The more I date, the less I wanna marry ...

[MainStreamMedia]

I used to be a very romantic guy. Believe in love. Believe in marriage and having a big family until the end. But the more I dated, the more I realized most girls want wedding, not marriage. And don't even get me started on loyalty issues. Half the forum here is covered with ladies who are "too afraid to leave because they can't afford it" which makes me feel like we are just seen as ATM. The more and more I date, the less I want to marry... Does that happen to people? Guys?

[basil67]

It's Ok if you want to stay single.

[Simple Logic]

Considering the married portion of the population is at all time lows, you are not alone.

[Jj66]

Marriage was showing such a low turnout they decided it was time to let same sex couples into the club.

[MainStreamMedia]

It's Ok if you want to stay single.

 

I didn't say I wanna be single. I said I don't want to get married anymore. Don't want to sign that VH1 behind the music contract and get played later on. Easy to get out of a relationship than marriage.

[Sweetfish]

I used to be a very romantic guy. Believe in love. Believe in marriage and having a big family until the end. But the more I dated, the more I realized most girls want wedding, not marriage. And don't even get me started on loyalty issues. Half the forum here is covered with ladies who are "too afraid to leave because they can't afford it" which makes me feel like we are just seen as ATM. The more and more I date, the less I want to marry... Does that happen to people? Guys?

 

I touched on this in another thread...

 

No matter how much data, proof, information, stats, or facts you show of this on going trend. You will be meet with resistance...

 

Like the ever so declining marriage and birth rate in almost every western country. IE Japan.

 

Yet.. most if not all men care about sex. So the generalization is one sided.

 

I have to disagree with the forum being filled with women who can't afford to leave... thats your own battle you have to prove.. men are the ones who can't afford to leave lmao.

 

Most women who divorce actually will fall below the proverty line or I should say most single mothers are under the proverty line. That is were welfare states come in... this is when the state becomes the husband.

 

I do believe the love of marriage for many is much stronger than the love of the man him self. A lot of women will leave a man if they dont marry her in an alloted time frame.

 

I still haven't been shown an agruement that leaving a man not being ready to marry or have a child does not prove you are more in love with the ideas than the individual... without any form of generalizing that every man intention is never to marry nor have children if they don't promptly conform to her wants.

 

Bombs away

Edited January 22, 2017 by Sweetfish

[BaileyB]

I didn't say I wanna be single. I said I don't want to get married anymore. Don't want to sign that VH1 behind the music contract and get played later on. Easy to get out of a relationship than marriage.

 

Living common law with a woman will essentially cause a similar problem, as relates to separation of assets if the relationship ends.

 

And, you may not find many women who want to date and maintain a separate residence for the better part of their lives...

 

But yes, its absolutely ok to stay single and jump from relationship to relationship if that's what you would prefer...

[MainStreamMedia]

Living common law with a woman will essentially cause a similar problem, as relates to separation of assets if the relationship ends.

 

And, you may not find many women who want to date and maintain a separate residence for the better part of their lives...

 

But yes, its absolutely ok to stay single and jump from relationship to relationship if that's what you would prefer...

 

Hmm. Living common law. I see. It seems like women covered their basis even when there is no marriage.

 

Trust me, I wanted to get married but as I got older I realized the marriage/divorce laws in the U.S. are so skewed (favoring women) and even prenups are voided by high-priced lawyers that wives are hiring (with husband's money). And if that is not the case you are risking a non-loving women who stay in marriage and cheat (while you provide). You will not see people talking about how they are cheating on their spouse at Starbucks or something so forums like these are the only indicators what is really going on and what women really think. And it is scary to be honest. To be used. To be seen as an ATM. I don't know. The more I live, the more I date, the more I read, the more I witness ... really killed any idea for me to marry, have kids, and live happily ever after. Really sad.

[ElizabethIII]

How much money do you have? Do you have anything worth taking or overstating your worth here?

 

Do you have a huge mansion or a heavily mortgaged condo?

 

Why don't you go and find a woman with lots of money to finance you then. If you can find one that will have you.

[MainStreamMedia]

How much money do you have? Do you have anything worth taking or overstating your worth here?

 

Do you have a huge mansion or a heavily mortgaged condo?

 

Why don't you go and find a woman with lots of money to finance you then. If you can find one that will have you.

 

This is not about money. it is about living a loveless marriage because of unfair conditions. In 20s girls don't mind leaving if they don't feel it. But when they are in high 30s or 40s, they will stay and use you even if they are not in it. That is what I am afraid of and I am not sure if it is worth taking the chance. You don't wanna be a convenience, whether you are a guy or a girl. Who wants to be played and used? Nobody.

[CaliforniaGirl]

Sure. And women can feel this way too, not necessarily out of disillusionment but for any reason. If I were to divorce now I would never marry again. Ever. I'd just have fun.