Thinking about your next to get over your ex.

[Mrlonelyone]

A good way to get over someone you really miss and can't be with may be to think about your next and or the last relationship you will ever have. This is what I mean.

 

If you are destined to someday get married and have a long lasting relationship then that person is out there somewhere living their life. You more than likely do not know them yet but they exist and have been born.

 

They may be single and lonely. They may be in a dead go nowhere relationship killing time. They may be in a situation so bad you will be pained to hear of it. They may be enjoying their single life with family and friends.

 

The point is that person exist and you have to believe in them.

 

What I mean by that is you have to believe that they exist and that you will someday find them.

 

This person is going to be so much better than what you have had that as good as the best most unbelievable ex was it will be so much more with your next.

 

I am all for reconnecting with exes but that's only when enough has changed that you can say they are like a new person or the situation is a new situation. Your next can be a better version of an ex but that kind of change takes time and it is best to act as if your ex you knew was dog meat compare to what lies in store.

 

If you are a religious person you may approach this in terms of praying for the spouse you haven't met. That that you'll meet them soon but ... with selfless desires for them to be well and for God to act in their life and such.

 

If you are not religious think about your next in terms of this. You want to someday have a real long term partner. Try if you can to feel love for this person you have never met because they will someday love you. Remember your next (last and lasting) love is as close to ideal as real life will give you. If you do this they'll think it was cute. Imagine them out there somewhere loving you even if they haven't met you yet.

 

This may all sound so corny but when you are feeling down about love it helps me to try and think of what better there is out there.

 

TL: DR; Look to the future with who may come next and or last in your love life. No matter how great the relationship was there can be so much better than any ex.

[layla21]

Well said!!

 

That's the method I am using right now for the previous weeks to be in a better mood whenever the emotions hit me. There is so much truth in it - fact is, there are billions of other women or men who might be more compatible with you than any ex could have been. It's all about trying to think positively because if you do, your surrounding feels it and who knows, your "One" might be just attracted to you by then.

 

Whatever you have gone through in relationships, the worst or the best, take it with you. Lern and grow and bring the better you into your next relationship. Believe me, if you think like this, you cannot wait to give it your all!

[Mrlonelyone]

Well said!!

 

That's the method I am using right now for the previous weeks to be in a better mood whenever the emotions hit me. There is so much truth in it - fact is, there are billions of other women or men who might be more compatible with you than any ex could have been. It's all about trying to think positively because if you do, your surrounding feels it and who knows, your "One" might be just attracted to you by then.

 

Whatever you have gone through in relationships, the worst or the best, take it with you. Lern and grow and bring the better you into your next relationship. Believe me, if you think like this, you cannot wait to give it your all!

 

Exactly. If we accept that it is just a matter of time and numbers before someone who is looking or just open to finding someone Then, among the millions of possibilities, there are one or two who are destined to be with that person for a long time if not for life.

 

The idea is to think of life leading up to that relationship as part of having the relationship.

[Mrlonelyone]

This technique has helped me in recent days. If I feel lonley right now I consider the fact that someday I will meet someone I click with the timing will be right the situation will be right and it will just work out. Nothing and no one is perfect but with the right person it will just work out.

 

Thinking of that right person(s) as being a living breathing human being(s) who right now is somewhere else going through the same things I am helps.

[not-again]

Couldn't have explained it better myself. It's something I do too. Although today after work I was consumed with emptiness and sadness, this method helped me off the ground. Here are a few quotes that helped me today and the last few weeks.

 

-Right now someone you haven't met is out there, wondering what it'll be like to meet someone like you.

 

-Someone is going to look at you with a light in their eyes you've never seen, they'll look at you like you're everything they're looking for their entire lives.

 

-One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.

 

-Some day our lives will cross paths and as our eyes meet, our hearts will too.

 

-I might have to wait, I'll never give up, I guess it's half timing the other half's luck. Wherever you are, whenever it's right, you'll come out of no where into my life.

 

-Don't find love, let love find you. That's why they call it falling in love because you don't force yourself fall, you just fall.

 

-True love is worth waiting for even if it takes a lifetime. Then in return a lifetime of love will be waiting for you.

 

-Someone is out there waiting to love you the way you wanted to be loved for so long.

 

-One day someone will be 100% honest with you, and will love you forever. Don't give up trying to find them, they are looking for you.