gregory79 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months, started out great, he never was a great texter from the beginning, usually only to set up the next time we were hanging out. Over time though texting has become less and less and we went from seeing each other a few times a week to now once a month. Around new years I decided to delete his number from my phone and tried to move on. Today I slipped up and ended up messaging him on fb to ask him how he was doing after about 3 weeks. He immediately replied and we had a conversation. I acted like everything was fine, and he said we are way overdue to see each other and it's his fault and that the last three weeks have been crazy because he's preparing to go to Europe for a few months for a sabbatical, and asked me what my week was like. I said I was pretty free this week and this was earlier this afternoon. He hasn't responded to set a plan up yet. The thing is I never truly had a conversation about how I was feeling about him, and don't think I communicated enough about how I really like him. For the record I'm a guy too so I feel like there's no rules on who needs to initiate first, but I did feel like I wanted him to show more of an effort. I kind of want to see him to have a conversation about how I've been feeling but not sure if it's even worth it at this point.
smackie9 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Absolutely pointless. A guy doesn't text because he doesn't want to.He has no interest.....telling him you have feelings for him or whatever won't change the way he feels about you and that is, not really interested. Stop wasting your time.
ThisisIt606 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 it doesn't seem worth it at this point, especially since he seems to be leaving relatively soon to Europe for a sabbatical. Sabbaticals typically last a year or so. Even if you were more upfront with him, he would still be gone an far away for a year. Very hard to carry on any sort of relationship like that. 1
Author gregory79 Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Update - he just reached out to meet up this wednesday night for dinner. he's going for 3-4 months, it's actually a fellowship thing. I am still into him, think I'm going to go at least to hear him out. 1
Soul Bear Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Ummmm....did everyone miss the part where he is going to Europe.... Don't waste your time if he's going away.....maybe he will stay in contact but I would go out and live your life until he gets back. Then see how
Author gregory79 Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Yeah I think I'll see him this week to at least say goodbye etc. then definitely live my life while he's away, and not put much into it. 1
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I think he likes you but because he is going away so he isn't sure what to do. I would say meet him and stay in touch. When he returns if you have not met anyone better then ask him out again... 3-4 months is nothing and will go away super fast. 2
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