Why did she go cold all of sudden

[Bounceback]

I'll try and keep this as short as possible without leaving out details.

 

Ok. In 2013 I dated a girl all summer. She was 20 I was 23. We had a lot of fun but it ended after I had told her I was going to go back home to get ready for trip to Europe with my dad. I had told her I was leaving that night, but ended up staying and went to bar with a friend. Her room mate saw me there and I was talking to another friend who was a girl but it wasn't really like that. I ended up going back to my girlfriends house that night only to find her with another dude. She says she did it cause I lied to her and was with another girl. Anyway that was the end of us, we talked a little bit here and there over the next year or so, hung out a couple times, an attempt at getting back together, she said she loved me and thought that I had cheated on her that summer, which is why she did what she did.

 

Fast forward Christmas 2016. I see on facebook she is single after being in a relationship for a while. I think she had been broken up for a while at this point. I reached out and wishes her a merry Christmas, hadn't talked to her in 18 months. She replies back, and on New Years invites me to go see her. She lives in Austin I live in Houston. We met up with some friends, she and I got a hotel and had literally the best sex ever. That night and again in morning. I was thinking it was good closure and a 1 time deal. She said I should come see her again sometime.

 

She ended up initiating contact every day after that, got very intimate with me in our conversations, I told her I loved her. She said she loved me too. I felt comfortable saying that cause she had told me in past she loved me, and I know she does, or she wouldn't have wanted to see me again, and the connection we have during sex is unreal.Things were good, we kept talking every day, she initiated most of it. Lots of sending me old pictures of us, lots of I miss you, wish you were here. Lots of snapchat. Anyway, on the 12th of January she called me, we talked on phone for about an hour. She joked about me moving up to her city to live there. She said she was going to a hockey game the next day(Thursday) but that I should come see her after I got back from a funeral I had to go to that weekend. After that phone call Wednesday, I didn't hear from her for a couple days . I sent her a text Thursday saying I was excited to see her on Sunday and to have fun at hockey game. No reply. I saw on snapchat she was with another dude, I didn't open her story but I could see the thumbnail. I didn't trip, she single. She ended up posting the pic on Facebook a couple days later to make sure I saw it.

 

I texted her Saturday night then she called me and we talked for a bit. Told her I wanted to see her when I got back Sunday, she said to call her when I got home. I texted her when I landed, she replied, then I sent another text no reply. That night she asked if I was still awake, sent me nudes and told me how she wanted me to **** her in the ass. No texting the next few days, some snapchats. Friday night she asks me what I'm up to, sends me some cute texts and sends me a nude after I asked for it. Saturday morning she texts me good morning, told her I'd call her later, called her later, she was busy, she called me back around 4 pm. We talked about our weekend plans, I hung up and texted her I wanted to come see her. She said she was busy with school but wanted me to come up there, but she wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I do believe she had a lot of homework, she's in grad school. Not sure why she initiated contact that friday night and Saturday morning after no texts all week.

 

Now it's the current week, she texted me on Monday and sent me some snapchats this week. I haven't made any attempts to contact her since that first phone call from that Wednesday before hockey game. Thoughts on why she pulled back on throttle so hard after that phone call before hockey game? Why would she call me and talk for an hour just to fall off after that?and why is she sending me nudes telling me she wants me to **** her in the ass? I regret starting off so fast with her again after 3 years. I really like her though, and I know she likes me too. I'm thinking she got scared about how fast we were moving and the distance. I'm 99% sure the ex boyfriend is not in the picture, but I'm more worried about the guy from hockey game. She's known him since college too.

[LargoLagg]

I missed the part where she went cold on you. How cold can you be if you want what she wants?

 

Maybe what you should do is hold off on the idea that you can have her exclusively at this time, and just go with it.

[bradt93]

I'll try and keep this as short as possible without leaving out details.

 

Ok. In 2013 I dated a girl all summer. She was 20 I was 23. We had a lot of fun but it ended after I had told her I was going to go back home to get ready for trip to Europe with my dad. I had told her I was leaving that night, but ended up staying and went to bar with a friend. Her room mate saw me there and I was talking to another friend who was a girl but it wasn't really like that. I ended up going back to my girlfriends house that night only to find her with another dude. She says she did it cause I lied to her and was with another girl. Anyway that was the end of us, we talked a little bit here and there over the next year or so, hung out a couple times, an attempt at getting back together, she said she loved me and thought that I had cheated on her that summer, which is why she did what she did.

 

Fast forward Christmas 2016. I see on facebook she is single after being in a relationship for a while. I think she had been broken up for a while at this point. I reached out and wishes her a merry Christmas, hadn't talked to her in 18 months. She replies back, and on New Years invites me to go see her. She lives in Austin I live in Houston. We met up with some friends, she and I got a hotel and had literally the best sex ever. That night and again in morning. I was thinking it was good closure and a 1 time deal. She said I should come see her again sometime.

 

She ended up initiating contact every day after that, got very intimate with me in our conversations, I told her I loved her. She said she loved me too. I felt comfortable saying that cause she had told me in past she loved me, and I know she does, or she wouldn't have wanted to see me again, and the connection we have during sex is unreal.Things were good, we kept talking every day, she initiated most of it. Lots of sending me old pictures of us, lots of I miss you, wish you were here. Lots of snapchat. Anyway, on the 12th of January she called me, we talked on phone for about an hour. She joked about me moving up to her city to live there. She said she was going to a hockey game the next day(Thursday) but that I should come see her after I got back from a funeral I had to go to that weekend. After that phone call Wednesday, I didn't hear from her for a couple days . I sent her a text Thursday saying I was excited to see her on Sunday and to have fun at hockey game. No reply. I saw on snapchat she was with another dude, I didn't open her story but I could see the thumbnail. I didn't trip, she single. She ended up posting the pic on Facebook a couple days later to make sure I saw it.

 

I texted her Saturday night then she called me and we talked for a bit. Told her I wanted to see her when I got back Sunday, she said to call her when I got home. I texted her when I landed, she replied, then I sent another text no reply. That night she asked if I was still awake, sent me nudes and told me how she wanted me to **** her in the ass. No texting the next few days, some snapchats. Friday night she asks me what I'm up to, sends me some cute texts and sends me a nude after I asked for it. Saturday morning she texts me good morning, told her I'd call her later, called her later, she was busy, she called me back around 4 pm. We talked about our weekend plans, I hung up and texted her I wanted to come see her. She said she was busy with school but wanted me to come up there, but she wasn't sure if it was a good idea. I do believe she had a lot of homework, she's in grad school. Not sure why she initiated contact that friday night and Saturday morning after no texts all week.

 

Now it's the current week, she texted me on Monday and sent me some snapchats this week. I haven't made any attempts to contact her since that first phone call from that Wednesday before hockey game. Thoughts on why she pulled back on throttle so hard after that phone call before hockey game? Why would she call me and talk for an hour just to fall off after that?and why is she sending me nudes telling me she wants me to **** her in the ass? I regret starting off so fast with her again after 3 years. I really like her though, and I know she likes me too. I'm thinking she got scared about how fast we were moving and the distance. I'm 99% sure the ex boyfriend is not in the picture, but I'm more worried about the guy from hockey game. She's known him since college too.

I would break up with her, unless you like your current relationship with her. It sounds like to me no offense, a pure sexual relationship, but if that's what you want, go with it.