patooks Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 There is a chick who has been coming into work for about a year now. In the last few months we have been speaking a lot, if I'm in my shop by myself we talk for ages ( 20 to 30 mins ). She usually has her 2 year old daughter with her. We talk about life etc. I always have a glowing feeling about her, as I have liked her for ages. We are both busy, she owns her own business, and is a mum. I work 6 days a week too. We talk about our kids, and have some things in common. On news year eve at work I asked her what she was doing for New Years and she said just a quiet one, and she might go and see her girlfriends, so no mention of a BF. The last 3 or 4 times a guy has come in with her and her daughter. He knew my name straight away,even though I haven't met him before and he even paid for her purchase once. I know she lives with her brother and he sorta looks like her. Well today I built up the courage as I saw she was coming in to the shop. I said to her " Is that your brother who comes in with your daughter " . She was like " oh ahh I'm not sure, it might be " I didn't know what to think about the response. She then said " oh yeah " eventually. We chatted a bit then it was like we both totally forgot what we were doing, i lost count of her items, so did she. Then as she was leaving she said to me " ok bye babe ". She has never said that to me before in all our conversations. Where do I go from her, as she is a client too and I see her once a week. Is she been friendly or could there be something there.
lurker74 Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 I will give you the one piece of dating advice that has helped me immensely with getting places with women...be direct. If she's interested, your directness will almost assuredly cause her to be more interested. If she's not, it's the least painful course for you. So, next time you see her, say something like, "Hey, I'm going to say this because I want you to know...I think you're great and if you're not seeing anyway, I would be all about trying to see you outside of this place." If she's not interested or seeing someone, she'll tell you. Be very casual about it and reply, "It's OK...I just think you're awesome and wanted you to know." Smile, move on. If she stops seeing someone and is interested, she'll reach out to you next time. Be direct. 3
kendahke Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 I said to her " Is that your brother who comes in with your daughter " . She was like " oh ahh I'm not sure, it might be " I didn't know what to think about the response. She then said " oh yeah " eventually. two things: 1. The way the question was worded sounded like you were saying someone else brings her daughter into the shop without her when maybe none of her male relatives babysit her daughter. If you'd said "was that your brother who came in here with you last time?", that's more direct and to the point. Hard to be evasive in the answer there. Having said that, 2.That response here would have taken me aback. That wasn't a trick question. Either he's her brother or he isn't. 1
Miss Peach Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 I know a woman who was in the same situation. She kept going to this place of business and had a crush on the guy who helped her there and sensed he liked her too but he never did anything. She was hoping he would ask her out. In the end he took himself out of the equation by never taking any action and another man got in the picture. I agree with the be direct path. 1
Author patooks Posted January 17, 2017 Author Posted January 17, 2017 It was the " Bye babe " that caught me off guard. She has never said that to me when she has left my workplace until yesterday. Her reaction was like she was shocked I asked the question or maybe she knows now I hinted I liked her.
smackie9 Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 Who cares, just get her number and ask her out. And BTW you don't have to hint, women just know who is crushin on them.
Author patooks Posted January 30, 2017 Author Posted January 30, 2017 So an update. She came into work last Thursday. I manned up and told her I liked her for a year or so. She blushed, said it took courage to say it, and we could hang out sometime. I asked if she was single, she replied she is seeing someone but it isn't serious. I then gave her my number, which she took and said to me bye babe again. Haven't heard from her since, if she wasn't interested wouldn't she of told me straight up ? Feel like if she was keen she would of texted me. Thoughts people ?
MrBojangles Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 So an update. She came into work last Thursday. I manned up and told her I liked her for a year or so. She blushed, said it took courage to say it, and we could hang out sometime. I asked if she was single, she replied she is seeing someone but it isn't serious. I then gave her my number, which she took and said to me bye babe again. Haven't heard from her since, if she wasn't interested wouldn't she of told me straight up ? Feel like if she was keen she would of texted me. Thoughts people ? You should have asked her for 'HER' number.... Since you missed a bit of an opportunity this time, all you can do is wait to see if she contacts you, or wait until the next time she comes to the store. You've made your interest known to her, and if she has a mutual interest in you, she may contact you. It would have been best if you got her number....
Author patooks Posted January 30, 2017 Author Posted January 30, 2017 I guess I didn't as she said she was seeing someone. She knows I like her now. Ball is in her court. She knows where I work too. Hopefully something becomes of it, if not no loss, as I'd rather let her know then wonder every week and say nothing.
KBob Posted January 30, 2017 Posted January 30, 2017 I guess I didn't as she said she was seeing someone. She knows I like her now. Ball is in her court. She knows where I work too. Hopefully something becomes of it, if not no loss, as I'd rather let her know then wonder every week and say nothing. She said she was seeing someone else, but made it clear it wasn't serious. And she said she wanted to hang out with you. Don't overthink her situation, she was giving you an open door! Next time take her number. 1
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