Strange behaviors from ex last night after seeing him first time post breakup

[venusinlibra]

We had a complex breakup. I initiated it, began dating someone else, and blocked and unfriended ex on Facebook within hours, all at once. I couldn't take the communication problems due to his insecurities anymore. He tended to be verbally abusive too when he got really jealous and/or insecure. For example, we went to a class and people took well to me. He had us leave early and was silent on the way home until I asked him why he'd been so quiet lately. Instead of answering, he nastily said that I'd been awfully loud lately. Basically I got more attention than he did from the others.

 

Third parties got involved and made breakup even worse. Other guys had wanted me and I rejected them, so they all told my ex hours after I broke up with him that I had all of these photos of bruises from him hitting me- total lie since he never hit me. The guys also reported him to crime stoppers and caused my ex big problems and said I'm the one who called crime stoppers. The police told me it was so obvious that the other guys did it.

 

I unfriended the mutual friends and stopped hanging with our group. Various new people would friend and message me to keep up with what I was doing and I know my ex was behind it. I got prank calls from private numbers, and my Halloween and Christmas wreaths and decor kept being taken down until I put a note up on the wreath to my ex telling him to get a life. I got a surveillance camera and my ex sent a friend to hurt my Christmas decorations again and destroy my surveillance camera. I have it recorded on the cloud though. Police won't do anything so I'm going to complain higher to get the ex's friend arrested for the crime.

 

There's always little pranks like fake Facebook friend requests, sunglasses placed with lenses facing the middle of my garage door, and mirroring my Facebook activity. If I'm quiet he is. As soon as I post or change profile pic, then he does 24 hours later.

 

So I was stunned to see him directly last night. There was a crowded venue if 3,000 people and he and some people got in a line five to ten minutes after me and my friends did. A few girls were in his group, one I think he might be sleeping with. But my ex stared at me and stayed clear of her for a few minutes, then he turned his back to me and face the others, including the girl. He kept his hands in his pockets the entire time he talked to her, and she'd occasionally give me the evil eye.

 

The ex drama had seemed to finally settle down for a brief period, then I saw him. I was surprised at how he acted. I mean, why turn his back to me and also avoid physical contact with that girl? I'm thinking he might still have feelings for me and want me back. He's immature and inexperienced about how to reunite though. He's always been very shy and reserved but said I was the only woman he couldn't keep his hands off in public. He was always holding my hand, rubbing my shoulders, etc so everyone knew we were a couple. I fontyknow that I'd take him back, but what do you think of his behaviors. Did he act like that last night because he still has feelings for me? Should I expect him to try to resume direct contact with me?

[hercules22]

wow sounds like you seen his true colours honestly who does that it very childish

[venusinlibra]

You're right. I made the best choice in leaving.

 

But what about his behavior last night? Turning his back to me, but not trying to make me jealous of another female? Does it seem that he still has feelings for me?

[Purepony]

Why would it matter if you aren't even sure if you would take him bAck ?

 

This is just an ego boost for you because even if he does want you back you aren't sure you want him so why even care?

 

I think you just want the ego boost like every other girl out there who thinks she can ruin a man after a break up

 

Are you seeing anyone ?

and what happened to the guy you where seeing after the break up ?

 

Maybe your just feeling lonely ?

[Purepony]

You said you dated someone and what happened ?

Please elaborate

Thanks

[kendahke]

Do you want him back?

 

It sounds like you do. This is a lot of investment over someone who is your ex.

[CaliforniaGirl]

You're right. I made the best choice in leaving.

 

But what about his behavior last night? Turning his back to me, but not trying to make me jealous of another female? Does it seem that he still has feelings for me?

 

Are you kidding???? You want to know whether this psycho has feelings for you??? That's the question in your mind here?

 

You claim you're tortured by this guy's stalking yet you're irritated that he refused to make you jealous at a party? Holy cheeses.

 

Tough love time. I think you're enjoying this on some level, at least the drama/"he wants me THIS much" part of it, and believe all this sickness means true love or something, or at least that you're so amazing that a guy would go to criminal lengths to access you. I wouldn't be surprised if there was more about this story you're not telling us, a whole lot more. I mean ALL these random guys wanted you and by coincidence, all psychotically decided to obtain photos of some stranger's bruises (what??) and send them to "crimestoppers"? It just worked out that way? What?

 

I think you need to work on your own stuff, forget about stalking his activity to make sure he's still stalking you, and start a legitimate trail of police reporting if your property is being ruined or something. You have a destruction of property literally recorded and the police refused to investigate that? Come on.

 

Something is really off about this whole story but IF you are being stalked insist on at least a trail of police reports. Period. That is IMPERATIVE. This isn't cool and it isn't romantic. It's DANGEROUS. Then do some inner work to find out why, in the midst of criminal behavior against you, you breathlessly come onto a forum to ask whether this guy is into you. Be honest with yourself, legally protect yourself, get therapy, and move on.

[Miss Spider]

way too much drama.

 

id just be finished with it.

[QueenDafine]

It sounds like you don't want him back at all but then as soon as you suspect he's seeing another female you want to know if he might at I'll have feelings for you? You're the one who left him and wanted him completely gone from your life so why do you care if he still has feelings? Sounds to me like you just want an ego boost. So much drama just leave it alone and black him off social media instead of worrying if someone still cares about what you do.