Grey40 Posted January 21, 2017 Posted January 21, 2017 So last night had a date with a new girl, went ok I think. Toward the end she was touching my back and scratching it and kind of massaging it. I was doing the sameThought about going in for a kiss multiple times, but I didn't get the vibe that she would have wanted it at that moment. We went to a bar she suggested, and talked for a while but then it got way too loud and we couldn't do much more. She was extremely nervous the entire date and even admitted to being so. She was a bit concerned that I got out of a 5 yr relationship, she's worried that I could end up still having feelings for my ex because that's happened to her on the past. I reassured her that there's no chance of that. Basically, i couldn't really tell if it went well. She walked me to my car at the end and gave me a kiss but it seemed kind of forced. She said "get home safe" I said "thanks you too" and then she coldly said "yeah yeah whatever sure" and started walking away. It was weird. Like she doesn't believe I actually care. Anyways, haven't heard from her today yet, before the first date she would pretty much text me early every morning and Initiate conversation, so already there's a change in behavior. Thoughts?
Tressugar Posted January 21, 2017 Posted January 21, 2017 She sounds jilted...been there and done that before type of thing. Do what your gut tells you to do. You can't go wrong with this situation in the way it is.
Author Grey40 Posted January 21, 2017 Author Posted January 21, 2017 Yeah I did get that vibe that maybe she's worried about being hurt again. And I know I'm definitley over analyzing this like always, it hasn't even been that long after the first date. I guess I should probably just text her first today to So she knows I'm interested rather than wait for her.
winny Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Yeah I did get that vibe that maybe she's worried about being hurt again. And I know I'm definitley over analyzing this like always, it hasn't even been that long after the first date. I guess I should probably just text her first today to So she knows I'm interested rather than wait for her. Do you even like her? 4
selinaluv Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Text her. If you like her, make the move. 1
Miss Spider Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Lol "yeah yeah whatever sure"? That's kind of rude but okay. Sounds like she may not be ready to date. Maybe you could initiate now since she's been doing all the initiating. Tell her you really enjoyed the date and want to see her again. Although going by the tone of this post that might not be true. Only say it if it's true
Gaeta Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Why did SHE walk you to your car, isn't it suppose to be the other way around? Also if you liked her why are you waiting for a text from her, again, isn't it the other way around? You text her to thank her for meeting with you and ask if she'd like 'insert activity' Wednesday. 1
preraph Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 Yeah, this is all backwards. She was massaging and scratching your back and YOU didn't think she wanted a kiss? Seriously? So because YOU didn't kiss her, she kissed you and Yes she was awkward because she wasn't sure YOU wanted a kiss. You are showing too much fear and women don't like that. Most guys never get a first date experience as blatantly inviting as this one and they go in for a kiss anyway.
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2017 Posted January 22, 2017 I agree she may have sensed you being a little reserved, and that made her nervous and unsure.....maybe felt disappointed in the end, like she felt she just wasted her time....again. Most of her emotion may have been residual from all the other disappointing dates she's had in the last little while and she got frustrated to the point she doesn't trust men all that much....
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