NeNa_PaRa_ViDa0420 Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 i just want to start off saying that i have moved on and i am done with my ex but now i have another problem well i was just getting online and i have a web page that has my pictures and all my info and everything on it on this web site called myspace and i was just getting online to check my messages and as i was going through everything i came across another ex who asked me to be friends with him so i approved it but i then he started talking to me again and then we ended up getting back together again so now i am with him and i need a little help. ok well the first time we stopped going out was because he stopped calling me and stopped writing me letters and at the time he had just moved in with his dad and step mom and he was starting to go to another school and everything but he was not aloud to go out anywhere for a while until his step mom and dad got use to him and his sister being there so i was able to see him for a while but then after a while he just stop calling and writing me. but the problem i have now is that he told me he changed from the time that i was last dating him and i thought he had as i was first talking to him but its turning out that he really did not change at all and he tells me that he still has alot of feelings for me and that he made the mistake of letting me out of his life the first time... he also told me the reason for that is because he heard that i was cheating on him from his ex best friend who hates my guts for no reason at all.... but he believed him and how do i know he wont do the same thing again??? he told that he would never do anything like that to me again but i dont know how to believe him now!!! i want to but i just dont know how??? PLEASE HELP!
Leah Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 So, sounds like you're pretty young and not alot of experience in these things. Chances are that he's telling you the truth, but, chances are he could be lying. Of course there's no way for you to know if he's going to do it again so give him one more chance (if you want to) it's your only alternative. There's an old saying: Fool me once, shame on you.... fool me twice, shame on me. Give him one more chance. Keep your eyes and ears open and if he does it again, just end the relationship and dont speak with him again. Key words... dont speak with him again... because he'll only try to trick you again. Good luck
Author NeNa_PaRa_ViDa0420 Posted July 20, 2005 Author Posted July 20, 2005 thank you soOo so much for your advice i will be sure to keep every word of it in mind you have been a great help!!! THANKS
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 20, 2005 Posted July 20, 2005 Yes, just to reinforce Leah's wise words, I'd say take it slowly. Give him time to show his true colours - good or bad. Limit the number of dates in a week to 3, make sure they're friendly and low pressure, don't do anything sexual until you are absolutely sure he is for real this time.
Author NeNa_PaRa_ViDa0420 Posted July 23, 2005 Author Posted July 23, 2005 right now he is on vacation visiting his mother in SC so i havent seen him much... right now we are just talking about what we are going to do when he comes back(movies, dinner, stuff like that) which isnt for another couple days to a week though so right now things are great i dont have any intensions on doing anything sexual right away as you said i am going to see if he is for real this time... but thats something im going to need help with also... "HOW DO I KNOW IF HE REALLY IS FOR REAL THIS TIME??"
ReluctantRomeo Posted July 25, 2005 Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by NeNa_PaRa_ViDa0420 "HOW DO I KNOW IF HE REALLY IS FOR REAL THIS TIME??" Not easy to tell. At least, not straight away - the only way to test durability is over time. So take time, build slowly with him.
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