katty Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Still needing help, I wish I could just accept our breakup and move on as friends but I have to admit that I have not been the same since he called today. I was actually getting thru at least 20 minutes of the day without thinking of him and then he calls. I just don't get it. If someone could read my last post and give me their opinion of what is really going on I would greatly appreciate it. I hate to keep sounding like a broken record but I am just so confused. It's weird bc I am trying to accept his decision and I have not contacted him at all since he dumped me but he called me the next day and then of course the telephone call today. What gives? He is one of the sweetest guys I know so I don't think he is doing this to hurt me. Help me. Please read my past post he called, I picked up to understand my situation.
thegame Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 i am going throught the same thing..she broke up with me and i feel the same as u she keeps on calling and wanting to be my friend to be honest i dont think friendship works most of the time in these situations i dont think mine will work either but what can we say
katty Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 I wouldn't mind being friends with him on down the road but right now his calling this soon after the break up just confuses me. I want to be friends but I do know that I will have to heal before I can do so.
Candy Cane Posted July 21, 2005 Posted July 21, 2005 Hi Katty. My ex does the very same thing. It's incredibly hard to speculate as to why they are doing this. Maybe they still have lingering feelings and just aren't ready to let go yet. Maybe they just don't know what they want. Regardless, I'd throw that "friend" concept right out the window. That friend approach is just a temporary fortress for those who are stuck between love and indifference. You hear a lot of opinions on what to do. Not to answer the phone...to confront them head on...it's hard to say what the right thing to do in this situation. So...I asked my brother what I should do in this situation. He told me that if I had any feelings left for the guy that I should answer the phone when he calls, be friendly, but not too friendly. I should not volunteer any information unless asked and should not probe him for information. It's important that he do all the work. In the meantime, I go on with my life as though he were not a part of it, always scoping out my possibilities. And then, I try not to think about the outcome. I just let it all go. I need to be okay with the fact that he may not call for days and days or that he may never call again. I will be okay with that because I no longer depend on him calling or being with him. I think that's the place that you need to be in. Just tell yourself that you are going to "let go" of the situation and only then can things happen as they were meant to happen. Good luck!
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