PerryK Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 So for some context; I don't have Instagram, I hate the app, it is nothing but disguised adverts making you feel your life is awful and nowhere near as good as the picture, so you need to buy all the (conveniently placed brand names) in the shot. I deleted the app a long time ago from my life, i never deactivated my account but who cares, i have nothing on there anyway. Around 5 years back I had an app that gave all the terms on what it needs access to and one of them was instagram, so it could follow accounts that they thought were of interest to me. Basically trending pages. So to the issue, it was around 2 months back and my partner messaged me flipping out that she had found my instagram and looked through who i follow, gone on to their pages and screenshotted their pics, sent them to all her friends saying that i was rubbing this all in her face. Considering this is an app i haven't been on in a good 3 years since i was 21/22, it was all a bit OTT. Her friends had poisoned her mind and I'd lost the case before even telling her i haven't had the app in years. About a week later she came to terms with it but decided shes gonna start posting underwear selfies on to social media because "you clearly like and follow these girls who do it". Anyway, the argument cropped up again yesterday. I get back from work to have her screaming at me telling me that I am still following all these girls, i don't even know my password to download the app, and go through 100 women and unfollow for an app i long deleted to follow again. She demanded that i come with her to get plastic surgery (shes mentioned it before how everyone clearly has it thats the only way some of these girls can look better than her. Ive always said its disgusting, she can get it but i wouldn't stay with her because it is selfish and if she does it after i say i don't like it then who is she trying to look 'attractive' for. She says she is getting it for me because 'looks is all she has') I told her that she can go alone but I won't be there when she gets back. She told me that she is only getting it because i am following these girls rubbing them in her face and masturbating over them and fantasising over them and im disgusting, she would rather me watch porn (WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ANYWAY??). She text me later "you have uneven eyes, your teeth are crooked and discoloured, you're not even 6 foot, you cant grow a proper beard, you have a belly and a lisp, you only wear sh*t clothes and sh*t cheap shoes, your only good for sex and your not my type, you dont have a six pack and your an alcoholic" so to clear that up ... i have a genetic issue where i have a heavy eyelid which needs surgery, my teeth are perfect even the dentist says so, i am 5'11, i have to shave daily for work, i don't have a belly i am in the gym 5 days a week, following surgery i get a speech impediment trying to say tongue twisting words, my clothes are my clothes, my shoes are pretty expensive at £100 a pair but obviously not enough, she didn't say i m not her type when she cheated on her ex with me, i don't have a six pack because i dont work out and watch food daily, i work 14 hours behind a desk, i drink with mates once every 2 weeks and she abuses me about being an alcoholic when i say i'm going out with them. So, is her text out of order? Like i dont get this whole situation. Leave her and dodge a bullet?
Author PerryK Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 Leave each other alone? Good constructive criticism there but doesn't really answer y question, i haven't said a bad word to her ever.
Tribble Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Why are you even with each other? Sounds like a whole lot of drama filled nonsense to me. Break up and make each other happier.
VeveCakes Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 She sounds horrible and a bit psychotic. Looking through who you follow and demanding you unfollow? She needs a hobby. Funny she finds you so repulsive but thinks all you are good for is sex kind of an oxy-moron there.
MrBojangles Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 So for some context; I don't have Instagram, I hate the app, it is nothing but disguised adverts making you feel your life is awful and nowhere near as good as the picture, so you need to buy all the (conveniently placed brand names) in the shot. I deleted the app a long time ago from my life, i never deactivated my account but who cares, i have nothing on there anyway. Around 5 years back I had an app that gave all the terms on what it needs access to and one of them was instagram, so it could follow accounts that they thought were of interest to me. Basically trending pages. So to the issue, it was around 2 months back and my partner messaged me flipping out that she had found my instagram and looked through who i follow, gone on to their pages and screenshotted their pics, sent them to all her friends saying that i was rubbing this all in her face. Considering this is an app i haven't been on in a good 3 years since i was 21/22, it was all a bit OTT. Her friends had poisoned her mind and I'd lost the case before even telling her i haven't had the app in years. ..... Yet in a previous thread you started here dated August 25th 2016, you said this about Instagram: "However she keeps liking then un-liking pictures I put on instagram. I know that she does this to get me thinking about her, so she has the upper hand. We talked a month ago and I told her to leave me alone because I'm struggling and she said that she misses me and wants to talk." http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/592755-ex-playing-mind-games#post7027717 According to what you said when you started that thread, you and that EX had been broken up for five months, when she was liking and un-liking pictures you put on Instagram. I'm no genius at math, but if you started that thread in August of 2016, and had been broken up for 5 months at the time, then by my calculations you were actively still posting pictures on Instagram on 5 months ago.... not 3 years ago as you claim here in this thread. So who's really playing mind games here? Could it be that your "current partner" is reacting angrily to recently posted items, that you've recently posted to your Instagram account? Certainly she would have noticed if the activity on your Instagram account was actually indeed 3 years old, before becoming so upset. 3
kendahke Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 ..... Yet in a previous thread you started here dated August 25th 2016, you said this about Instagram: "However she keeps liking then un-liking pictures I put on instagram. I know that she does this to get me thinking about her, so she has the upper hand. We talked a month ago and I told her to leave me alone because I'm struggling and she said that she misses me and wants to talk." http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/592755-ex-playing-mind-games#post7027717 According to what you said when you started that thread, you and that EX had been broken up for five months, when she was liking and un-liking pictures you put on Instagram. I'm no genius at math, but if you started that thread in August of 2016, and had been broken up for 5 months at the time, then by my calculations you were actively still posting pictures on Instagram on 5 months ago.... not 3 years ago as you claim here in this thread. So who's really playing mind games here? Could it be that your "current partner" is reacting angrily to recently posted items, that you've recently posted to your Instagram account? Certainly she would have noticed if the activity on your Instagram account was actually indeed 3 years old, before becoming so upset. Ooh, snap! Inconsistencies already. Like I said: you need to leave each other alone. 3
Gaeta Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 ..... Yet in a previous thread you started here dated August 25th 2016, you said this about Instagram: "However she keeps liking then un-liking pictures I put on instagram. I know that she does this to get me thinking about her, so she has the upper hand. We talked a month ago and I told her to leave me alone because I'm struggling and she said that she misses me and wants to talk." http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/592755-ex-playing-mind-games#post7027717 According to what you said when you started that thread, you and that EX had been broken up for five months, when she was liking and un-liking pictures you put on Instagram. I'm no genius at math, but if you started that thread in August of 2016, and had been broken up for 5 months at the time, then by my calculations you were actively still posting pictures on Instagram on 5 months ago.... not 3 years ago as you claim here in this thread. So who's really playing mind games here? Could it be that your "current partner" is reacting angrily to recently posted items, that you've recently posted to your Instagram account? Certainly she would have noticed if the activity on your Instagram account was actually indeed 3 years old, before becoming so upset. Good job ! 2
Versacehottie Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Dysfunctional. Not even subtly so. Get rid of her before she ruins your life. If she thinks all those things about you, why is she with you? Using you in some way? A placefiller? In any case, she has sooooooooo far to go before she will ever be able to communicate in a healthy, normal way, I don't see why you should or would sign up for this awfulness while she hopefully figures it out. It won't get better.
IfonlyIknew Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 ..... Yet in a previous thread you started here dated August 25th 2016, you said this about Instagram: "However she keeps liking then un-liking pictures I put on instagram. I know that she does this to get me thinking about her, so she has the upper hand. We talked a month ago and I told her to leave me alone because I'm struggling and she said that she misses me and wants to talk." http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/592755-ex-playing-mind-games#post7027717 According to what you said when you started that thread, you and that EX had been broken up for five months, when she was liking and un-liking pictures you put on Instagram. I'm no genius at math, but if you started that thread in August of 2016, and had been broken up for 5 months at the time, then by my calculations you were actively still posting pictures on Instagram on 5 months ago.... not 3 years ago as you claim here in this thread. So who's really playing mind games here? Could it be that your "current partner" is reacting angrily to recently posted items, that you've recently posted to your Instagram account? Certainly she would have noticed if the activity on your Instagram account was actually indeed 3 years old, before becoming so upset. so to clear that up ... i have a genetic issue where i have a heavy eyelid which needs surgery, my teeth are perfect even the dentist says so, i am 5'11, i have to shave daily for work, i don't have a belly i am in the gym 5 days a week, following surgery i get a speech impediment trying to say tongue twisting words, my clothes are my clothes, my shoes are pretty expensive at £100 a pair but obviously not enough, she didn't say i m not her type when she cheated on her ex with me, i don't have a six pack because i dont work out and watch food daily, i work 14 hours behind a desk, i drink with mates once every 2 weeks and she abuses me about being an alcoholic when i say i'm going out with them. So, is her text out of order? Like i dont get this whole situation. Leave her and dodge a bullet? If I'm reading this correctly then something just isn't right with the stories twisting around. Regardless, you two don't sound compatible.
Author PerryK Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 Just to clear this up, I posted this using my friends account that usually uses this. He is out of country on military duty at the moment but always raves about this site helping when things go wrong in relationships such as his psycho ex... He said to log on to his as you get more replies than being a new user who makes what is probably considered a whiny post. I told this girl that she had dug her own grave for this relationship and blocked her on everything. Maybe she can find someone that is her type.
Author PerryK Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 If I'm reading this correctly then something just isn't right with the stories twisting around. Regardless, you two don't sound compatible. Inconsistancy 1: like i said previously, mate gave me link to his account while deployed in afghan save me making my own account and being newbie Inconsistency 2: It is possible to go to the gym a lot without having rippling abs that primarily exist on guys who spend 3-4 hours a day in the gym and prepare all the food carefully and carb free. Monday to Friday i leave my house at 5am, get to work for 8am, sit behind a computer all day eating salad and fruit, leave at 4pm, home by 7pm, eat at 7 30, gym 830pm till 10pm, bed at 11pm, sleep for 5 hours. Kind of hard to train to get a ripped body of pure muscle.
VeveCakes Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Just to clear this up, I posted this using my friends account that usually uses this. He is out of country on military duty at the moment but always raves about this site helping when things go wrong in relationships such as his psycho ex... He said to log on to his as you get more replies than being a new user who makes what is probably considered a whiny post. I told this girl that she had dug her own grave for this relationship and blocked her on everything. Maybe she can find someone that is her type. and you both posting about IG? Y'all need to delete your accounts and avoid social media. 2
MrBojangles Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Just to clear this up, I posted this using my friends account that usually uses this. He is out of country on military duty at the moment but always raves about this site helping when things go wrong in relationships such as his psycho ex... He said to log on to his as you get more replies than being a new user who makes what is probably considered a whiny post. I told this girl that she had dug her own grave for this relationship and blocked her on everything. Maybe she can find someone that is her type. Come on man... using someone else's account here, is like wearing someone else's soiled underwear.... who does that??? If you are truly using your buddy's account, then spend the 2 minutes and get your own. ....and by the way, which statement in your first post did your mate write? Was it this part?: "i don't have a belly i am in the gym 5 days a week" or was this part?: "i don't have a six pack because i dont work out and watch food daily" 3
kendahke Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Inconsistancy 1: like i said previously, mate gave me link to his account while deployed in afghan save me making my own account and being newbie . is completely inconsistent with: I hate the app, it is nothing but disguised adverts making you feel your life is awful and nowhere near as good as the picture, so you need to buy all the (conveniently placed brand names) in the shot. So which is it? You hate it until it's your buddy's account and then it's cool? His account doesn't have the adverts which are crushing your life? FWIW--I use Instagram and I regulate who I follow and so for, I haven't seen one of these supposed advertisements. If you go looking for stuff, then I suppose you'll find it, but so far on my own timeline, there isn't anything on there that I don't want to see. And even if I could see the adverts, they in no way are crushing my life to the point where I buy into feeling less than because of what someone I'll never know is doing/buying/selling. It'll have power over you if you give it power over you, as with all things in life.
VeveCakes Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 I think OP meant he used his friends Loveshack account...why who knows. 3
LivingDeadGrl Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 She sounds terrible and superficial and psychotic and jealous and insecure. I could add more "ands" but I don't think I need to. She is exactly what is wrong with girls and society today.
Redhead14 Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 So for some context; I don't have Instagram, I hate the app, it is nothing but disguised adverts making you feel your life is awful and nowhere near as good as the picture, so you need to buy all the (conveniently placed brand names) in the shot. I deleted the app a long time ago from my life, i never deactivated my account but who cares, i have nothing on there anyway. Around 5 years back I had an app that gave all the terms on what it needs access to and one of them was instagram, so it could follow accounts that they thought were of interest to me. Basically trending pages. So to the issue, it was around 2 months back and my partner messaged me flipping out that she had found my instagram and looked through who i follow, gone on to their pages and screenshotted their pics, sent them to all her friends saying that i was rubbing this all in her face. Considering this is an app i haven't been on in a good 3 years since i was 21/22, it was all a bit OTT. Her friends had poisoned her mind and I'd lost the case before even telling her i haven't had the app in years. About a week later she came to terms with it but decided shes gonna start posting underwear selfies on to social media because "you clearly like and follow these girls who do it". Anyway, the argument cropped up again yesterday. I get back from work to have her screaming at me telling me that I am still following all these girls, i don't even know my password to download the app, and go through 100 women and unfollow for an app i long deleted to follow again. She demanded that i come with her to get plastic surgery (shes mentioned it before how everyone clearly has it thats the only way some of these girls can look better than her. Ive always said its disgusting, she can get it but i wouldn't stay with her because it is selfish and if she does it after i say i don't like it then who is she trying to look 'attractive' for. She says she is getting it for me because 'looks is all she has') I told her that she can go alone but I won't be there when she gets back. She told me that she is only getting it because i am following these girls rubbing them in her face and masturbating over them and fantasising over them and im disgusting, she would rather me watch porn (WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ANYWAY??). She text me later "you have uneven eyes, your teeth are crooked and discoloured, you're not even 6 foot, you cant grow a proper beard, you have a belly and a lisp, you only wear sh*t clothes and sh*t cheap shoes, your only good for sex and your not my type, you dont have a six pack and your an alcoholic" so to clear that up ... i have a genetic issue where i have a heavy eyelid which needs surgery, my teeth are perfect even the dentist says so, i am 5'11, i have to shave daily for work, i don't have a belly i am in the gym 5 days a week, following surgery i get a speech impediment trying to say tongue twisting words, my clothes are my clothes, my shoes are pretty expensive at £100 a pair but obviously not enough, she didn't say i m not her type when she cheated on her ex with me, i don't have a six pack because i dont work out and watch food daily, i work 14 hours behind a desk, i drink with mates once every 2 weeks and she abuses me about being an alcoholic when i say i'm going out with them. So, is her text out of order? Like i dont get this whole situation. Leave her and dodge a bullet? "you have uneven eyes, your teeth are crooked and discoloured, you're not even 6 foot, you cant grow a proper beard, you have a belly and a lisp, you only wear sh*t clothes and sh*t cheap shoes, your only good for sex and your not my type, you dont have a six pack and your an alcoholic" -- Yes, leave her and yes, you'll have dodged a bullet. LEAVE HER? - It sounds to me like she's dumped you . . . That was completely disrespectful and I simply don't understand why you have to ask the questions you've asked. 1
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