suckered Posted January 16, 2017 Posted January 16, 2017 I have realised today that I need to break up with my boyfriend of 5 months. I thought that he will take some of my concerns on board but he still seems to be displaying poor boundaries with his ex that wants him back (at best) or actually is working on getting back together (at worst). Either/or is irrelevant. There were few incidents that have happened within the past week to make me see that I can't put up with this any longer. We have taken annual leave, prepaid and booked a trip coming up in 5 days. I don't know if I should wait until after the trip to break up or do it now..
Mumbles Posted January 16, 2017 Posted January 16, 2017 Umm geez. Prolly need a bit more information. Sounds like you'd break up today if there wasn't a trip coming up. Either way, theres a big FU coming up if the BF is blindsided by this. I think the ethical thing to do would be to break now...probably. Who's paying for this? Going dutch? If you decide on now, and if the BF is really far along with his other interest, as you say he might be (is?) then he can take her on the trip. If you're paying, you can take a friend or whatever. If its dutch, well, you might be able to get some sort of partial refund .. maybe? What sort of holiday is it likely to be if you're both basically finished with each other? Reconciliatory? From the few words spoken here that doesn't seem likely ... is it?
kassy Posted January 16, 2017 Posted January 16, 2017 Depends, will you have fun on the trip? Is it a big deal the tripp? I mean is it like a bucket list trip or like something low key? If it's a big deal to you, and you paid for it I'd go on the trip then break up (as long as you can still enjoy his company). If you are iindifferent break up and get a refund or take a friend if they can get flights ( if needed. )
Author suckered Posted January 16, 2017 Author Posted January 16, 2017 It's a low key trip but something I have wanted to do and see for couple of years now. I just never found anyone that wanted to go with me. I live in a foreign country where I have few friends so it's not easy to just find someone. I will probably go and then break up after. We are going dutch but it's too late to get any refunds. I think that I have now emotionally checked out enough to be able to just enjoy the sights and not even care to argue about his ex or the relatinship.
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