Jadedbyluv Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Nothing ever seems to be easy. Especially when it comes to dating. Long story short, dating a guy for 5 months and on Saturday we had a conversation where he said he wasn't relationship material. He cares for me,feels we have a great connection, blah, blah, blah. I took it to mean things were over. I asked him if I could drop off his things at his place. He said I didn't need to do that, and he would come by to get them. So the plan is him just come and go, but he shows up with a birthday present. He ends up taking me out for my birthday, and we spend a great night together like nothing has changed. Super flirty, great convo as always. We come back to my place, and he is convincing me to hold on to the things for now. He can come get them after his vacation. He asked me what I wanted while he's on vacation. Kissed me. Continued to talk about future things we could do when he gets back. He asked me one more time about the stuff, and caught up in the moment I kept it for now. He kissed me good bye and wished me a happy birthday and said he would see me once he gets back. I'm so confused. Everything about last night felt like Saturday never happened. A few days ago he says he isn't built for relationship then spends time with me and does everything in the definition of a relationship.
smackie9 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 He's getting stead sex from you right?? That's why he is making sure you stick around...saying and doing things to make you stay.
PrincessWarrior1 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Let it go and don't worry your pretty little head about it. The answer is just as simple as they are (men) and no offense to any reading this. This is all just most men's MO (method of operation). They can swear up and down how they are not "playing games" and don't want to but the fact still remains that they do. Fall back and just start taking care of yourself and doing girly things that make u happy. I myself have been neglecting going to the gym and that's coming to a screetching halt as my boyfriend, and this is someone claiming to be crazy in love w me and I'm his dream girl, he changes his story. First it's I'll do anything I'm going to marry you, this is it blah blah. Then I have an 18 year old that I'm trying to train and set on the right path for the rest of his life. We sometimes get into screaming matches and my boyfriend just bails or sticks up for my son and let's him disrespect me then his answer is: "He's not my son." Whatever! Ok, I'm falling back and he can go sleep on his couch at his house. They swear up and down it don't matter if we chase them and it's all BS because it does matter. I love him more than anything so I'm going to practice and continue to do what I've learned through extensive reading is the right thing to do. Hugs my friend, everything is going to be alright!
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 OP it sounds like he doesn't want to commit, but still wants to keep you around. I would keep your guard up, and definitely sit down and talk with him to find out what the heck is going through his head. Definitely mixed signals.
Sara1989 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Does he want to date other women? Really you should have talked to him about this before spending the day together. Also funny how he wants to be single on his vacation eh.
Author Jadedbyluv Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 He's getting stead sex from you right?? That's why he is making sure you stick around...saying and doing things to make you stay. Before the talk, I had cut back on the sex and there is definitely no promise of steady sex moving forward. Does he want to date other women? Really you should have talked to him about this before spending the day together. Also funny how he wants to be single on his vacation eh. He said there is no other women. He is having a mini identity crisis at the moment going through some personal stuff with his career and stuff
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Did you sleep with him on this particular night? The night of your birthday?
Erik30 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Seems like he doesn't think you're "the one," but later on he realized that he also doesn't want to be alone, so you're good enough for now...
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