ElizabethIII Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 I dated my first bf in college for 2.5 years. It was a difficult relationship but I was much younger than I am now and lacking in self esteem. He started off sensitive and caring and had a victim complex. Leaned on me heavily. Then that turned into spite and pulling me down with him. He was selfish, rude, arrogant, put me down and bragged about himself. He thought the sun shone out of his butt. He was so special and so important and had some big career planned based on his college degree. I am not a bragger and have always been highly critical of myself and he preyed on that. Put me down too saying things like I don't get many opportunities to look smarter than him. I dont know why I put up with it. At the time, he really did make me feel as if I was nobody and he was this special guy with all these prospects and opportunities. He was going to go all these places too and bragged about all the travel he was going to do. I stopped thinking of him for a long time. Years. I was over him many many years ago. With the advent of facebook, I looked him up. I was surprised to say the least. He had a very old link to his youtube channel on there which hadnt been active for years. He had tried to get his career he boasted about in college off the ground and failed miserably. There were only a few short film clips advertising it and trying to gain funding and the quality was so poor I literally cringed while I watched it: I was embarrassed for him. The funding pages were still there and he hadnt raised any money at all to fund his projects and had been abandoned. He had ended up working a job that was totally dead end and not well paid. You dont even need a college degree to do this job. His facebook ad said he had been doing this job for years and years. He has a kid to a woman he appeared to have not been with, got back together and finally married. But they all live in her parents house so not even their own home in their 30s. Though he put me down so severely, I actually succeeded in the career path I chose in college and have done well. My facebook is awash with travel pictures. He has gone nowhere, done nothing and is in a dead end job with no career advancement prospects. He hasnt even used his college degree at all. I was upset when he cheated on me and dumped me but you know looking at his life now, I would hate being with him. It seems a boring miserable life. Perhaps he put me down so badly when we were together because deep down he knew he was a piece of garbage and felt threatened? Anyway what I am getting at, is you may feel devastated over a break up for a long time. It can take a long time before you see how things would have been. Seeing how his life turned out I am SO grateful I didnt end up with him if that was all he was capable of doing with his life. I worked on myself and my own career and achieved a lot. Look to your own future and forget them. It really does work. 1
honeybeesunrise Posted February 7, 2017 Posted February 7, 2017 I just found this. Thanks for sharing and encouraging
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