winny Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I want to but still hesitant...... Babe, you already slept with him... another text is not going to make or break your image in his mind... LOL I side with not texting but for your peace of mind since you seem to think u might have f*cked up by not reaching out to him... just do it.
Redhead14 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Men put yourself in his shoes...What was he thinking? Especially deleting me 3 weeks after I am not a man . . . but if I were to delete someone after 3 weeks, it means I forgot to delete them when I first decided I wasn't interested and/or I don't give a crap about social media interaction/venues as a demonstration of interest in a person but realize that a lot of people do . . . and/or don't want them to know what the heck I'm doing because some people stalk and live in the "virtual world" and don't get the message any other way. 2
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 But bottom line if he wanted to he would of contacted me some way :-/ Exactly!!! And at his age he should be showing maturity and not into games about who texts first especially when you know each other so long... 3
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 I am not a man . . . but if I were to delete someone after 3 weeks, it means I forgot to delete them when I first decided I wasn't interested and/or I don't give a crap about social media interaction/venues as a demonstration of interest in a person but realize that a lot of people do . . . and/or don't want them to know what the heck I'm doing because some people stalk and live in the "virtual world" and don't get the message any other way. Sorry but he did not forget to delete me as I was active in those 3 weeks and he even looked at my Instagram stories so no he did not forget...He only follows 200 people anyway
ThisisIt606 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 My two cents... All men want sex. Some will try for it earlier than others. I believe, if a guy TRULY likes you, it doesn't really matter how far into dating you are when you have sex... Granted you have talked already and enjoy each others company. If he found a girl he likes and he has sex with her... TO ME, that seems like a GREAT thing for him (and the woman if she's enjoying the time together). He would want to keep things moving with you... women's v*aginas/ her timing of when to have sex aren't "prizes". That's just so outdated and weird. If a woman wants (protective) sex, she should have it and not delay it bc she thinks that's what she *should* do to be a "prize". You can communicate that you are a "prize" in other ways (that don't have this socalized focus on sex). To be thought of has having value/being a "prize" a woman can speak about her great job, education, hobbies (enjoy art museums, playing the trumpet, dancing salsa every Thursday) whatever. How you talk about yourself shows what type of "prize" you are... not how long or short into dating you have sex. IF he is going into it with some sort of head game, "if she accepts my sex then ew she's too loose" or whatever than he set the relationship up for failure with weird story lines going on in his head. Not to mention yielding a huge double standard. If he vanishes after sex (2nd date, 4th date/1 month in, 8th date... whatever) then that's all he wanted from the get go. Sure, maybe he had to wait a bit more in some of these circumstances but in the end if a guy just wants sex, he will show that by disengaging after. I think this guy liked you, buttered you up, prob felt he had some things in common, enjoyed the sex and then vanished. Perhaps he freaked out and thought people would judge him for dating someone 20 years younger. Maybe he was nervous he couldn't bring you out without being called a "sugar daddy". Who knows? If you have a very youthful appearance this could have been both a lure to him and also something that made him nervous in the long run (due to judgment from others). 5
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I am not a man . . . but if I were to delete someone after 3 weeks, it means I forgot to delete them when I first decided I wasn't interested and/or I don't give a crap about social media interaction/venues as a demonstration of interest in a person but realize that a lot of people do . . . and/or don't want them to know what the heck I'm doing because some people stalk and live in the "virtual world" and don't get the message any other way. Yes. He doesn't want you to know what he is up to b/c he doesn't want you a part of his life. He's done with you. BTW OP, forget him being 50 and should be more mature, blah, blah, blah....Older men were players long before the digital age. It's just easier now to make contact and live a shrouded life. 2
Redhead14 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Sorry but he did not forget to delete me as I was active in those 3 weeks and he even looked at my Instagram stories so no he did not forget...He only follows 200 people anyway Too bad you didn't make the top 200. Harsh, but let this go. He's not interested. 3
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 My two cents... All men want sex. Some will try for it earlier than others. I believe, if a guy TRULY likes you, it doesn't really matter how far into dating you are when you have sex... Granted you have talked already and enjoy each others company. If he found a girl he likes and he has sex with her... TO ME, that seems like a GREAT thing for him (and the woman if she's enjoying the time together). He would want to keep things moving with you... women's v*aginas/ her timing of when to have sex aren't "prizes". That's just so outdated and weird. If a woman wants (protective) sex, she should have it and not delay it bc she thinks that's what she *should* do to be a "prize". You can communicate that you are a "prize" in other ways (that don't have this socalized focus on sex). To be thought of has having value/being a "prize" a woman can speak about her great job, education, hobbies (enjoy art museums, playing the trumpet, dancing salsa every Thursday) whatever. How you talk about yourself shows what type of "prize" you are... not how long or short into dating you have sex. IF he is going into it with some sort of head game, "if she accepts my sex then ew she's too loose" or whatever than he set the relationship up for failure with weird story lines going on in his head. Not to mention yielding a huge double standard. If he vanishes after sex (2nd date, 4th date/1 month in, 8th date... whatever) then that's all he wanted from the get go. Sure, maybe he had to wait a bit more in some of these circumstances but in the end if a guy just wants sex, he will show that by disengaging after. I think this guy liked you, buttered you up, prob felt he had some things in common, enjoyed the sex and then vanished. Perhaps he freaked out and thought people would judge him for dating someone 20 years younger. Maybe he was nervous he couldn't bring you out without being called a "sugar daddy". Who knows? If you have a very youthful appearance this could have been both a lure to him and also something that made him nervous in the long run (due to judgment from others). Yes A lot of people do tell me I look very young ..Most say 23 some even younger.... Maybe you're right...He was analyzing if this is worth it. I think he did like me because he did make an effort the next day to see me
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Yes. He doesn't want you to know what he is up to b/c he doesn't want you a part of his life. He's done with you. BTW OP, forget him being 50 and should be more mature, blah, blah, blah....Older men were players long before the digital age. It's just easier now to make contact and live a shrouded life. He didn't block me just unfollowed me! I still follow him and see his photos
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Too bad you didn't make the top 200. Harsh, but let this go. He's not interested. You'd be surprised that he doesn't follow a lot of women at all...Mostly men stuff and actors...
Redhead14 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Yes A lot of people do tell me I look very young ..Most say 23 some even younger.... Maybe you're right...He was analyzing if this is worth it. I think he did like me because he did make an effort the next day to see me I guess you don't need very much from a man . . . get a grip! The guy is 50 years old, getting attention from a 20 something . . . He's 50 something, not dead. Have you ever heard of a "mid-life crisis"? It's simply about a man who realizes he's getting long in the tooth and gets off on younger women giving them attention. They are on an ego-trip that causes them to negate/ignore reality and even their wives, children and/or current girlfriends. Women do this too . . . just wait til you're 50 or 60. You will find out "who you really are" . . . 3
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 I guess you don't need very much from a man . . . get a grip! The guy is 50 years old, getting attention from a 20 something . . . He's 50 something, not dead. Have you ever heard of a "mid-life crisis"? It's simply about a man who realizes he's getting long in the tooth and gets off on younger women giving them attention. They are on an ego-trip that causes them to negate/ignore reality and even their wives, children and/or current girlfriends. Women do this too . . . just wait til you're 50 or 60. You will find out "who you really are" . . . I'm not 23 I just look young. I'm 30 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 He didn't block me just unfollowed me! I still follow him and see his photos Interesting. I apologize. I misread your original post. It doesn't fundamentally change anything I've said, and others. He is not interested in your life from his behavior. I wonder if he knows how to use social media, instagram? Maybe he thought by unfollowing you that that meant you'd be blocked? Nevermind....
Robert Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 (edited) Reopening thread. A reminder to members, please use the alert us button instead of taking things into your own hands. Bashing and in-fighting just leads to bans of both respected members as well as previously banned ones. Thanks, ~ V Edited January 23, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Like test
BlueRidgeMT Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 so how was I to know he wanted to get laid only HA! Just figure that ALL men want to get laid only and you will be fine 3
Redhead14 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I'm not 23 I just look young. I'm 30 A distinguish without a difference
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Thanks everyone for the advice btw.... I really appreciate it 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 He didn't block me just unfollowed me! I still follow him and see his photos I would stop following, personally.
Jj66 Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 HA! Just figure that ALL men want to get laid only and you will be fine While not true, you should definitely assume that until proven otherwise. It's way safer that way.
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 I would stop following, personally. What else do you think? Why did he unfollow 3 weeks after sex?
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Who he follows isn't necessarily who he's all 'liking' and sliding DMs to... You think you're special because he told you? That's what players do. Why did he delete from Instagram? Most likely because he was too chicken **** to be real about his intentions, now he's cutting ties so you don't confront him. But Op's are gonna Op and go whichever way they were leaning despite advice So just text him and get it over with x.x 3
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Who he follows isn't necessarily who he's all 'liking' and sliding DMs to... You think you're special because he told you? That's what players do. Why did he delete from Instagram? Most likely because he was too chicken **** to be real about his intentions, now he's cutting ties so you don't confront him. But Op's are gonna Op and go whichever way they were leaning despite advice So just text him and get it over with x.x I don't know what to say.....Hi hope your well? 1
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 But Op's are gonna Op and go whichever way they were leaning despite advice So just text him and get it over with x.x Thats what I am telling since last few hours... LOL Just do it..! 1
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 Thats what I am telling since last few hours... LOL Just do it..! Yeah but trying to figure out my opening haha 1
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 I don't know what to say.....Hi hope your well? Hi X, How have you been? Sorry I was caught up with <insert genuine sounding excuse> and didn't get a chance to talk to you. Hope all is well at your end. ~Victoria 1
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