Why he deactivates his online dating profile and creates a new one?

[Monkey234]

I met this guy through an OLD app about 3 months ago. Hit it off right away. We meet about once a week. Texting in between just to set up dates. I just try to kove with his pace. We also already have sex but didnt have a talk about exclusive yet. I rexently went on my 2 weeks vacation. I do not have any services overaeas so did not have any contact with him about 5 days. I noticed he recently deactivated the profile that he used to text me in the first place. However, I found his completely new profile on the same app. He once have minor updates to his profile when I went on my xmas and ny vacation but on his old profile. I really wanted to ask him but I decided no to. Any thoughts why he did that?

[Simple Logic]

I met this guy through an OLD app about 3 months ago. Hit it off right away. We meet about once a week. Texting in between just to set up dates. I just try to kove with his pace. We also already have sex but didnt have a talk about exclusive yet. I rexently went on my 2 weeks vacation. I do not have any services overaeas so did not have any contact with him about 5 days. I noticed he recently deactivated the profile that he used to text me in the first place. However, I found his completely new profile on the same app. He once have minor updates to his profile when I went on my xmas and ny vacation but on his old profile. I really wanted to ask him but I decided no to. Any thoughts why he did that?

 

He is wanting to look new and improved.

[Jj66]

He's a player looking for unicorns.

 

He already swiped the whole list. He has run through all his matches and no more people are left to swipe. He now wants to go back through the list to give the second string a chance...

[KatZee]

Trying to pull wool over your eyes. Deletes the old profile you knew him from so it looks like he's "off" the website. Meanwhile, makes a new one that he hoped would fly under the radar.

 

You're kinda being taken for a ride here. He gets to bang you while looking for new women, and you don't even make a peep.

 

Three months and only seeing him once a week? Nothing official? At three months, real relationships are involving two people who are basically at the "i love you" stage, not, "I only see you once a week to have sex."

[ashy555]

Yes unfortunately I wouldn't take this guy seriously. Especially if he is still on and updating his profile. Unfortunately he is still looking.

That is the problem with these apps. There is always someone better and shinier out there. They may think they have found a great girl, but think there may be someone BETTER. It happens all the time. Forget about him as he will end up hurting you more when he stops replying to you as he met someone else. He is probably not ready to settle down.

If he was really into you, He wouldn't have bothered even logging on, let alone updating his profile to find new suitors.

[winny]

If he is updating his profile at 3 months of dating you then he isn't much into you. And that could be due to various reasons. I would bring up the exclusivity talk and see how he reacts.

[winny]

That is the problem with these apps. There is always someone better and shinier out there. They may think they have found a great girl, but think there may be someone BETTER. It happens all the time.

 

Grass is greener on the other side....

[Jj66]

That is the problem with these apps. There is always someone better and shinier out there. They may think they have found a great girl, but think there may be someone BETTER. It happens all the time.

 

Exactly.

 

Unicorn hunting at work. With so many possible matches out there, the perfect one is bound to exist so they keep looking for The One.

 

The soul mate myth and the paradox of choice applied at Internet speed has resulted in a tragedy: the near death of meaningful relationships with quality people whose only serious flaws are they aren't "perfect."

[Miss Spider]

I have a friend who is in a monogamoua relationship with her bf still an app. ?? ?? And I know there are people who use it for an ego boost or to see if who is attracted to them. Not saying that's what's happening in this case or that it's a good thing, but it happens

 

Tinder is making women miserable according to new study

[GoreSP]

Maybe he saw you were still on there, thought you weren't into him? Not sure why he would create another profile but if you could find him on there, he could find you too...

[Gr8fuln2020]

I met this guy through an OLD app about 3 months ago. Hit it off right away. We meet about once a week. Texting in between just to set up dates. I just try to kove with his pace. We also already have sex but didnt have a talk about exclusive yet. I rexently went on my 2 weeks vacation. I do not have any services overaeas so did not have any contact with him about 5 days. I noticed he recently deactivated the profile that he used to text me in the first place. However, I found his completely new profile on the same app. He once have minor updates to his profile when I went on my xmas and ny vacation but on his old profile. I really wanted to ask him but I decided no to. Any thoughts why he did that?

 

He is a player and looking for other girls to sleep with and/or to move on to. Because he changed his profile, he doesn't want you to know he's still looking. Why else change your profile, but to continue looking, right? He probably thought by taking it down that you would think he had stopped playing the field.

 

Why go through the trouble of deleting your old one and then creating a new one??? He was trying to deceive you.

[Monkey234]

Maybe he saw you were still on there, thought you weren't into him? Not sure why he would create another profile but if you could find him on there, he could find you too...

 

When he updates his profile about a month ago, I decided to do the same by changing some pics. I am currently on my vacation overseas and was pretty shocked when he deleted and created a new one. Why doesnt he just update like last time. I wonder should I reach out to him during my vacation?

[kendahke]

always do a reverse image search on pictures on profiles so you can see exactly where else that picture shows up. Firefox has an add-on for google image search so that when you right click on the image, the buffer appears with the choice to use google image search. Chrome may have one, too, but I don't use Chrome.

[Gaeta]

I met this guy through an OLD app about 3 months ago. Hit it off right away. We meet about once a week. Texting in between just to set up dates. I just try to kove with his pace. We also already have sex but didnt have a talk about exclusive yet. I rexently went on my 2 weeks vacation. I do not have any services overaeas so did not have any contact with him about 5 days. I noticed he recently deactivated the profile that he used to text me in the first place. However, I found his completely new profile on the same app. He once have minor updates to his profile when I went on my xmas and ny vacation but on his old profile. I really wanted to ask him but I decided no to. Any thoughts why he did that?

 

Here is your mistake.

 

* You let 3 months go by without addressing exclusivity.

 

* You both remained 3 months online

 

* People that hit it off do not remain online they're too happy to get the hell out of there.

 

* You did not express clearly what you wanted out of this dating right from the start.

 

 

 

Now 3 months later without exclusivity he's not doing anything wrong. Right?

 

You need to change how you date. If you always are so slack with who you spend your time with, players will eat you alive.

[Redhead14]

When he updates his profile about a month ago, I decided to do the same by changing some pics. I am currently on my vacation overseas and was pretty shocked when he deleted and created a new one. Why doesnt he just update like last time. I wonder should I reach out to him during my vacation?

 

This guy had low interest in you anyway. Only once a week for 3 months? And, only texting to set up dates? No phone calls in between?

 

That being said, you said you were going at his pace? Were you initiating much during this time? A man needs some initiating from the woman at some point as a more definitive signal from her of her interest?

 

I don't think you can say you've been dating for 3 months really. With the dates being that spread out, you're still only at about 6 dates. Right?

 

And, was he aware of your schedule over the last 2 weeks and inability to reach out while overseas? If not, he may be wondering about whether or not you lost interest. So, he's keeping his options open.

 

I agree though, deleting and creating a new profile doesn't bode well. But, I'd say, go ahead and reach out just once now and see what happens. This has been a "disjointed" dating scenario, IMO.

[Monkey234]

This guy had low interest in you anyway. Only once a week for 3 months? And, only texting to set up dates? No phone calls in between?

 

That being said, you said you were going at his pace? Were you initiating much during this time? A man needs some initiating from the woman at some point as a more definitive signal from her of her interest?

 

I don't think you can say you've been dating for 3 months really. With the dates being that spread out, you're still only at about 6 dates. Right?

 

And, was he aware of your schedule over the last 2 weeks and inability to reach out while overseas? If not, he may be wondering about whether or not you lost interest. So, he's keeping his options open.

 

I agree though, deleting and creating a new profile doesn't bode well. But, I'd say, go ahead and reach out just once now and see what happens. This has been a "disjointed" dating scenario, IMO.

 

 

 

I told him about a month ago that I will ho overseas. I met him one night before my flight. The initiation for message is 1:1.

[Jj66]

Just going on the assumption that this is the Tinder app. I don't know how the others work.

 

You have to delete your account to go back through the list. He probably has swiped through the whole list already so it wasn't feeding the swiping addiction any more.

 

The up shot is that he is still looking but I would not assume he was trying to hide this from you. He had to know that his new account would show up as a potential match for you.

 

The only thing you can really take away from it is that in his mind, YOU are not The One.

[Monkey234]

Just going on the assumption that this is the Tinder app. I don't know how the others work.

 

You have to delete your account to go back through the list. He probably has swiped through the whole list already so it wasn't feeding the swiping addiction any more.

 

The up shot is that he is still looking but I would not assume he was trying to hide this from you. He had to know that his new account would show up as a potential match for you.

 

The only thing you can really take away from it is that in his mind, YOU are not The One.

 

 

I do not use tinder.

[Redhead14]

I told him about a month ago that I will ho overseas. I met him one night before my flight. The initiation for message is 1:1.

 

What about initiating dates? Were you doing any of that during this time? A woman should be initiating, planning and paying for some dates after about 4 dates.

 

I really don't think this guy was that interested though. No harm reaching out once now during your vacation . . .

 

I'm saying go ahead and reach out, but, frankly, I think I'd wait it out and see if he contacts you when you get back. And, if it takes a while, I'd simply tell him you've moved on. If he doesn't reach out at all, so be it. Let it go.

[Jj66]

Then my reasoning about why to create a new account probably doesn't apply. More likely deception at play.

 

Your mission is to figure out whom he is he trying to deceive. You or his main chick?

 

Or better yet, just move on. He's a player and you are a side chick at best.

[kendahke]

I do not use tinder.

 

The advice doesn't have to apply to tinder alone. Plenty of dating apps now use that swipe model.

 

For a myriad of reasons, people will create new profiles when they are looking for someone... they may have forgotten their password or forgot which email address they used and instead of researching what it is, they create a new profile;

 

they may have decided who they've met doesn't interest them enough so they're going back through the pool again and hoping they don't get noticed by someone they've passed over.

 

Whatever reason, the fact that in 3 months time, you two cannot work out how to see each other face to face more frequently is a problem--it demonstrates inertia and lack of interest on his part.

[Miss Peach]

There could be sinister reasons or there could be innocent ones. It would be more of an issue for me that at 3 months he hasn't made any claim to wanting to take you off the market. After 3 months I would break up with a guy over that citing we seem to want different things.

 

FWIW I did that on one of my OLD profiles. I just kept getting a bunch of guys I didn't want to talk to popping up every time I reactivated my account so I wanted to cut loose the baggage so to speak and start over.

 

What about initiating dates? Were you doing any of that during this time? A woman should be initiating, planning and paying for some dates after about 4 dates.

 

FWIW I don't initiate dates until a guy is my BF. I do response enthusiastically when he contacts me but I don't initiate. I haven't had any issues finding men who want to be my BF.

[winny]

We cannot tell you for sure why he did what he did.

It does sound weird though.

Just talk to him when back and ask him to be exclusive and his answer will resolve your problem.

[GoreSP]

When he updates his profile about a month ago, I decided to do the same by changing some pics. I am currently on my vacation overseas and was pretty shocked when he deleted and created a new one. Why doesnt he just update like last time. I wonder should I reach out to him during my vacation?

 

I have no ides why he deleted and created a new profile. Point is you are also still on the dating app.

[Gaeta]

Because when you do a search the new profiles appear first in line. He wanted to make sure he was going to get a lot of views.