Rainbow106 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 (edited) What can I say that hasn't been said a million times before?! My ex is a lower league soccer player here in the UK. We'd known each other for 3 years and decided to make a proper go of it. It lasted about 6 months before a "fan" of his on social media clocked onto the fact we were dating & decided to cause a bit of trouble. By a bit of trouble I mean message him & ask for an autograph, then push him about his love life. As my ex didn't mention me she then moved onto me and sent me a barrage of abuse. Anyway, long story short. He ended it. I was heartbroken, even though the relationship was short I actually felt like I'd met my "soulmate". (I'm 33) We stayed in contact on & off and I met up with him when he was travelling about. In October time, he ended it again saying that it wasn't fair on either of us, as my feelings came back pretty hard. I knew he cared, but I'd fallen again. I found out from a few friends he was on dating sites, but I'd started talking to someone else by that point so wasn't overly bothered. Yes, it hurt, but I was also active on tinder, so was in no position to comment! Over Christmas he got back in touch and I agreed to go to see him a few weeks back as I'd a few days off work. We had 2&1/2 days together, and honestly it was great. One of the nights we got horrendously drunk & he told me he still loves me etc etc. The day after when I left him he asked to see me again when he was playing at a ground close to me (which is this weekend coming) I agreed and left on a high. A few days later he messaged and said he didn't think it was a good idea to see each other again. Obviously I was confused, hurt, upset. It turns out the "fan" found him on a dating site he was active on and told him it wasn't fair that he was on there because he'd just been with me and then proceeded to tell him a load of lies about what he'd said to me in a bar when he was drunk. He obviously backed off me, but admitted that everytime he sees me he gets a load of **** and he doesn't want that he wants a normal relationship. Which i understand, but unfair on me! Anyway, last night after not hearing from him for 2 days I decided to bite the bullet and ask what's going off as I'd made childcare plans for this weekend to see him. Even though he hasn't been in touch with me, he'd told someone he was seeing me again at the weekend. We got into a massive message conversation and he said at first that (& I quote) "The reality is I don't think we should be together or try even though we had a good week. I'd always have a good time with you but my heart says no. I can't change how I feel so I apologise, despite what I said when I was drunk. It was all rubbish." So I thanked him for his honesty, yes, it hurt, but I was glad to know. Then he started saying all about the girl that got involved and how she is "just crazy not normal and I hate it". So I said i hate it too as what she'd said about me destroyed my self esteem and my want to date again. He then said "This situation has nothing to do with you yet it happened because of who I am. I don't want you to be hurt about any of it!" Basically it was left last night with him saying "We can be friends but that's it. I can't deal with that **** and move on as much as I'd want too." This morning after no sleep last night I decided to message him a whole massive paragraph about if it's just to do with her then that can be sorted, but if it's to do with anything else then I'm walking away now because I deserve better than that. He read it 2 hours ago, and obviously no reply. So that's my story. I'm here for some support, some back up because honestly I have no real life friends. No one to turn too to talk too about this. Thanks for reading. Edited January 25, 2017 by Rainbow106 Spelling
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