Author Dis Posted January 23, 2017 Author Posted January 23, 2017 You seem naturally friendly and nice, by your posts, so I know if you take baby steps, you can eventually be more comfortable being approachable. I mean, I still have times that for no reason, maybe a mood, I will just look down and avoid, but other times I'm much more engaging with people. Now, I'm 64 and obese, so I think I'm living proof that people will be friendly if you just look open to it. And I don't mean to only smile at men! I mean be open and approachable to everyone who doesn't look like they're about to mug you -- and the good thing about that is if anyone IS kind of watching you, they will see that you are like that with everybody, so you don't have to feel conspicuous and like the guy will get the wrong idea. Today I went to eat Mexican food alone and my waiter was trying to make conversation the whole time I was there. I hadn't been there in months and didn't remember him, but he said "Good to see you again" when I first got there and then after I ordered he asked me if I had pets (no friends to eat with = pets I guess). Anyway, that led to an indepth discussion of his empty saltwater aquarium. He was in his 30s, so huge age gap. Don't know if he was just friendly or more. But I get into these type discussions on the regular... Thank you! I appreciate that preraph! I really am warm and friendly the majority of time but in these situations...not so much lol I think like you said, just baby steps. It not like I'm a naturally cold person trying to change my personality over night so theres hope. I just need to get more comfortable being open and approachable... I think my guard might be up just a little bit and I'm not realizing it....but I'm glad I'm identifying the problems now...because before I started this thread I had no idea what i was doing wrong. This is a great first step in the right direction! Its great to get all this feedback and advice. I feel like I really have some great tips to work with And I think that waiter was feeling you girl!
Noproblem Posted January 23, 2017 Posted January 23, 2017 Seriously, if you're a woman, ALL you have to do to look approachable is look up (not down in your phone) and smile at people. Just a friendly smile is all it takes. Not a flirty smile, just open and friendly. I discovered I can smile with just my eyebrows and it still works. Correction if you are a hot woman!
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