Lilyana76 Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Ok, so I tried the online dating thing... it REALLY isn't for me. So I stopped again. And wouldn't ya know it, a man I know asked me out on a date. TONIGHT! We've known each other for years, met a few years ago when we were both married. Since then we have both divorced, and ran into each other at an event recently. We both play darts competitively. We talked, caught up with each other. He then told me hes had a little crush on me for awhile. So we decided to go out. I know this man, I've been friendly with him for years. WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?! I was never this nervous on a first meet during OLD. This should be easier, since I know him. Is this normal? What the h*ll gives? 1
alphamale Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 WHY AM I SO NERVOUS?! ? because you like him 1
Shining One Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Perhaps you're nervous because there is something to lose if things don't work out here. A stranger from OLD is essentially risk free: All you're losing if things don't work out is a stranger. 1
preraph Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 It's normal to be nervous on a first date. At least you know you like the guy, so have fun.
Author Lilyana76 Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 Perhaps... I don't know... I got my nails done (which I never do), did my hair up. Shaved all the appropriate places (haha)... This man has seen me at work, covered in marinara and dough (I'm a chef in an Italian restaurant). I've never even thought of this guy as a possible romantic interest... until now. I do like him, hes an interesting person. But, we are not close friends. Friendly acquaintances. I'm going to turn into that idiot girl that giggles too much and touches him too often aren't I?
preraph Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Oooooooo, you are excited, not nervous. I bet you look amazing covered in dough and marinara. Men love cooks!
coolheadal Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 (edited) Online you don't know what your getting yourself into. Someone that knows your for years you would be more easier to date already since you know him a lot better than anyone from the online world. So go have some real fun, as you have tried the online world and your tired of all the head games, lies, some married some not some separated and not divorce yet. Don't forget the unstable ones also. Can drive any right man or woman in insane also, because your life just can't handle their toxic drama. But with someone you already know it's a lot better to date. My advise is just take 3 deep breath and say the word relax after each breath. I say I can do this! Since that would be your intent! Stand up tall and confident you will have a good time out! Good Luck! Edited January 26, 2017 by coolheadal
Author Lilyana76 Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 I think with OLD, I go in with no expectations.... But dating someone I already know, it kind of ups the bar. 1
thecrucible Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Keep us updated! Nervous is a good sign because it shows you like him. If you get on really well, the nervousness will disappear pretty quickly and you'll just feel great.
Author Lilyana76 Posted January 27, 2017 Author Posted January 27, 2017 Well, I survived The date was nice, went well. We threw some darts, talked a lot, had a few drinks. His brother plays in a local band and asked me to come check it out on Sunday. I usually spend all day Sunday with my kids, doing projects for school, and getting ready for the week. But we will see, I might go for a little bit. He has 2 kids from his previous marriage, so he understands. He is a very nice guy, and we had a great time talking and getting to know each other. It was like hanging out with an old friend and reconnecting. Might there be something there? Possibly, we'll see what a few more dates bring. We did have a lot of fun. There were a lot of other people there so it was a lot of goofing around and joking and talking with everyone. Not a whole lot of one on one time. he did mention hes not ready for a "serious" relationship. He's been divorced for 3 years, but isn't ready to jump in the commitment wagon yet. So, for now, hes my "fun" time guy. Nothing serious, but someone to have fun with. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 No shame in having a "fun time" guy. Enjoy the time you have with him but remember to always be smart especially knowing he's not ready to be serious. Don't be one of those women who doesn't listen when a guy tells them exactly the way he wants things to be. Good luck!
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