Unbelievable!!

[4realgirl75]

I met my dream guy shortly after his divorce. He had been married for 15 years and 3 kids. His ex wife moved out of the state so it made me feel somewhat comfortable thinking it would be a drama free relationship. We became friends and it soon turned into a romantic relationship. There were some red flags but nothing is ever perfect. We dated went on trips and I actually was introduced to his mother and other relatives with the exception of his kids. Of course I brushed off as him being protective of his kids. Suddenly the wife moves back to the area. Again he assured me I had no worries that they were finished. He even made me a copy of the divorce decree enough said! He was deployed for 6 months and he became very close during this time. When he returned our relationship was even stronger. Then I started getting phone calls from the ex wife. I assumed she was a bitter resentful ex trying to come in between us. She said I wouldn't win blah blAh!! Again I knew we loved each other and I was about to be intimidated by her after All she divorced him! The day I longed for finally arrived! He proposed to me after 2 years with a 2ct diamond! I was overjoyed I was finally getting the man of my dreams. I knew he wasn't in a rush to the alter but I was a blushing bride to be. Gradually he began to change. Not being available, not talking just distant. I felt it was me. I applied to much pressure so I suggested we give each other some head space. I mean I still wore my ring as I knew we would be together the relationship had blossomed! Unfortunately the space pushed him farther away. The dreaded day came we finally called it quits and I gave him back the ring. Less than 2 months later I received a text photo of him kissing his bride and it wasn't me. It was his ex-wife!! Hurt can't begin to explain my pain. He dumped me and remarried her! Who does this!! We are both successful and could of had it all! He made his choice and I am left picking up my broken heart. Is this common? I don't know of anyone else this has happened to except me. I'm 39 never been married no kids and he's 41. I still cry and wonder why me? Feedback aporeciated!

[dumbass2]

So sorry. That was tough to even read.

 

how long had you guys dated and did you ever have a discussion about the divorce and what the reasons were?

[4realgirl75]

We dated for over two years. He said she wasn't happy and she wanted out of the marriage. He never really wanted to open up about the divorce. I heard through the grapevine she cheated on him. He never spoke of it. He just said he was done and moving forward. Everyone was on his side spoke highly of him. Very well respected person.

[4realgirl75]

Perhaps this is the true meaning of the rebound woman. I do recall he never wanted to come to my family gatherings. Always bad timing he say. He did meet my family but hardly came around.