wiseman6716 Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 My true intention on this text was to simply notify the girl of the event. Not asking her of she wanted to go with me. Curious how everyone else would take it. I know from talking to her, its her kind of thing. Just seen that the bull/rodeo is in town this weekend! Thought it might be something you want to check out. Appreciate any input
VeveCakes Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 I would take that as a friendly thoughtful text... 2
Versacehottie Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 (edited) I would take that as a friendly thoughtful text... Yes agreed. It doesn't ask or imply that you are asking to take her. What is it that you want it to do or not do? If it's just friendly, mission accomplished. And if you just want to stay/be friends than take extra precautions that you don't give her mixed signals or the kind of reassurance that would lead her to believe you want to date her. I feel like you might already be doing that because if you care what she thinks but you don't like her, like her than she might get the wrong impression no matter how you worded it. People are hopeful and if you don't see her that way it's probably best to keep a distance and not get her hopes up--in other words, an invite like this or telling her about an event is kinda cruel if you know she likes you but you don't feel the same If you are trying to plant a seed so that a flirty friendship can develop which might lead to dating her, then this was fine. Make sure you flirt with her when she is there and continue the conversation beforehand. If you don't know what you want and are just being wishy-washy, looking for an ego boost, stop it until you do know what you want and don't look for ego boosts from people who care for you but you are misleading them to get attention. Gosh, it feels like I've covered all the possible scenarios! Pretty curious about which one you are leaning toward. Edited January 19, 2017 by Versacehottie
kendahke Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 My true intention on this text was to simply notify the girl of the event. Not asking her of she wanted to go with me. Curious how everyone else would take it. I know from talking to her, its her kind of thing. Just seen that the bull/rodeo is in town this weekend! Thought it might be something you want to check out. Appreciate any input I think this depends upon how this girl considers you. If she's an acquaintance or a platonic friend, it may sound like a heads up. If she's wanting a relationship with you, it can be construed as a luke-warm, non-committal invite that she could turn into a declaration of your intent. It all depends upon what's going on in her head. 3
SunnySide0418 Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 Sounds like an invite to me. I'd word it differently. 3
IfonlyIknew Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 I'd take it as an invite, and if it wasn't an invite I'd find it off putting like why would you share an event with me if you didn't want to go? 3
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 I would probably want it to be an actual invitation? I wouldn't assume it was just literally a friendly non-invite heads up unless it was someone I already knew really really well...like for instance, my sister might give me a no-strings heads-up like that.
smackie9 Posted January 19, 2017 Posted January 19, 2017 So what is the intention and how was it taken?
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