Is it normal that I don't want to hear from my ex girlfriend on my birthday?

[xxgreen20]

I don't want to hear from my gf on my birthday

I don't want to hear from my gf on my birthday

I don't want to hear from my gf on my birthday

I don't want to hear from my gf on my birthday

I don't want to hear from my gf on my birthday

 

My gf didn't contact me on my birthday...

Ow, that hurts!

 

If you really didn't want her to contact you on your birthday, you would not be posting on here about it. Of course you want her to contact you on your birthday as that may mean she is thinking about you and maybe regretting her decision...

 

It is very early days, but you will get over it, in time..

My guess is that she won't contact you.

Sorry!

 

Why are you telling me how I feel? I was being very sincere when I said I don't want her to contact me. Because as everyone besides you can see, I am over her and hearing from her might open up a door to friendship that I want to stay closed.

[keiji]

Why are you telling me how I feel? I was being very sincere when I said I don't want her to contact me. Because as everyone besides you can see, I am over her and hearing from her might open up a door to friendship that I want to stay closed.

 

Then where is the problem? She hasn't written yet to begin with. You don't want to be friends with her, which means there's some resentment in there. Ignore her if she texts you. Why be polite to someone whose friendship you refuse? You post in a forum like this to ask about something you don't want to happen which hasn't even happened while you say you're over her?

 

I think you're not being honest to yourself.

Edited January 16, 2017 by keiji

[xxgreen20]

Then where is the problem? She hasn't written yet to begin with. You don't want to be friends with her, which means there's some resentment in there. Ignore her if she texts you. Why be polite to someone whose friendship you refuse? You post in a forum like this to ask about something you don't want to happen which hasn't even happened while you say you're over her?

 

I think you're not being honest to yourself.

 

There is no problem. My only goal here is a discussion, not to seek advice. I'm just asking people to share their opinions, because I've seen people that feel opposite the way I feel and are upset if their exes don't wish them a happy birthday.

[BC1980]

Why are you telling me how I feel? I was being very sincere when I said I don't want her to contact me. Because as everyone besides you can see, I am over her and hearing from her might open up a door to friendship that I want to stay closed.

 

If you don't want potential contact to open a door to friendship, just respond with "thanks." Or don't respond at all. Or block her. You don't have to consent to a friendship that she probably doesn't even want herself. I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. You are worried over something trivial that may not even happen. I guarantee you this girl does not care that much about you. She is probably focused on her current BF. If I had any of my exes contact me on my birthday, I would either respond shortly or not respond at all. Because I could care less at this point.

 

I don't know how you feel, but you do come off as someone who is trying to convince themselves they are over an ex but are not. Either way, you have strong feelings against her, which is not indifference. If you are this worried about a text that might not even happen, you are still too emotionally affected by her. Not saying you want her back, but you care too much.

[preraph]

It is normal AND healthy! I have had more than one relationship hit a hard bump in the road because they agreed to do something with their ex on their birthday or included them some way. Whether you have a girlfriend or not, this is something you need to break her of or she may still be trying to do it when you're married with kids. Just don't respond. Don't explain. It's your birthday, so any reasonable person would know you're busy and preoccupied. If she won't clear out, block her. She will cause rifts with future women you date.

[xxgreen20]

I'd say it means that you are over her, that's all. At the same time, I find the question itself to be odd.

 

The only reason I think she's not texting me is because she knows I don't want to be friends -- Really? I'd think that the reason she isn't texting you is: I finally told her politely to stop and I told her after the breakup to stop contacting me.

 

She has a brain and got the "message".

 

It sounds to me like you were using "no contact" as a tool to get her to chase you and it's not working. No contact is a tool for a person to move on from a relationship, not to get them back.

 

You don't have to read my post so literally. I meant the exact same thing that you said.