2003 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Hello, I have a pretty simple question. I'm good at relationship stuff but this one baffles me. What does it mean when a girl you used to briefly date begins liking and commenting on your facebook again only AFTER she gets into a relationship with a new guy? She changed her profile picture to her and this guy only a week before she commented on my facebook, then liked another post of mine the next day. I'm baffled. I briefly dated this girl a couple years back and still have feelings for her. The last time we talked was a year ago when I tried to invite her out after she text me and she was too busy so I told her to get in touch with me when her schedule clears up, and I heard nothing from her except her texting me a month later about a party she wanted to invite me to in the future (which never happened). After that silence for a year. No calls, texts, nothing from either of us. We have no hard feelings for each other and we didn't end on bad terms. She pursued me hard in the beginning and I eventually gave in. I've had her on facebook all this time but just unfollowed her so I can't see what she's up to or who she's dating. It's worked great until now! I posted a funny political post and she commented out of nowhere with a "Lol" on my post. It shocked me. I open my facebook seeing that I have a notification then I see it's from her and there she is with a guy and her cuddling in their profile pic. My heart dropped. So I go to her facebook and she's been dating this guy since Sept. around there. So keep in mind I've posted lots of funny things on facebook that she could have liked or commented in the past, when she was single, but she didn't. So now I'm all pissed off that I was forced to see her and her new man. So a couple hours later I just "like" the post and that's it. Now today she likes another post of mine of a motorcycle. I'm like what the hell so of course her and her new man pop up again. It's like why is she commenting and liking my stuff now and not when she was single?? It looks like she's really happy with her new guy. Really playing it up. Keep in mind we only dated briefly (slept together twice), texted a lot when we did date. When I couldn't get her out again I gave up and moved on and didn't contact her anymore at all. Why is she liking stuff now? Two posts in 2 days? Is she trying to torture me? 1
Hoosfoos Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Are you trying to torture yourself by keeping her on your Facebook? If it bothers you so much, delete her so she can't push your buttons. Something tells me that you're receiving an emotional payoff from her "liking" your posts. In the grand scheme of things, FB amounts to nothing. Clicking on a "like" button barely needs and amount of thinking or decision making, and I don't think this girl is really thinking anything profound when she presses the button on her mouse. 1
Satu Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 snip Why is she liking stuff now? Two posts in 2 days? *Is she trying to torture me? Maybe she is, or you might be torturing yourself. In either case, this is the remedy: *No direct contact. *No sending or receiving of messages. *Block any means she might use to contact you. *No replies to anything that gets through your blocks. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete her from all social media. *No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care. 1
ainoviere Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) Is she someone who naturally likes and posts comments on Facebook? If so, my take is that now she is with the new guy and they're official she's truly in a place where she can be your friend and do stuff like comment and like on your posts, as she would do with any other friend. Before then a part of her may still have held hope for the two of you (hoping you would reach out to her again) so it may have been awkward for her to like and comment because it would indicate she's still interested. Most girls like guys to do the pursuing, especially after she's signalled that she's interested. Seems like she's officially moved on and I suggest you make peace with this and do the same. Maybe you can try again in the future if both of you happen to be single at the same time (and you're still interested). Take care. Edited January 22, 2017 by ainoviere 2
BC1980 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 You're torturing yourself. You are now 2 years out and haven't moved on because you've followed her on social media. She probably liked your picture for no real reason. Don't read into it.
dumbass2 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Is she someone who naturally likes and posts comments on Facebook? If so, my take is that now she is with the new guy and they're official she's truly in a place where she can be your friend and do stuff like comment and like on your posts, as she would do with any other friend. Before then a part of her may still have held hope for the two of you (hoping you would reach out to her again) so it may have been awkward for her to like and comment because it would indicate she's still interested. Most girls like guys to do the pursuing, especially after she's signalled that she's interested. Seems like she's officially moved on and I suggest you make peace with this and do the same. Maybe you can try again in the future if both of you happen to be single at the same time (and you're still interested). Take care. Agree with this 100%
Author 2003 Posted January 22, 2017 Author Posted January 22, 2017 I went for 10 mos. without checking until yesterday. I just think it's weird she starts liking and commenting after she changes her profile pic. like she wants me to see her new bf. She couldn't be trying to scare me off seeing that I never talk to her in any form.
Marc878 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 She's playing games. It's easy. Just block her.
Sweetfish Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Hello, I have a pretty simple question. I'm good at relationship stuff but this one baffles me. What does it mean when a girl you used to briefly date begins liking and commenting on your facebook again only AFTER she gets into a relationship with a new guy? She changed her profile picture to her and this guy only a week before she commented on my facebook, then liked another post of mine the next day. I'm baffled. I briefly dated this girl a couple years back and still have feelings for her. The last time we talked was a year ago when I tried to invite her out after she text me and she was too busy so I told her to get in touch with me when her schedule clears up, and I heard nothing from her except her texting me a month later about a party she wanted to invite me to in the future (which never happened). After that silence for a year. No calls, texts, nothing from either of us. We have no hard feelings for each other and we didn't end on bad terms. She pursued me hard in the beginning and I eventually gave in. I've had her on facebook all this time but just unfollowed her so I can't see what she's up to or who she's dating. It's worked great until now! I posted a funny political post and she commented out of nowhere with a "Lol" on my post. It shocked me. I open my facebook seeing that I have a notification then I see it's from her and there she is with a guy and her cuddling in their profile pic. My heart dropped. So I go to her facebook and she's been dating this guy since Sept. around there. So keep in mind I've posted lots of funny things on facebook that she could have liked or commented in the past, when she was single, but she didn't. So now I'm all pissed off that I was forced to see her and her new man. So a couple hours later I just "like" the post and that's it. Now today she likes another post of mine of a motorcycle. I'm like what the hell so of course her and her new man pop up again. It's like why is she commenting and liking my stuff now and not when she was single?? It looks like she's really happy with her new guy. Really playing it up. Keep in mind we only dated briefly (slept together twice), texted a lot when we did date. When I couldn't get her out again I gave up and moved on and didn't contact her anymore at all. Why is she liking stuff now? Two posts in 2 days? Is she trying to torture me? Anything you see on facebook, never take at face value. We don't know who is the pawn in this game, you or the current boyfriend. She could simply be testing the new boyfriend to see if he will become jealous. ignore and and proceed as normal.
whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Delete her! You two aren't together anymore and not friends. Doing this will keep you sane and help you get over her.
kmpisces Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 There could be any number of reasons why this is happening. Maybe she just wants to be friends again. The liking of some of your things may not mean anything deeper than that She could, for whatever reason be trying to make her current boyfriend jealous. If it has you all tied up in knots worrying...maybe you should take a break from being her friend on Facebook. But if there are no hard feelings and such she may truly just be being a friend.
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