ohso Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Guys, I've slept with a guy only once and it was over a year ago. We really had amazing connection, not only sexual. But we never saw each other after. But we keep in contact every few months or so. He doesn't talk about himself at all when I ask. So I talk about myself and he seems interested and always helps and supports me. We never talk about sex. I sometimes flirt very little and friendly. He never. What do you think he thinks of me and what kind of a "relationship" we have? I think of him as a friend I never see. Does it sound he is just keeping me in the line, or what he might think of me? I won't ask him this. That's ridiculous after so much time to discuss us because we were never a couple. I would like to know his motives though. Has anything like this happened to you?
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 He sounds incredibly lukewarm even on the "friend" front. He sounds politely interested when you talk but that's about it. I don't think he's really even close enough to you (from your description) to be described as a close friend. I think probably he sees you as a nice girl with whom he once had sex but otherwise doesn't really think about much (I am so sorry to put it that way but I don't know what other conclusion to draw). I would forget about this one... 2
Brittybritt92 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 If he was into it, he'd be pursuing you. He may just text you every now and then because he's bored or who knows. There are so many people in the world.move on! 2
leogirl876 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 This situation sounds weird and I wouldn't give this guy the time of day or anymore thought. Sounds like he's an acquaintance you had sex with one time. Don't waste your time on him! 3
smackie9 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Maybe he has a GF or is married, people make up fake profiles on social media and whatnot......that would explain why he doesn't reveal anything about himself in conversations.
stillafool Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 If you had sex with him over a year ago and he hasn't pursued you for at least more sex he has friend zoned you. Read around here, there seems to be a lot of men doing this lately. They hit it once and don't want to do it with the same girl again. WTF is going on.
carhill Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 If he was into it, he'd be pursuing you. He may just text you every now and then because he's bored or who knows. There are so many people in the world.move on! IMO, that's some real clarity right there, and good advice. I hope the OP can separate past performance from any expectation or guarantee of future results. It was what it was. If you had sex with him over a year ago and he hasn't pursued you for at least more sex he has friend zoned you. Read around here, there seems to be a lot of men doing this lately. They hit it once and don't want to do it with the same girl again. WTF is going on. Apparently some men are following the 'there are so many people in the world' path and sampling, if briefly, as many as they wish. The prior quoted poster mentioned that and, since men generally are the assertive and aggressive ones in mating, their actions will necessarily be more overt. Back in the day it was called playing the field or sowing one's oats. Some guys did it for life. Some did not. Evidently, if you're seeing more of it now, more guys could be doing it than in the past. For the OP, my take as an old guy who's observed a lot of successful men in life..... he saturated you early and quickly and used the sex and romance tool to engrain a memory of him and he keeps that tape running with periodic contact. Since all associations are voluntary, you're enabling the continuation of this one, presuming your relationship goals are different, by continuing contact and response. You can make different choices. Good luck! 1
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