I want to establish a relationship with a girl I just met

[angel.eyes]

First, you aren't friends. You're a stranger she met at the beach, who now won't take a hint.

 

Second, women aren't stupid. We're usually pretty good at sniffing out when a guy has ulterior motives in his offer of friendship. Something in your texts alerted her to the fact you're actually trying to date her. Oh,...and you are! So she's right in her suspicions.

 

Drop it. She's not interested. Find someone else.

[simpleman2017]

First, you aren't friends. You're a stranger she met at the beach, who now won't take a hint.

 

Second, women aren't stupid. We're usually pretty good at sniffing out when a guy has ulterior motives in his offer of friendship. Something in your texts alerted her to the fact you're actually trying to date her. Oh,...and you are! So she's right in her suspicions.

 

Drop it. She's not interested. Find someone else.

 

lol May be. But Also there is a lot of crazy girls and i think you agree with that. and yeah she is pretty as hell.

 

Thank you anyways

[angel.eyes]

If she's crazy, why are you trying to date her?!?!?

 

Approach a guy since you're in such dire need of friends, not crazy, hot women at the beach! Unless you want more of the same, stop being so disingenuous about what you're after. It's a big turnoff to many women.

Edited January 28, 2017 by angel.eyes

[simpleman2017]

If she's crazy, why are you trying to date her?!?!?

 

Approach a guy since you're in such dire need of friends, not crazy, hot women at the beach! Unless you want more of the same, stop being so disingenuous about what you're after. It's a big turnoff to many women.

 

I am not saying she`s crazy and how can i judge her if she is crazy or not if i did not talk to her yet. and i am not disingenuous i just like her and want to talk to her, she may be did not understand that because she do not know me yet but that does not mean disingenuous. i cannot go tell her at the beach that i want to date her. but i understand your point.

Thanks

[simpleman2017]

If she's crazy, why are you trying to date her?!?!?

 

Approach a guy since you're in such dire need of friends, not crazy, hot women at the beach! Unless you want more of the same, stop being so disingenuous about what you're after. It's a big turnoff to many women.

 

UPDATE

Hey she finally did answer me about my last invitation to my bar party and she said she is only 20 and she cannot go to bar and she said i am a sweet guy but she do not think that she is interested in meeting up.

 

So i wanna try to fix that. May be because of my many texts? i just wanna give a try to fix that. what should i text her?

[simpleman2017]

You said you met her at the beach though. If you and she didn't have a conversation, how did you get her #?

 

Meanwhile OP a phone number is not a contract for a date. Especially after such a brief and strange text interaction on your part. I get that it seems unfair that she wrote you off for that but what else does she have to go by.

 

A much smoother way to have handled it would have been to get her into a (brief!) text conversation and then set up a date.

 

 

 

UPDATE

Hey she finally did answer me about my last invitation to my bar party and she said she is only 20 and she cannot go to bar and she said i am a sweet guy but she do not think that she is interested in meeting up.

 

So i wanna try to fix that. May be because of my many texts? i just wanna give a try to fix that. what should i text her?

[simpleman2017]

I agree that she is showing very little interest though it sounds like she might have been at the start. I can't see that you have anything to lose by sending one more final text. I would suggest you say something like:

 

"Hey, I'm really interested in you and would like to get to know you better. Would you like to meet for a coffee/ice cream (whatever you think she likes) sometime soon? If I don't hear from you, I will assume not, but I'm looking forward to your reply."

 

 

 

UPDATE

Hey she finally did answer me about my last invitation to my bar party and she said she is only 20 and she cannot go to bar and she said i am a sweet guy but she do not think that she is interested in meeting up.

 

So i wanna try to fix that. May be because of my many texts? i just wanna give a try to fix that. what should i text her?

[d0nnivain]

It's not fixable. She's not interested. Leave her alone.

 

 

Continuing to pursue her will only make you seem creepy & stalkerish. It will NOT increase your attractiveness.

 

 

Move on to somebody who fancies you as much as you like them.

[Jj66]

I see your point but may be i am thinking different. i usually do not like to setup a day or time because I like to give the girl little space to choose whenever she is available (Thats how i am thinking cuz i do not want her to see me as a demanding) but later when we are officialy in relationship then i mostly offer place and time or anything else. I remember my last date with a girl I asked (yes) if we can hangout today and have dinner and i gave her the chance to decide the place and the time.

 

 

Always offer something specific. If she is interested and not available she will propose somethinget else. If she isn't interested she will just say no thank you. Your ONLY risk is if she thinks your proposal is cool but she's not that into you. She might accept anyway. Not a problem. That's your chance to help her become interested in you.

[simpleman2017]

It's not fixable. She's not interested. Leave her alone.

 

 

Continuing to pursue her will only make you seem creepy & stalkerish. It will NOT increase your attractiveness.

 

 

Move on to somebody who fancies you as much as you like them.

 

Ok..Thank you