Sal Paradise Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I have never cheated (on any of my previous gf's or my current one) and never will. I've been tested and have past the test every time. Not cheating doesn't require some great strength either. All it requires is some damn self control. It requires you to be respectful for this person you claim to care about. If you don't care for them then you should end the relationship. And yes women do it as often as men. I don't really buy that they don't get caught as often either. Actually one could argue since women form stronger emotional bonds, and men are kings of the one night stands, that men would probably have a better chance of getting away with it. There is no real way to know who is cheating more and who is getting caught more. Polls can't be trusted when it comes to sex. From the people I've known, and from observing life, and even boards like this, it seems to be balanced. Many men and women cheat, many never get caught, and many do. Its just a perception that men are bigger pigs. There is also the perception that if a guy cheats the woman is a saint, and if the woman cheats the guy drove her to it. My belief is no one is entitled to cheat. If you're unhappy leave the relationship or attempt to fix it. Don't use it as an excuse to betray this person, put them at risk for std's or involve someone else (the 3rd wheel) in your selfish behavior.
griftymcgriff Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Alrighty i have a question, If my gf wants a break. But says she doesnt want to fully break up. And shows concern that i might have another woman...is she allowed to just to go out and sleep with or do what ever with other guys? I dont have any intention of going with other girls...im a patient person. But If she thinks that i might have taken her "go have sex with a stranger" comment seriously. would it be ok for her to just go off with some random guy?
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Have never cheated, don't think I ever will - it's not in my nature. And I agree that girls cheat just as often - just get caught less.
Sal Paradise Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by griftymcgriff Alrighty i have a question, If my gf wants a break. But says she doesnt want to fully break up. And shows concern that i might have another woman...is she allowed to just to go out and sleep with or do what ever with other guys? I dont have any intention of going with other girls...im a patient person. But If she thinks that i might have taken her "go have sex with a stranger" comment seriously. would it be ok for her to just go off with some random guy? Basically the break comment means that she has someone she wants to fool around with and she wants to explore that while knowing if it doesn't work out with this OM she can come running back to you. She is using you. She wants to use you as her back up plan, her security blanket. Just in case there's no other men out there better. But if she finds something she likes more she'll break up with you. She probably won't even tell you she found someone, she will just say something like "I want my freedom." Or some other lame excuse. It's happened time and time again. My advice is...... Tell her if you go on a break the relationship is over, you will issue no contact (no contact meaning not talking to her on the phone, in person or online) and you will find a new gf. This will make her realize you're not going to allow her to walk all over you. She may decide to let you go or she may decide she doesn't really want a break and would rather work on the relationship. Either way at least you can move on.
alfred1 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I have never cheated, it has never crossed my mind, even though i love big boobs, my wife has BLT ( big lucsious tits) and no one else matters but her. I have accused her of cheating, for very odd reasons, being that I think she is the most beautiful woman in the world regarless what anyone says she is in my eyes.
NYCmitch25 Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I've never cheated, except with this really hot chic with big boobs from New Mexico... but man is her hubby needy and insecure....
dprelz Posted December 20, 2005 Posted December 20, 2005 I have never cheated and will never cheat. The day i cheat Is the day I kill myself. Submitting to lust or desire for minutes of pleasure is not worth the hours and hours of pain someone has to endure when they find out.
BigB Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 I've never cheated, doubt I ever would, but who knows. I know I'd feel really bad if I did. I did sleep with an ex-gf during a month long breakup with my gf back when I was in high school. Technically not cheating but it was wrong, and I felt bad about it after we got back together. I also slept with a girl who was in a relationship a couple months ago..... It was an internet relationship, and she hadn't yet met her "boyfriend" in person. She wasn't really cheating in my eye's, but she felt like she cheated, and her "internet boyfriend" probably would've felt it was cheating, but he never knew about it, and they've since broken up.
littlekitty Posted December 21, 2005 Posted December 21, 2005 Thanks to some of the men in here who give me hope that not all men are cheaters... as told to me by a man!! I think men/women are both prone to cheating, its down the individual if they feel they can do it or not.
mental_traveller Posted December 22, 2005 Posted December 22, 2005 I cheated on one ex because she started behaving badly towards me from time to time. Rather than break it off after one of our fights, I would just occasionally pick up some woman and sleep with her instead. So the reason was partly her bad conduct and partly my reaction of cheating, rather than take the more difficult step of ending things. After that relationship, I resolved to break off a relationship rather than cheat again, so far I've been successful. However, when I've been in love with a woman, I've neither cheated nor ever had the desire to. I think cheating is justified sometimes, for example if you're married and your partner cheats on you, then they've broken the vow. Well then, that releases you from your obligations too. Just like if someone signs a business contract and then fails to deliver the goods, you're no longer obliged to pay them.
Greg25 Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends. The basic reason why I've never cheated is basically I was happy with one partner and when in a committed relationship, didn't desire another person, and secondly, I know what it is like to be cheated on when the person you love decides to give their love to someone else, while still in a relationship with you. The pain of the experience is dreadful, and that is something I can't inflict on another person. So, cheating never appealed to me.
Fun2BMe Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 this is a totally ridiculous stmt STEENERZ. Both men and women cheat at the same rates. Only thing is that women get busted much less often cause they hide the cheating better and are basically better liars than men. So it looks like men cheat more when they really do not. I would have to disagree. Men cheat at a much higher rate. It is also more difficult and unlikely for women to end relationships because overall they are more attached and loyal to men. Men cheat more because they don't form the same attachments that develop with sex, whereas women get more attached once they have sex and it takes a lot more for them to cheat. They are not about multiple sex partners and sex sex sex like men are, but more about developing meaningful and LOVE filled relationships, whereas men are more into the physical part of a relationship and think cheating isn't a big deal. There are exceptions of course. In some cultures like African American, close to 100% of men cheat. It is more acceptable and a way of life, but women cheat much less in all races. This is from feedback and looking at how things are and I am sure most will agree that men cheat at a much higher rate than do women.
Neptune Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 Quote Fun2BMe It is also more difficult and unlikely for women to end relationships Not true, women end relationships most of the time. That is before marriage. Traditionally men have ended marriages more often than women. However, that social trends seems to have recently reversed and women are now ending marriages more often than men.
Casch Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 I have been cheated on once, but have never cheated on a girlfriend. When I fall in love with someone, they're all that matters to me and I hardly notice anyone else. In fact, I'll talk about her much to everyone elses annoyance. When I do start to notice someone else, and start to have any kind of feelings for them, I think hard about my relationship and try to figure out what has changed that has allowed me to start thinking about other people. If my feelings for her have faded, the spark is gone, it's time to end the relationship and move on. I've only ever fallen else while in a relationship once though. Most of my breakups have been mutual, or I was dumped.
Woggle Posted January 2, 2006 Posted January 2, 2006 I never cheated but have been cheated on and yes women cheat just as much as men but society still blames men for it.
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