CaliforniaGirl Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Grey, is this the same girl as "Worried After Second Date"? If it is, this isn't going anywhere. You really need to move on. You are dragging her to dates, basically. She's not interested and pages of anxiety for weeks on your part says it all.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Not necessarily. Some girls don't reach out in the beginning because they are seeing how interested the guy is and how much effort he'll put in. And some girls don't wanna come across as if they're chasing the guy. Instead of just texting her to say what's up, actually set up a date. This -- if she's still responding, setup Date # 2 OP. Tease/Flirt a bit, keep things interesting.
Gaeta Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 This -- if she's still responding, setup Date # 2 OP. Tease/Flirt a bit, keep things interesting. Wrong theory. So this girl would snapchat and text me pretty frequently for an entire week..multiple times a day. Went on a first date, and now she's cut that down A LOT She had no problem initiating contact several times a day before meeting him. Her attention dropped after their 1st meeting. She lost interest. She replies to his text just for entertainment.
thecrucible Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 Ah Grey, if we lived near each other I'm sure we could have friendly chats about our mutual dating woes. If things are feeling right on that second date, just cut it off. The not knowing what might have happened is a better feeling than the one you'd get chasing something that won't happen.
Author Grey40 Posted January 28, 2017 Author Posted January 28, 2017 Grey, is this the same girl as "Worried After Second Date"? If it is, this isn't going anywhere. You really need to move on. You are dragging her to dates, basically. She's not interested and pages of anxiety for weeks on your part says it all. No this is not the same girl, totally different. I gave up on that one a while ago. This is someone new. Update, she bailed on tonight's second date, but very difficult to tell if it's honest or not. Here's what she texted me this afternoon. " Hey. Not feeling to well I had to leave work early and everything. Don't think I'm going to be able to go out later I literally feel like I got hit by a car . If I wake up from my nap feeling better I'll let you know but right now I feel terrible." Me: ah damn was really looking forward to seeing you again. Alright let me know And feel better. Her: "Thank you I'm sorry, my manager was sick she must have passed it on me" So legitimate possible excuse. How should I handle this. Like I said I follow her snapchat and Instagram so if she's lieing and does go out and post something, that'll be the end of i---she'll get blocked instantly.? But what if she's telling the truth? I guess I have to wait and retry now
thecrucible Posted January 28, 2017 Posted January 28, 2017 Hi Grey, you can just say that you hope she feels better soon (shows you care) and then ask her to get in touch when she feels better (puts the ball in her court).
Author Grey40 Posted January 29, 2017 Author Posted January 29, 2017 (edited) Hi Grey, you can just say that you hope she feels better soon (shows you care) and then ask her to get in touch when she feels better (puts the ball in her court). That's exactly what I did. She just posted a snapchat of her at the store looking at stuff. So much for bed ridden. At least if you're gonna lie be a little more covert haha, I'm honestly debating just totally never contacting her again. I understand that maybe she's on her period or not in the mood to hang out, but, man I hate being bailed on the day of. And, hate it even more that I saw it coming and my gut was correct. Edited January 29, 2017 by Grey40
Miss Spider Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 Ball is in her court. You have no reason to ever contact her again if she doesn't get back to you. That'd be her saying she's not interested.
Author Grey40 Posted January 29, 2017 Author Posted January 29, 2017 And it's a bummer cause she's one of 3 girls I'm seeing at the moment and of course she's the one I was starting lean toward.
Miss Spider Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 I really understand it sucks. But who makes an elaborate excuse(lie) to cancel a datethe afternoon of then cant even wait a day to post new snapchat when she knows this person is looking at her snap chat. Sounds like an immature person and not very aware of others. I think you dodged a bullet.
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 29, 2017 Posted January 29, 2017 I really understand it sucks. But who makes an elaborate excuse(lie) to cancel a datethe afternoon of then cant even wait a day to post new snapchat when she knows this person is looking at her snap chat. Sounds like an immature person and not very aware of others. I think you dodged a bullet. A very young person, that's who.
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