Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Awwww yeaaaahhh!! That's the kind of update we like! Grats and have fun on your date! Be nice to him now(I'm joking) 2
Author Sandwoman Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 You're on pins and needles. Time to chill out a bit. Get on with life. He may not respond and you need to be ok with that. Just one that got away. There are other fish in the sea. Yes we are going out again! Thank you so much!!! You guys are wonderful. It's really funny that he actually thought I weren't interested because he's not super rich...while I thought he weren't interested because I weren't smart enough... 1
Author Sandwoman Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Awwww yeaaaahhh!! That's the kind of update we like! Grats and have fun on your date! Be nice to him now(I'm joking) Thanks so much <3 haha I will...
Author Sandwoman Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Yay girl!!!! *muuaaahhh* So happy for you.... Next time show interest and just be yourself... take care dear Awww Thanks so much! Your text works wonders! I would never be so brace to ask him out... really need to address my own insecurities haha 1
Sara1989 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Aww love that you got the outcome you wanted op. Usually I say to never chase a guy at the start but in this case, you gave off some really bad vibes! glad you sorted it out. 1
coolheadal Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 First dates anything can happen. You can't change you no can you change him. Your suppose to contact man and show that your interested in him for that second date. Text - so impersonal Cell - voice chat Person - is best So if I was you why don't you call him on his cell and say hi. How's your day going today? I had a fun time on our date. Looking forward to our second date and more of those good times with you. " That is what I would say to him if I was you. Don't text to much one text is all you need. Gave him time to respond to your text. If he's interested he would contact you back. If not, move on there are other met online that would enjoy your company.
Author Sandwoman Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 First dates anything can happen. You can't change you no can you change him. Your suppose to contact man and show that your interested in him for that second date. Text - so impersonal Cell - voice chat Person - is best So if I was you why don't you call him on his cell and say hi. How's your day going today? I had a fun time on our date. Looking forward to our second date and more of those good times with you. " That is what I would say to him if I was you. Don't text to much one text is all you need. Gave him time to respond to your text. If he's interested he would contact you back. If not, move on there are other met online that would enjoy your company. Thanks so much for your suggestion! I did text him and we are going out again this Thursday! 1
Author Sandwoman Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 Yay girl!!!! *muuaaahhh* So happy for you.... Next time show interest and just be yourself... take care dear So, after admitting he misjudged me (as being high-maintenance from what he hinted), he said let's hang out again this week, so I said come to this event at school. (He met the host who is my classmate last time and she invited him, that's why I invited him...). He said ok...and suggested we could get some food before the event because he needed to attend a thing afterward. I said my class ended late that day but I can try and he should still come. Then he said ok sure. I said great, see you then. We haven't texted since. Does that look good? I'm now second guessing maybe I should have waited for him to arrange things...did I sound a little pushy and overcompensate?...How should I act on a date? just assume he likes me? I'm feeling insecure again...
Author Sandwoman Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 Aww love that you got the outcome you wanted op. Usually I say to never chase a guy at the start but in this case, you gave off some really bad vibes! glad you sorted it out. Thanks so much!!! Now we haven't texted since and the date is coming and I'm feeling slightly insecure again.
winny Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Okay lets say you never see him again or never have a date with him again, would that be such a huge loss? You will be totally fine. Always try to work from a place of faith and positivity. Have enough faith in yourself that whatever is the outcome you would be able to deal with it and it is the best for you. You have done your part.... now stop worrying and let things unfold themselves. You cannot control everything. At this stage after one date you should be very less invested. Your insecurity is something that you need to work on and that has nothing to do with this guy's or any other person's actions. Everything will be fine.... 1
winny Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 Does that look good? I'm now second guessing maybe I should have waited for him to arrange things...did I sound a little pushy and overcompensate?...How should I act on a date? just assume he likes me? I'm feeling insecure again... Why you have to assume anything or act like anything... on the date you should be observing him and evaluating him to find out whether he is good for you. Even now, everything he is doing or not doing, that makes you uncomfortable, you should take note of it and see if thats acceptable to you or not. If you like texting every day he doesn't then you have to think if you are okay with it or not. Don't take anything personally just evaluate him.... 1
Jj66 Posted January 25, 2017 Posted January 25, 2017 As hard as it is, try not to be invested so much in the outcome of any particular date or with any particular person. Even if this guy isn't right for you, you will eventually find someone you click with. Have faith in yourself and keep on keeping on. 2
Author Sandwoman Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 Why you have to assume anything or act like anything... on the date you should be observing him and evaluating him to find out whether he is good for you. Even now, everything he is doing or not doing, that makes you uncomfortable, you should take note of it and see if thats acceptable to you or not. If you like texting every day he doesn't then you have to think if you are okay with it or not. Don't take anything personally just evaluate him.... Thanks so much for reinstating these truths! I do take rejections personally and seek validation and lose focus of what I want. They have caused lots of miscommunications in the past...I often tried to manipulate situations in the past and nothing good came out of it. Need to learn from them and work on these insecurities! Your words make so much sense. I just need to be reminded from time to time that things will unfold as it should be. What's best for me will reveal itself sooner or later. What's best is what I feel comfortable with. 1
Author Sandwoman Posted January 25, 2017 Author Posted January 25, 2017 As hard as it is, try not to be invested so much in the outcome of any particular date or with any particular person. Even if this guy isn't right for you, you will eventually find someone you click with. Have faith in yourself and keep on keeping on. What you are saying is so true. Thank you for the reminder! I'll try to keep this in mind all the way...
Author Sandwoman Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 Perfect... I sent him a text confirming tmr. He saw it but never replied. That was a few hours ago. Meanwhile he just logged onto the dating app... I feel like he never had interest...
winny Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 So you expect a man to stop using the dating app after one date with a woman? Cool down... if he never responds then you know your answer. One date is nothing to be so alarmed. And you are also on the dating app yourself.... 1
Miss Spider Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Aw man. My experience has always been no matter how standoffish I am, it never stops the really interested guys from following up. But I was still hoping this one worked out. It's one thing to still be on the app, another to ignore a text confirmation about a date. I'd throw this fishy back. Hoping for the best 1
winny Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 Aw man. My experience has always been no matter how standoffish I am, it never stops the really interested guys from following up. But I was still hoping this one worked out. It's one thing to still be on the app, another to ignore a text confirmation about a date. I'd throw this fishy back. Hoping for the best Yeah ignoring the text - not good..! Maybe he is trying to get a confirmation from another woman and waiting for that before he confirms to OP.
Author Sandwoman Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 Yeah ignoring the text - not good..! Maybe he is trying to get a confirmation from another woman and waiting for that before he confirms to OP. No I don't mind him using the app...My point is that...he's on the app apparently he could have replied my confirmation...
Redhead14 Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 No I don't mind him using the app...My point is that...he's on the app apparently he could have replied my confirmation... She means, he was seeing if there was something better he could line up before he replied . . . if there was another option, he would either not respond or cancel. Block and delete him. Don't respond even if he does reply now. He's done and you should be too. 1
Miss Spider Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 That's a deal breaker for me. The day before your date and he's not confirming but has time to use a dating app? I don't know your standards, but even if he got back, I'd say never mind
Author Sandwoman Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 She means, he was seeing if there was something better he could line up before he replied . . . if there was another option, he would either not respond or cancel. Block and delete him. Don't respond even if he does reply now. He's done and you should be too. But we already set up the time and activity two days ago. I don't think he's waiting for another thing. He probably just bailed out/changed his mind about seeing me altogether
Author Sandwoman Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 That's a deal breaker for me. The day before your date and he's not confirming but has time to use a dating app? I don't know your standards, but even if he got back, I'd say never mind Damn I know you are probably right... I just feel so bad about this **** him...
Author Sandwoman Posted January 26, 2017 Author Posted January 26, 2017 **** he just replied and confirmed the time... after seven hours... ok...
Redhead14 Posted January 26, 2017 Posted January 26, 2017 But we already set up the time and activity two days ago. I don't think he's waiting for another thing. He probably just bailed out/changed his mind about seeing me altogether He probably just bailed out/changed his mind about seeing me altogether -- YEAH. And, now he's looking to fill the spot or setting up the next one . . . Semantics -- bottomline, he's not confirming because he's not interested. You gotta let this go.
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