Does it make the break up worse if they actually start dating someone and fall hard

[marky00]

I'm not sure, but I seem to be mentally obsessing about my ex and his new girlfriend. I'm almost certain he is into her because she is 23 and he is 35.

 

But, I think my feelings are hurt because he thinks she's so much better than me.

 

I know I need to get over it.

 

But, it still hurts. Does anyone else think it makes the heartbreak worse when they meet someone they really like?

 

I got dumped in another country whilst there on a holiday and found out there was someone else.

 

 

You know what, I actually think it better that way long-term. Better to be stabbed once though the heart with a chunky stake than twice with a stick.

 

 

Often the people who wait and wait and find out later their ex eventually moved on to someone else are the ones who find it harder long-term.

 

 

Also, would it comfort you more to know that someone chose to be totally alone as opposed to having some type of connection with you at some level?

 

 

Me personally if someone dumped me and then chose to remain alone, it could potentially hurt more.

 

 

Either version is bad in its own way.

[AT15]

I got dumped in another country whilst there on a holiday and found out there was someone else.

 

 

You know what, I actually think it better that way long-term. Better to be stabbed once though the heart with a chunky stake than twice with a stick.

 

 

Often the people who wait and wait and find out later their ex eventually moved on to someone else are the ones who find it harder long-term.

 

 

Also, would it comfort you more to know that someone chose to be totally alone as opposed to having some type of connection with you at some level?

 

 

Me personally if someone dumped me and then chose to remain alone, it could potentially hurt more.

 

 

Either version is bad in its own way.

 

I'm not waiting. I'm dating. I still think of him, but I'm not contacting him. Or responding to his advances.

[dumbass2]

I think this was mentioned in your last thread, but you need to make sure he CAN'T contact you and that you can't see what he's got going on.

[marky00]

I'm not waiting. I'm dating. I still think of him, but I'm not contacting him. Or responding to his advances.

 

By waiting I didn't mean waiting for them to come back.

 

 

I meant waiting for the next inevitable bad thing to happen, that they find someone else.

 

 

It's going to happen eventually so it might as well be on Day 1 of the breakup. Hurts like hell but at least u can't sink any further.

[AT15]

By waiting I didn't mean waiting for them to come back.

 

 

I meant waiting for the next inevitable bad thing to happen, that they find someone else.

 

 

It's going to happen eventually so it might as well be on Day 1 of the breakup. Hurts like hell but at least u can't sink any further.

 

It hurt like the fiery depths of hell when he found someone new. But, I'm realizing that I can't and couldn't control that.

I'm ok, without him. Before I wanted him back so bad. Now, I'm seeing a future with just a memory of him.

I was seriously emotionally attached to my ex. He was my heart. And there is something very satisfying knowing I loved him completely. It's not that it feels good. It does not. But knowing you can walk away with no regrets, could haves or should haves makes the process a bit easier.

 

My only regret is not walking away completely after the first break up. Giving too many chances, hurt me more than anything. Because it was like taking out the knife and jamming it back in, taking out the knife, then jamming it back in.

 

Take out the knife and allow the would to heal. Eventually the scar will form, then eventually the scar will fade in time.

[Bromeo]

AT,

 

I've read both your threads, and I am very sorry you are going through all this.

 

I did the same thing, chased and took my ex back twice after she left me without saying a word, and had a new prospect within a couple days. My situation was so insanely crazy, that I tolerated it for way too long due to our awesome chemistry. It took me months to tape up and repair my self worth.

 

Now, after 7 months, and 2 months of (mostly) NC, and telling her never to contact me again, I fully realize that it is her loss.

 

Mine left some scars on me as well. However, I can without a doubt assure you that there are good men who would love to have someone with your sensitivity.

 

Stay strong, there is no need to monitor his actions any longer. Your sensitivity and energy can now focus on finding someone who values it.

 

Dave

[AT15]

AT,

 

I've read both your threads, and I am very sorry you are going through all this.

 

I did the same thing, chased and took my ex back twice after she left me without saying a word, and had a new prospect within a couple days. My situation was so insanely crazy, that I tolerated it for way too long due to our awesome chemistry. It took me months to tape up and repair my self worth.

 

Now, after 7 months, and 2 months of (mostly) NC, and telling her never to contact me again, I fully realize that it is her loss.

 

Mine left some scars on me as well. However, I can without a doubt assure you that there are good men who would love to have someone with your sensitivity.

 

Stay strong, there is no need to monitor his actions any longer. Your sensitivity and energy can now focus on finding someone who values it.

 

Dave

 

I don't go on his social media or log in to his messages at all anymore. I have no desire to because I want to heal and move on. I know I deserve better. I know this. It's just painful and confusing when you know you tried as best as you could.

Going thru the pain is apart of life. I hope that the next man I open my heart really does appreciate and value me. I hope this will be my last heartbreak.

 

I would like to get married again, and have a fulfilling relationship. I've given up hope on the ex.