ashaya Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Hey guys A girl who had really liked me for ages dumped me after two weeks. But it wasn;t just a romantic rejection, she totally vanished out of my life. And this was after almost 2 years of close friendship. I didn't so anything "wrong" - what do you think happened? I asked her and she lied, but I won;t go into the details. 1
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Without details it really could be any reason under the sun. She didn't want to hurt you.It was too painful for her to be in contact with you.Her new BF didn't want her to be in contact with her ex.Her parole officer won't let her contact you.She was abducted by aliens. Etc etc... who knows?? It's really impossible to say with so little to go on. 2
Author ashaya Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Good point. I'm 29, she was 21. I had a lot of unresolved issues, nothing serious, just stuff that hurts my confidence. She also started seeing her ex again as soon as she broke things off with me, but that doesn't really explain why she didn't even want friendship. At the time she said she wasn't in a position to be in a relationship - not that I needed or expected that from her, which I told her. When she vanished she said it was because of anxiety/being busy which, clearly wasn't true, but I got the hint and stopped bothering. 1
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 She also started seeing her ex again as soon as she broke things off with me, but that doesn't really explain why she didn't even want friendship. Oh yes it does. See the 3rd option I wrote above. She doesn't want a friendship with her ex (you) because it would cause drama between her and her bf. Especially since she has a history of getting back with exes. 4
fromheart Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Good point. I'm 29, she was 21. I had a lot of unresolved issues, nothing serious, just stuff that hurts my confidence. She also started seeing her ex again as soon as she broke things off with me, but that doesn't really explain why she didn't even want friendship. At the time she said she wasn't in a position to be in a relationship - not that I needed or expected that from her, which I told her. When she vanished she said it was because of anxiety/being busy which, clearly wasn't true, but I got the hint and stopped bothering. Sounds like you were a temporary rebound, while she figured out her feelings for her BF. Not a good friend and certainly not a potential GF. I'd say goodbye to that one, nothing lost. 2
Satu Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 It was a rebound relationship that ran it's course. Try to avoid getting involved with someone who still has a head full of somebody else. View it as a learning experience. Take care. 2
Shanex Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 It was a rebound relationship that ran it's course. Try to avoid getting involved with someone who still has a head full of somebody else. View it as a learning experience. Take care. So we keep telling that here and they keep ignoring. Just joking. I've been here a number of times. We learn from past mistakes and sometimes our Naivety. 1
BAcK Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 You were just a rebound. A makeshift boyfriend. As soon as the ex resurfaced she broke up with you. There is nothing wrong with you and do as Satu says. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Good point. I'm 29, she was 21. I had a lot of unresolved issues, nothing serious, just stuff that hurts my confidence. She also started seeing her ex again as soon as she broke things off with me, but that doesn't really explain why she didn't even want friendship. At the time she said she wasn't in a position to be in a relationship - not that I needed or expected that from her, which I told her. When she vanished she said it was because of anxiety/being busy which, clearly wasn't true, but I got the hint and stopped bothering. Yes, it does. Would you want your girlfriend to remain friends with a very recent ex? Probably not. 1
preraph Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Also sometimes even if you think you really might like someone, it may only take 2 weeks of dating (or one date even) to realize you really aren't that into him or her.
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