Insecurity with guys in dating

[ElizabethIII]

Do you ever find that guys big themselves up over the littlest things and draw attention to things about themselves to make themselves look good? Things that dont matter? It makes me think that some of them are really insecure if they need to go on about it.

 

One of the guys I dated last summer (he is an on / off guy for me now) was always talking about his car for example. He loved his car, proud of his car. He had it 5 years and it was new. So proud to be able to afford it. Loved the brand. Talking about it as if it was a status symbol. It was a good brand, BMW. Big car. Looked nice. I thought it was a bit much to keep going on about it but boys and their toys!

 

I talked to my friend about it as I was looking at getting a car. I remembered the number plate as it was personalized and only a few digits long. My friend said a personalized plate is a really easy way to hide how old a car really is (in my country number plates give away the age of the car). My friend searched for his car for a laugh online and found it listed as over 12 years old and he bought it used 5 years ago. As my friend said his personalized plate his the age of his car and I can imagine it was deliberate.

 

He also always talks about status. When he drove me home one day he was like "So this is YOUR neck of the woods" "wow you grew up round here".....yeah....what of it? It is a fairly affluent area and I know where he grew up isnt exactly but so what. I dont care about stuff like that. He recently moved jobs to my area and was saying the difference in colleagues, they are so posh.

 

is it just me? If he constantly drawing attention to matters of class and status symbols is that an indication he is insecure?

[smackie9]

I don't think he is insecure, he's just wowed/impressed, and maybe wanting to stick his neck up a little straighter to try and look a little taller/puffier ......now what are you going to do about it?

[ElizabethIII]

I don't think he is insecure, he's just wowed/impressed, and maybe wanting to stick his neck up a little straighter to try and look a little taller/puffier ......now what are you going to do about it?

 

Probably nothing. Just let him say what he likes.

[Gaeta]

I probably was lucking but no I have never dated someone like that. I would have been turned off from our first conversation so noway I would have met them and continue meeting them.