cbb48 Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 (edited) My boyfriend and I who were living together just broke up. The reason being he is in the Coast Guard and transferring in 5 months and he doesn't know what will happen. He is divorced and his ex wife went a little crazy and cheated on him, verbally abused him with it even becoming physical some times. Although he has never shied away from being with me (he was the first to say I love you and to ask me to move in) it is clear that relationship took its toll on him. We have had very open and honest communication about things and he felt it was best for us to break up. When I accepted that and packed up my belongings he changed his mind and cried asking me to stay. Our relationship went back to normal for about a month until I brought up that I gave 110% and he didn't return all th effort. He broke down and said my heart isn't in it and you deserve so much more. I'm sorry I'm so ****ed up and we broke up again. That entire night we were up together crying as I packed and then the next day we ran errands and hung out, having some really sentimental moments ( slow dancing in the kitchen, cuddling watching movies, grabbing coffee, intimacy and such). It was very emotional when I finally did leave but we had a conversation about this is best, we're going to talk all the time still, skype, text, and visit. We even made plans this weekend to go away and stay in a hotel to go to a concert and zoo trip. He made me promise we were going to stay in each other's lives and said "I didn't even cry this much when I got divorced". We both agreed this is a smart decision to take time for ourselves but still be in each other's lives. I Don't understand why break-up if you're still in love? And why is he still talking about having a future? I am having a hard time not overreacting and letting life happen with this and I just don't want to get my hopes up. I love him and support him through all of this and he does the same for me. But what do you do when timing just isn't right? Is there actually a future? Edited January 26, 2017 by cbb48 messed up
fromheart Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 I've been in a similar situation. Break up once and its probably going to happen again, break up twice then it just becomes a cycle. It really is best to call it a day. I know you're probably feeling that there is still so much care between you but you have to face it, you've broken up. You could be in some sort of close communication but not quite together, then he's dating someone else. Don't get into that position. Really best just to move on, otherwise you could get hurt later. As for him, he's in a job that could mean life or death if not fully focused. Its really best for him to move on also. Sorry to not be able to say what you want to her, like I said I've been there and its a difficult one. Look after yourself.
james25 Posted January 27, 2017 Posted January 27, 2017 keep your head up , try to be happy.. sometimes its impossible to fight the laws of the universe
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