muse08 Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 I agree with several posters that the guy in question is a bit off. First sign was him waiting almost an hour for you outside that restaurant. That could've been considered endearing, but followed by his now continued bizarre behavior and demands of you , it make him appear wierd /possibly stalker type. OP, he's giving you signs of really liking you but being too insecure to be more stable or healthily pursuing. I hate to say it, but he almost sounds like ( from what I hather) the type of person that would just watch/admire from afar....STALK. Be aware of your surroundings.
Author surferchic Posted January 30, 2017 Author Posted January 30, 2017 I agree with several posters that the guy in question is a bit off. First sign was him waiting almost an hour for you outside that restaurant. That could've been considered endearing, but followed by his now continued bizarre behavior and demands of you , it make him appear wierd /possibly stalker type. OP, he's giving you signs of really liking you but being too insecure to be more stable or healthily pursuing. I hate to say it, but he almost sounds like ( from what I hather) the type of person that would just watch/admire from afar....STALK. Be aware of your surroundings. Thanks. I'm definitely being cautious. I've been stalked twice before and it's not a good feeling.
GemmaUK Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 He threatened to slash your tyres! I would be keeping a record of everything and contacting the police. Keep safe OP but don't dismiss what he is saying and doing and hope it'll just go away.
Author surferchic Posted February 3, 2017 Author Posted February 3, 2017 He threatened to slash your tyres! I would be keeping a record of everything and contacting the police. Keep safe OP but don't dismiss what he is saying and doing and hope it'll just go away. He said he'd slash tires if he found out I was with another man. I think he was bluffing...honestly. I have gone out with 2 guys recently. ....tires fine.
ashy555 Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 If you had the exclusive talk then why are you seeing others considering this guys mental health. Shouldn't you break it off with him before that? If he sees you dating other men while you are 'exclusive' he will get mad and slash your tyres :eek: or possibly hurt you. Please be safe. This guy sounds weird.
travelbug1996 Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 So does this guy think you two are still exclusive. If so, I think you owe it to him to cancel that agreement since you are seeing other people. I don't think you have to tell him why but he should know. You don't want more drama than you have.
Author surferchic Posted February 3, 2017 Author Posted February 3, 2017 If you had the exclusive talk then why are you seeing others considering this guys mental health. Shouldn't you break it off with him before that? If he sees you dating other men while you are 'exclusive' he will get mad and slash your tyres :eek: or possibly hurt you. Please be safe. This guy sounds weird. I'm seeing someone else because the guy in this thread is merely playing a mind game . I don't think he wants exclusivity. I think he simply wants a piece of meat that's only eaten by him. He's asked to see me 2 Days ago and keep saying he misses me but hasn't finalized anything. I told him a few weeks ago thay I would not be initiating any more dates and just yesterday I told him that we're clearly not exclusive. So when either of us isn't written someone else, we can perhaps try to connect. I never asked to be exclusive, he did. I have no respect for a man who plays mind games.
OnlyHonesty Posted February 3, 2017 Posted February 3, 2017 Thanks for the responses guys. I agree with most of your feedback about listening to my instincts. However, him waiting for me to get out of line doesn't mean he's a player. I know a few couples who met like that and they're still together...married. There are no definite things to symbolize him being a player. I'm almost more concerned if whether or not he's the possible stalker type... Above sounds like you are trying to make excuses to stop listening to your gut instincts (because doing so means losing something). This is not about other couples.... Edit: Just saw your update....I rest my case...
Author surferchic Posted February 4, 2017 Author Posted February 4, 2017 Above sounds like you are trying to make excuses to stop listening to your gut instincts (because doing so means losing something). This is not about other couples.... Edit: Just saw your update....I rest my case... Maybe I am making excuses. I'm almost ready to just move away from everything and everyone who knows me. I'm tired of relationships not working. Never married , but close.I don't think I'm over my ex-fiance yet. I feel so incomplete and cursed. As I've mentioned before, I keep meeting men like my dad. Not a good thing.
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