onlyforthemisc Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 A girl I know that goes to my gym (shes my friend) is friends with this other girl who i would consider 8/10. she told this 8/10 about me, showed her my pics and said we'd be cute together (lol). The 8/10 was super excited to talk to me. She added me on social media, so I hit her up anyways thinking she was some random girl. (she told me the details of how she knew about me after a few days of talking). Anyways got her number and we texted, shes super attracted to me. She has said things like "how does it feel to be the best looking person at your gym?", "Im very attracted to you" etc. This girl is full time in university and works alot, leads a busy life. She came and visited me at my gym and we worked out, we have great chemistry together. She said she is extremely nervous around me in person due to my good looks (good or bad thing?). Since meeting a few times in public and we were talking about the weekend and she said she was in the mood to do something relaxing after having a long week. So I asked her to my house for a movie. We watched a movie at my place and cuddled and stuff, I didnt kiss her just because I decided id tease her a bit and wait for a "more romantic" time, she was also acting nervous when id go in for a kiss. When the night ended she said she had a really good time with me and im fun to be around. I dropped her home and she said she'd text me. She texted me saying sorry for being awkward, she said she wished she kissed me when she left. I just took this as her being nervous. after that we continued to text, but it hasnt been as frequent as before. she'll reply maybe every 2-3 hours, sometimes 5+ hours? I asked her on Wednesday to hangout this weekend (Sunday) and she replied with 'Alright !". I just texted back to that saying "let me know what kinda thing you're in the mood for, I have a few things in mind that we could do." The convo ended there, she texted me a picture like 8 hours later about something unrelated and we talked for like 20 mins about it then she didnt reply. (This was thursday) Its now saturday and she hasnt texted me back since thursday. Should I assume she lost interest since she hasnt texted back for 2 days? or am I overthinking? People say "if she doesnt reply move on, she isnt interested." I feel that way too, but we have plans to hang out. Should I just cancel the plans since she hasnt texted back? Or should I just text her again with set plans?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 You need to set up an actual date, OP. We ladies like a man who takes initiative to plan that kind of thing. Asking her to let you know what she wants to do was not a great move; it sounds too casual. Suggest an activity followed by coffee or a drink. Something along those lines.
Author onlyforthemisc Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 The only reason I said that was because the previous time we hung out she said 'Im in the mood to relax this weekend." so I asked her over to my house for a movie. but Okay, should I assume shes lost interest since she hasn't texted me back? Like could she lose interest over something like that? We are suppose to hang out tomorrow. Should I wait until she texts me back to tell her our set plans? I don't want to double text her.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 The only reason I said that was because the previous time we hung out she said 'Im in the mood to relax this weekend." so I asked her over to my house for a movie. but Okay, should I assume shes lost interest since she hasn't texted me back? Like could she lose interest over something like that? We are suppose to hang out tomorrow. Should I wait until she texts me back to tell her our set plans? I don't want to double text her. You told her that you have a few things in mind that you two could do. She might well be waiting for you to tell her what those are, so she can tell you what she prefers. I don't necessarily think she lost interest, but I also don't think you've given her much to go with. A lot of us are taught to let the guy make the first few moves to gauge his real interest. Some will even intentionally slow down communication so they don't appear too eager - seems counter-intuitive and silly, but it happens. Contact her and make a suggestion. If she likes you, she won't care that you "double-texted." Dating involved a certain element of risk. What's the worst that can happen? She could say no. And then you know to move along.
Author onlyforthemisc Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 Yeah, I was just expecting her to reply, asking me what I had in mind perhaps? Based on my progress with this girl so far, do you think something like that would cause her to lose interest? The simple fact that i didnt create set plans?
ExpatInItaly Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 Yeah, I was just expecting her to reply, asking me what I had in mind perhaps? Based on my progress with this girl so far, do you think something like that would cause her to lose interest? The simple fact that i didnt create set plans? Honestly, it's not possible to guess because you've known her for such a short time and have only spent one-on-one time together once. I can't really say yes or no either way. I can only speak from my own experience, and I would advise you to take the bull by the horns here. If she declines, you can't even assume it was something you did or didn't do. Who knows what else she has going on. The point is that women generally like confident men who can communicate clearly. Waiting this out and just sitting around hoping she says something about tomorrow isn't really productive.
Author onlyforthemisc Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 I sent her a text a little while ago saying "hey tomorrow _____ at 8:30 ill pick you up" and to fix any confusion, she did reply to my text that said "let me know what youre in the mood for, i have a few things in mind"... she replied with something unrelated (a picture) We have been talking for 3 weeks and have seen eachother once a week.
sid3 Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 I'd say you've used the 8/10 3x too many in your original post to not come across as anything but a douche.My guess,she's picked up on you're being such.
Author onlyforthemisc Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 I only said that because I didnt know what else to call her and I didnt want to use her real name. Sorry haha
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