M8 3 Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 I was dating a girl for 3.5 years. I'm 23, she's 22. She moved in to my family house 2 years ago. Last half a year she was really hard for us. We both got new Jobs and also was studying. She moved out to her mother place because we had some issues with my family. We practically hadn’t had time for each due to work. Contact was limited, we’ve seen each other like every week for an hour. No sex, no quality time. There was some fights before due to that. Initially we decided to broke up, because there was no relationship in our relationship anymore. It was in late August. After that we talked about our relationship. She said that 3.5 years is too much, she is so young, she want to date different people. After the break up we we’re sometimes speaking to each other, but not much. I tried no contact in December. During that time she unfollowed me on instagram and facebook. In early January I asked her out. She said that although she is still sad, it’s a bit to late and she decided to move on. She said that she isn’t exactly alone anymore. I replied that I’m ain’t alone either, but that is why I asked her, that it isn't the same. And that was it. I unfriended her on Facebook, unfollowed her instagram, deleted every chat we had. After a week I asked some stupid question on Facebook she completely blocked me there. And now I’m here. I feel so sad that we broke up. It was a crisis in our lives, and we just needed to wait it out. We needed to talk about our issues, not just end everything.The crisis has passed, but we aren’t together anymore. We were suppose to live together in our own place since 2017. And I don’t know what to do. I still love her and care for her.
preraph Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 I'm sorry it didn't work out, but it sounds like it is truly over. I know you probably have no choice but to live with your parents, but it does create a lot of issues and also delays maturity and self-development. It's hard for someone to stop being a kid until they learn to live on their own, plus supporting oneself builds self-esteem, which makes us more confident and desirable. Not to mention the fact of just sharing space is a strain. Your woman isn't coming back, I'm afraid, and I think you should work as hard as you can and work two jobs if you can and just save money and gain experience so you can be on your own someday before trying to have a girlfriend again. Just work on improving your overall situation. Don't try to hang on. Someday you would just look back and hate yourself for wasting that time. Good luck.
james25 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 its impossible . as everyone says. i tried. didnt work. keep your head up
mccluskeyj17 Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 Breaking up can be hard and it can be even harder moving forward. Although you are sad about the breakup and you still love and care for her, from what you’ve shared she has put this relationship behind her and has moved on. Although you want her back, it would be best for you to move forward with your life. Learn from this relationship so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship. Just as you have made progress by getting a new job, take this time to make improvements in other areas of your life. You may want to go forward and get your own place and get established as a young man. This way you will build up your confidence and know that you are no longer a child but have transitioned into manhood/adulthood. Living in your parents’ home may have caused this young lady to lose respect for you as well as question whether you are husband material. Although, women work outside of the homes, we want to be taken care of and know that we are safe. Take this time and continue to better yourself, and when your mind goes to think about your ex, redirect your thoughts to think about the progress you are making.
mightycpa Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 She said that 3.5 years is too much, she is so young, she want to date different people....She said that although she is still sad, it’s a bit to late and she decided to move on....She said that she isn’t exactly alone anymore.. she completely blocked me If you'll just listen to what she's telling you, you'll see that you can't get her back.
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