sweetmimosa Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I recently had the strangest 'date' if I can even call it that. I met a man online and began communicating via text. I noticed he didn't ask me anything about myself to establish basic interests and so forth but was eager to meet. This was a bit of a red flag for me but I didn't want to waste time so I decided to meet him. I met up with him in a public place and he wanted me to go to his house for 'drinks'. I refused as I barely knew him and flat out told him that I would not be comfortable going to a stranger's house. He rambled for a good few minutes talking spiel about how he was a decent guy and that going to a bar or restaurant would not be comfortable for him. He went on to say that conversation with a woman to find out her background, likes/dislikes and so forth was 'boring' and he'd rather get to know a woman's sexuality first. Frankly he sounded ridiculous,selfish and entitled. This guy seemed to think that because he was good looking and financially successful that he was entitled to things on his terms. He stated that he wasn't like other men I'd dated - I had to inform him that he didn't know me and therefore could not possibly know the type of guys I'd dated in the past. He kept talking about how he wasn't a regular/normal guy and that's how he liked things in his world as he put it. This was complete bull as I've dated wealthy men and those of average income and they all managed to show basic decency and respect. He was adamant that we would be going nowhere but to his house. This guy tried to be manipulative by basically calling me old fashioned. Because I refused to go to his house the 'date' ended and I went home. For a man in his mid 30's to lack awareness in this way was frankly disturbing. He seemed to think that his financial status (being a millionaire) gave him rights over me but I wasn't a hooker and he hadn't paid for my time. He didn't even want to go for a drink or something like any normal man would. If all he wanted was sex, I don't get why he didn't put that on his profile. He's good looking, so I'm sure there are women out there who would be willing. Though I don't think any woman would expect to be treated like some kind of free prostitute which is what he was doing given that he didn't want to establish any kind of friendship. The whole thing was just weird and nothing like I've experienced before. I'm glad I dodged a bullet there. 1
Simple Logic Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 A "millionare" would be on a dating app expecting free hookers? 4
Author sweetmimosa Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 His background from what I could find seemed legitimate and suggested he's fairly well off. He came to meet me in a flashy sports car probably hoping I'd be impressed.
Shining One Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 OP, he's probably used to encountering women who swoon at his flashy displays of wealth. You didn't, so he didn't know how to handle the situation and became flustered. 1
IfonlyIknew Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 You're lucky you were able to leave. This is how women get robbed and raped. 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 A "millionare" would be on a dating app expecting free hookers? I know, right? Methinks Dude doth protest too much. Now, IMO, he IS entitled to release, but I mean, that's God gives us all two hands. One is for the computer mouse.
Jj66 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 My assumption is he's married. Why else would he not want to go to a bar or restaurant?
chphan Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 If all he wanted was sex, I don't get why he didn't put that on his profile. Oh I don't know. Maybe it's because most women with online profiles say they aren't looking for players and one night stand or being a booty call? Guys don't lie at all with what they write on their profiles......
Author sweetmimosa Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Initially, it occurred to me that he could be attached but then I thought why would an attached man want me in his home? I found reliable sources showing he's lived at his address for a few years now with no evidence of any S.O.
Noproblem Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Such a waste of space. I am so proud of you for saying no to him! 2
Author sweetmimosa Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 (edited) Oh I don't know. Maybe it's because most women with online profiles say they aren't looking for players and one night stand or being a booty call? Guys don't lie at all with what they write on their profiles...... Have you seen Craigslist? There are women out there who are willing to have casual flings especially with a tall, good looking man with a great body. That's why I was baffled and couldn't understand the deceit and then subsequent attempt at manipulation. Edited January 23, 2017 by sweetmimosa
LoveFiend Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Seems like he was treating you as just another piece of meat and not the way a woman should be treated. From reading your post I really don't care for him. He can move onto other girls who are willing to just be used, your better than that and showed him that is not the way you want to be treated. It is like that song by Shania Twain "That Doesn't Impress Me Much" 1
BaileyB Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 You are lucky that you were able to leave, because you could have been in a lot of trouble. Listen to your gut - I would have gone to the bathroom after 5 minutes and never come back... Arrogant, entitled... Man. 1
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Initially, it occurred to me that he could be attached but then I thought why would an attached man want me in his home? I found reliable sources showing he's lived at his address for a few years now with no evidence of any S.O. Wow, you're really over-thinking this huh! He didn't put that he's looking for sex on his profile because if he did he'd get no replies. Guy's a douche. I'm amazed you even sat there listening to his drivel for more than 30 seconds. I would've just got up and walked away. 3
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 You are very patient. As soon as he started that rambling about being such a great, misunderstood guy who finds getting to know a woman on a date boring ..Id find the nearest restroom ASAP
smackie9 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I would have told him to stop being such a cheap ^&*% and go pay for a hooker if he wanted sex that bad.
VeveCakes Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 A "millionare" would be on a dating app expecting free hookers? oh, its not that uncommon. I met someone similar OP. Using the site as a decoy saying he wants a relationship, but it was clear it was all for sex. Some rich guys think they are above hookers - but instead try to mind eff you. Glad OP was able to see through his BS. 2
preraph Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 He's just trying to pressure you and others into sex. He's a jackass. When he didn't try to get to know you you should have stopped thinking about meeting him. 1
mightycpa Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Well, I think you have to give him some credit. He could have played the part of a really nice guy, convinced you that he genuinely liked you, had sex after a while and then let you know he was an @$$hole, but instead, he told you up front, and you got the chance to decide on the merits. He could have been a whole lot worse, and you might be lamenting a whole lot more right now. So credit where credit is due.
chphan Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Have you seen Craigslist? There are women out there who are willing to have casual flings especially with a tall, good looking man with a great body. That's why I was baffled and couldn't understand the deceit and then subsequent attempt at manipulation. This isn't Craigslist now is it? Unless you aren't telling us everything. Or somehow you are equating Craigslist with the same standards are regular normal dating sites?
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 This isn't Craigslist now is it? Unless you aren't telling us everything. Or somehow you are equating Craigslist with the same standards are regular normal dating sites? I think the OP is saying she was puzzled because if he was literally just looking for sex, he could have gone on Craigslist and with no subterfuge whatsoever (and not even a degree of subtlety), this guy could have gotten what she wanted. So she's wondering why he didn't just do that. OP, I think it's either because... 1. that would have been less of a challenge, or 2. he just is NOT really that good at this. Look at some of the things this guy said. If you're quoting him accurately, this guy is NOT good at being "a player" or whatever. I mean...oh my God. Just...so bad. He needs to get his $600 back from that PUA course he just graduated from. 2
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