Broke the 9 days of NC but that was the last call I needed to give me closure!

[sanne]

well i guess it only works for ex's that we know are bad for us. i've never been in a relationship where i thought the woman i was with was the right one for me. i suppose you could use a different kind of reinforcement in that situation, telling yourself that things are over and that you need to move on.

[butterfly29]

Reinforcement? I don't think that's the best solution. It only gets you further away from the answer.

[sanne]

of course reinforcement isn't the solution, but it is very helpful initially in not thinking about the ex 24/7. you have to train your mind to not think about your ex 24/7, reinforcement is one way to do it. it is by no means the answer to getting over an ex.