doggoneit90 Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 This guy approached me at the store and asked me for my phone number. I was in a bit of a hurry due to my schedule that day and so I just gave it to him and left. I'm very hesitant about dating since I haven't for a long time because I had depression for a long time. Now I'm starting meds and getting better so I figure, why not! I'm very apprehensive about men just wanting me for sex and that's it because that is what I've attracted from guys at the gym, etc in the past. I haven't decided if I should hang out with him or if it's going to be a disaster. This guy has complimented me a lot in text messages on my appearance, body, etc. Which is awkward to me because we barely had a conversation in public. He doesn't really ask much about me and hasn't even asked what I do for a living even though I brought up I was finished with work for the day twice. He also asks me to send me photos of myself to him and has made comments on wanting to hold me and cuddle with. WE HAVEN'T EVEN GONE ON A DATE!! He even said he doesn't want to come off with bad intentions in text message and wants me to know that he respects me instead of just talking to me for the sake of wanting my body. I've been out of dating for like 8 fricking years (my choice), and I'd like to finally step back in since I'm approaching 30 in 3 years. I dunno what to think of this guy. I also found out he has an adopted son from 6 months ago and I guess it ended poorly but he lied about that for a while until he finally told me since I told him I saw a baby registry online with his name on it LOL. Am I stepping into bad news?
PinkPampies Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Meh. He doesn't sound that interested in getting to know you because he's not asking questions about you. And his need to tell you he 'respects you' and doesn't just want your body sound off to me. If it were me, I wouldn't initiate anything. If he asked for a date, I'd maybe consider it. But I wouldn't keep texting with him.
basil67 Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Either he's a poor conversationalist or he's just after you in a physical sense. Either way, I wouldn't bother seeing him.
losangelena Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Block this a$$. You barely met him and he's asking for photos? Puh-leeeeeese.
Author doggoneit90 Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 Meh. He doesn't sound that interested in getting to know you because he's not asking questions about you. And his need to tell you he 'respects you' and doesn't just want your body sound off to me. If it were me, I wouldn't initiate anything. If he asked for a date, I'd maybe consider it. But I wouldn't keep texting with him. He asked me on a date on New Years Eve to go to dinner with me which was the day we met but I declined. He is more than happy to have a phone conversation with me, has asked multiple times to go places with me, but I guess it's me who has been dragging my feet with meeting him. I mean I don't know anything about him before I go on the date and was trying to through text message and get a feel of it and feel safe. (Got out a BADDDDD relationship prior to the 8 years ago which wound up with both of us going to court since he has mental problems. Makes me scared to get out there because it was such a bad situation in the past with my safety. I was also thinking maybe he's saying this so we can finally meet. After all, it's been 19 days of this back and forth few texts every other day or daily but I dunnooooooooo. The fact he doesn't talk much over text about things other than appearance was me thinking is he trying to save that for in person so we don't turn out to be text buddies?
PinkPampies Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Sounds like you've got unresolved issues from your past bad relationship. Are you ready to date, op? If you didn't resolve these issues, you're just going to project your bad feelings and angst onto this guy, or any other guy. 8 years is a long time. Don't let it run your life.
Simple Logic Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Doesn't ask about your personally, comments on your body / wants photos and you coming out of 8 years of no dating for this?
Author doggoneit90 Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 Sounds like you've got unresolved issues from your past bad relationship. Are you ready to date, op? If you didn't resolve these issues, you're just going to project your bad feelings and angst onto this guy, or any other guy. 8 years is a long time. Don't let it run your life. Well I learned from that guy that not all people are the same and to get back out there when you are ready. I think it's okay to be cautious and do background checks and criminal record checks to be cautious at the beginning until I know the man. I think that's fair since people are strangers until you get to know them and safety is important. I'd be fine with getting back out there, it was the battle with depression that held me back. I would turn people down or purposely sabotage any man interested in me these past 8 years in public since I was not ready to even entertain the thought of dating because of my depression. No need to bring someone else into my misery then lol.
Author doggoneit90 Posted January 20, 2017 Author Posted January 20, 2017 Doesn't ask about your personally, comments on your body / wants photos and you coming out of 8 years of no dating for this? Yeah that does sounds really crappy when other's pretty much justify your concerns. I deserve better than that haha. I think I'll just be patient and keep myself busy until the right person comes along. 1
whichwayisup Posted January 20, 2017 Posted January 20, 2017 Eww. This guy is after one thing and he's willing to wait for it. He isn't getting to know you on an intellectual level or ask about you and your life. Since you haven't dated in many years, don't waste your first date on him!! He's not worth it and honestly from what you've said he sounds creepy and pushy.
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