop talking to A & C about B Talk to B if you like but stop gossiping about her. 2
Author MrSoAMan Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 How do I go about messaging her if she hasn't responded to mine for over 24 hours now. What can/do I say to her which doesn't come across as needy? If that is even possible haha
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 How do I go about messaging her if she hasn't responded to mine for over 24 hours now. What can/do I say to her which doesn't come across as needy? If that is even possible haha You do nothing. You were her vacation fling. She's not interested. If she comes back to visit A, talk to her but until then move on to somebody else.
VeveCakes Posted January 31, 2017 Posted January 31, 2017 How do I go about messaging her if she hasn't responded to mine for over 24 hours now. What can/do I say to her which doesn't come across as needy? If that is even possible haha ask her for her number....that simple. She might not be around wifi or something and thats why she isn't on Facebook. If she gives you the number then call or text her..
Author MrSoAMan Posted January 31, 2017 Author Posted January 31, 2017 I feel uncomfortable asking for her number, especially when I have her on fb and snapchat already. Her best mate (A) said that she'd just make me really work for it. Today I was fine, I never once thought about her, but it's once I' in my bed alone is when I think about her (not in a dirty way haha)
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