not your typical break up thread

[james25]

my ex and i broke up feb 2016. It was a messy break up. I went super beta and it took me to the extreme lowest of lows. I balled my eyes out off and on basically for 10 months. she called me pathetic, said i should find someone to accept my situation (yeah she turned my world over that bad), she missed my birthday a few months ago, christmas, new years.

 

I have been focusing on myself for the last 11 months while I think of her everyday....

 

she had me blocked on every social media channel, she even changed her phone number and moved (she was going to anyway)

 

now, I have her playing mind games with me over the internet. she doesnt have the balls to reach out and talk to me but she can play mind games with me over the internet. I blocked her on my instagram, my other instagram and I think that may have hurt her.. I'm not sure. I should care. I still love her.

 

I'm not sure what to do

 

Is she going to woman up and try to contact me or is she just doing to keep playing this silent no contact game

 

shes a leo. i'm sure a leo here can relate. she's definitely playing mind games with me. dedicating songs to me over her soundcloud. i can't talk about this stuff in the real world.

 

she had the upper hand for 11 months and i finally turned the tables on her. I think she is getting an idea what its like to be in my spot.

 

If I can do it, all you dumpees can do it too

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[ElizabethIII]

my ex and i broke up feb 2016. It was a messy break up. I went super beta and it took me to the extreme lowest of lows. I balled my eyes out off and on basically for 10 months. she called me pathetic, said i should find someone to accept my situation (yeah she turned my world over that bad), she missed my birthday a few months ago, christmas, new years.

 

I have been focusing on myself for the last 11 months while I think of her everyday....

 

she had me blocked on every social media channel, she even changed her phone number and moved (she was going to anyway)

 

now, I have her playing mind games with me over the internet. she doesnt have the balls to reach out and talk to me but she can play mind games with me over the internet. I blocked her on my instagram and I think that may have hurt her. I'm not sure. I should care. I love her still though tho.

 

I'm not sure what to do

 

Is she going to woman up and try to contact me or is she just doing to keep playing this silent no contact game

 

shes a leo. i'm sure a leo here can relate.

 

This is your typical break up.

 

She ended it nearly a year ago. She is still in your life because YOU wont let go.

 

She missed your birthday and christmas: yes because she is not your GF anymore. She doesnt owe you a thing.

 

She isnt playing a silent / no contact game. She dumped you and doesnt want to contact you. it isnt a game.

 

She is a Leo? So it 12% of the population, that has no relevance.

 

You have wasted 11 months of your life, are you going to waste another 11 months and another 11 months after that.

 

In the gentlest way, let her go. She doesnt want you and you are wasting your life.

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[ElizabethIII]

You edited your post.

 

Maybe she just sees your contact as friendly.

 

You said she is playing a silent game, so she isnt actually talking to you. It is just indirect via social media?

 

Just block her. Everywhere. She doesnt want you back as it has been nearly 1 year. She would have done something by now.

[james25]

no elizabeth, i assure you she is playing games with me over the internet. i may not be right about everything in the world. one thing i am right about is this

[ElizabethIII]

no elizabeth, i assure you she is playing games with me over the internet. i may not be right about everything in the world. one thing i am right about is this

 

But she hasnt come back.

 

Anyone on here will tell you, that unless they come back and say outright "I miss you, I want to try again" then it is meaningless.

 

You have wasted 11 months of your life dwelling on this. Turning tables on her, thinking you're engaged in mind games and yet you still dont have her back.

 

You can either continue to do this and waste more of your life or block her everywhere and get out and meet someone new. The choice is yours.

[james25]

i dont want to talk to other girls. ive met other girls, they dont interest me. ive lived in 7 cities in the last 7-8 years lol. i've met my share of women . she is the one that got away

[james25]

anyways you are right. i shouldnt care *** that was a typo i didnt realize in the original post. I am trying to move on. i am happy that i am on to bigger and better things in life. working hard. its thinking of her tho that got me here . thats my life dilemma. and im sure it hurts her too cause we connected over electronic music

Edited January 27, 2017 by james25

[james25]

i miss her .. but yeah its hard sometimes

Edited January 27, 2017 by james25

[james25]

sorry about this post. i am just very confused about things. its hard to concentrate sometimes

[Purepony]

Move on already

Don't worry about what she will do

Just worry about you and let it go

[james25]

i am trying...

 

i was very depressed when i typed the original post.

 

if a moderator can remove my url please.

 

i just needed to vent . i dont have anyone to talk to about this. thanks for all of your help