Gloria25 Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 Yes that's the essence. A confident man will not leave you in doubt about where he stands if he's into you. An unconfident man might leave you in doubt even he totally digs you. He will express his interest relative to what he perceives yours is. He cares TOO much what you think and not enough about what he thinks. I think I came on a little too strong in the beginning with my gf but nothing fatal. She seems to get closer and then pull away periodically. But when she pulled away I did not chase. I gave her space. and I did not run away back to my playing ways. It was steady as she goes. She knew where I stood no matter where she was at the time. She's currently in one of those pulling back a bit phases she goes through but that's for another thread. I feel that was the case with recent dude ^^, he seemed to tailor his answers to what he "thought" I was looking for. He would't speak up and tell me what's up. And, then the "testing" - which now is having me to fight for my job and try to hold my head up high and enter that building - after all the humiliation and embarrassment I had to deal with. Oh yea, and he broke my heart. I still lean more towards his age and lack of maturity - but, still, I've sacrificed so much here and am not gonna lose my job over a guy who doesn't feel confident enough about me and how I feel for him. So, I have no choice but to leave him alone - the games he's playing are gonna leave me destitute. To the OP, again, be thankful this guy laid his cards out on the table for you...so, you don't have to "hope" for anything else and/or try to interpret a thing. 2
winny Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 I feel that was the case with recent dude ^^, he seemed to tailor his answers to what he "thought" I was looking for. He would't speak up and tell me what's up. And, then the "testing" - which now is having me to fight for my job and try to hold my head up high and enter that building - after all the humiliation and embarrassment I had to deal with. Oh yea, and he broke my heart. I am learning that too. I am actually avoiding questions where a guy asks me - What kind of guys you like What things in a guy attract you I used to give pretty detailed answers to such questions before but started to feel that they tailor themselves accordingly to get me to like them fast... I am actually telling guys now that - Don't worry about that I will find it out myself when I meet you whether you are my type or not 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 17, 2017 Posted January 17, 2017 I suppose my question is if there is potential for that to change? In my experience, when this is said there is not. But I don't usually receive this line accompanied by someone stressing that they do have feelings for me multiple times. He's probably sensing that that's what you want/need to hear and what will keep you on the hook. Don't try to change him. Find someone who's ready.
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