BuddhaWithMace Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 I have no idea how this happened. 43! How did I get to be this age? I swear it feels like my 30's were nothing more than a huge blur. I still feel/act/look like I'm in my 30's, yet finding someone to spend time with here is nearly impossible. Yeah, I have people hitting on me, but none of it is mutual. It's so frustrating. And to be perfectly honest, I'm sick and tired of being alone. I've been divorced for about three years and have had nothing but bad luck with men in my area. They either ghost, bench or are only out for sex. I'm seriously about to give up for good. 1
Sweetfish Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 I have no idea how this happened. 43! How did I get to be this age? I swear it feels like my 30's were nothing more than a huge blur. I still feel/act/look like I'm in my 30's, yet finding someone to spend time with here is nearly impossible. Yeah, I have people hitting on me, but none of it is mutual. It's so frustrating. And to be perfectly honest, I'm sick and tired of being alone. I've been divorced for about three years and have had nothing but bad luck with men in my area. They either ghost, bench or are only out for sex. I'm seriously about to give up for good. It will be more difficult as you continue to get older. Not saying there is no good men out there... but decent men at this age bracket can easily get a women 10 years younger as these guys have more experience in dating, may have their own home and car. They know more the rules of engagement... so thus they will focus more on younger women as these traits are appealing to them. The tables have now turned and you will have to be the "chaser" now. OLD is not a good platform for dating. 2
Satu Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 I've never done it myself, but going by what people say about OLD here, it's a ticket to disappointment. Common interest seems a better option to me. Join clubs and societies centred on your interests. Not 'meetup groups,' but actual real world groups, that meet regularly. I met one of my lovers at an astronomical observatory, during an evening spent watching cometary fragments impacting Jupiter When you meet people via common interest, you've got something to talk about right away. Take care.
preraph Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 You didn't mention kids, but I would just say that if you have them but you want to meet someone, you have to make time for someone and not just expect them to wedge themself into your life, and that means sometimes putting your plans over your kids' plans. If you don't have kids, you are still in a hard age range. As you said your 30s were a blur. May people who have been busy raising kids or being married and then are free to date again have the problem of still viewing themselves as younger, as you said you do, and have not made the adjustment to being attracted to people in their own age range and still find themselves only attracted to youth. If you don't get past that, you will not find anyone. Guys your age, many of them are still trying to date women in their 20s and 30s. But there are, I'm sure, some single fathers and divorcees out there and lonely if you keep being social and trying to make new friends. Good luck.
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